I certainly don't want to trivialize anybody's suffering, but hear me out on this.
My parents are both crazy. My mom is severely bipolar, and my dad was so badly damaged by his dysfunctional parents that all he ever did, for the first 30 years of my life, was criticize me, every action and decision I took or made, and generally beat it into me how worthless I was.
I've been in terrible debt for almost 20 years, being a teenager with no medical insurance but very sick with Crohn's, I racked up bills I could not pay. My wages were garnished when I failed to appear at a few court hearings out of dozens as I was sued by hospitals and doctors. I've only recently gotten my finances under something resembling control, and it'll be 4 or 5 years before I'm out of this mess.
My oldest daughter has UC, possibly Crohn's, and it's refractory. The search for a drug regimen that works longer than 4 months or so is ongoing now for 11 years. My youngest was born 3 years ago with severe jaundice that was never properly treated and she suffered some sort of non-specific developmental delay from it, which is recently resolving in a dramatic way but was extremely disheartening and distressing for years.
I no longer have any contact with my mom. My maternal grandparents, who used to keep her in check, are dead. I have no contact with my paternal grandparents, aunts, or uncles, as they're all as cynical as my dad once was and are worthless for support. All they know how to do is tear me, and each other, down. My dad is only recently somewhat better after a decade or more of therapy.
My house is falling down. I bought my childhood home out of sentiment, from people who hadn't taken care of it. My plans to restore and repair it were derailed by debt and it'll be at least 5 years before I can even begin to address that.
My daughter has been hospitalized 5 times in the last 4 years. I've been hospitalized twice in that time.
Right now, we are around $60,000 in debt, not including our mortgage.
It's an understatement to say that I've got some things to stress about. I think I already tended towards depression, probably genetically inherited, to begin with. On top of the genetic component, add this situational mess.
I was barely getting any sleep. I was snapping at everybody. My life was a chore. My job was a torture. I was an intolerant and intolerable misanthrope.
Two things have made a dramatic change for me. Granted, it's only been a couple of weeks.
One was that I wrote a budget using a free online tool and made specific plans, with a timeline, to address our debt and the house's needed renovations. That took some of the anxiety away, but not much.
The second was that I took a close look at my nutrition after reading threads on here, and I focused in on Magnesium as an easy thing to fix. I try to stay hydrated, knowing that the body can't function without water. Water is the medium for just about every metabolic reaction in your entire body. Without water, your body doesn't work. Misery is a given if you don't stay properly hydrated. I always knew I felt better when I drank lots of water, but I was still pretty miserable.
Magnesium was a missing piece for me. Maybe it is for you. Maybe your depression/anxiety/stress has NOTHING to do with your nutrition, but you might be surprised just how much of your psychological health, let alone physical health, is tied to proper nutrition and a proper chemical balance in not only your brain, but your overall body chemistry.
I can't overstate the dramatic effect I've had from fixing just ONE nutritional shortcoming. I can't wait to see what happens if/when I can identify and correct any more.
Some people DEFINITELY need counseling, therapy, anti-depressants, etc, and it's great that those treatments exist for people who clearly have something exceptional going on that needs to be addressed.
I think nutrition, though, is really really really easy to overlook, and frankly I think it's sometimes voluntarily overlooked because taking a pill is just easier (yes, I'm taking a pill to address my deficiency, but that's different than just treating the symptoms, isn't it?)
Anyway, I hope I'm not coming off as preachy or holier than thou, here, but seriously, I addressed one tiny oversight in my daily nutrition and I can't believe the difference. It's something I think everybody should be aware of and take into consideration.