I get that as well, esp if I'm in a flare but yesterday I decided to treat myself to a spray tan (not much sun in Ireland) and I hadn't had a BM earlier in the day, then my mind started to run away with itself and all I could think of was I HAVE TO GO I HAVE TO GO and the spray was really cold which was making me tense up and shiver not a good look but I managed to fight my way out of that bad thought and it gave me such strength to know that for just once I got the upper hand on the fear.