Bf with crohns

[worriedsick]

bf with crohns

hello i am a very worried and distraught girlfriend. my boyfriend has crohns disease bad, and getting severely worse. in the past 5 months he has gone from ok to bad to worse to scary worse. almost every other day he is vomitting blood or pooping straight blood. it really scares me becasue now i am actually starting to research what it is all about. i am so scared because he cant keep any food down really, and he feels terrible all the time. i really love him and it kills me to see him go farther down into the hole of this disease.



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[DustyKat]

Hi worriedsick and :welcome:

I have to ask where are you located and what treatment he is receiving??? Sounds like he should in hospital now if he is vomiting and passing straight blood!

This is a great place for info and support so welcome aboard!

Take care,
Dusty

 

[worriedsick]

i live in ohio. well he wont go to the hospital. and about a year ago he was recieveing treatment, i believe he was getting some kind of intravenous treatment but he stopped because he said that it made him feel terrible. he has another appt monday, but untill then he will not go tot the hospital, no matter what. it breaks my heart and i dont know what to do. i get so scared and all i want to do is cry.

 

[DustyKat]

I don't know how you can make someone go to hospital if they don't want to go. I assume he understands that his condition is serious and if he continues to ignore it it may become critical. It is not my intention to scare you but he needs to take ownership of his health and understand that this disease is not going away by itself. Is he in denial? I guess the only bright side in this is he does have an appointment tomorrow. I gather he will be attending this and do you think he will he take the advice and treatment that is recommended?

I'm so sorry you find yourself in this situation and wish you all the very best with the appointment.

Take care,
Dusty

 

[cruxy]

Can't add more to what Dusty have said... It is pretty serious and as per what I understood, he should be admitted to the hospital asap to receive the required treatment and put an end to the current bleeding...

I wish him good luck, and your support to his case at this critical stage is very important...

 

[Dexky]

Hi worried, I'm going to ask how old you guys are, because if you are very young, you should go behind his back and tell his parents what's going on!! If you are more mature, then I'd say you are doing all you can do and seeking advice on this forum is a very positive step on your part. If he is vomiting blood still, you need to drag him to the ER now!!! I wish you both well!!

Also, you may want to make a detailed description of his symptom to take to his doctor on Monday. DustyKat has created a detailed list of what such a diary should include at this link...


http://www.crohnsforum.com/wiki/Diary-Inclusions

This will help you remember important things when talking to the doctor!!!!

 

[Crohn's 35]

Welcome worriedsick :bigwave: I am so sorry you have to be on here, and we can help you try to get him to listen to reason ...but you can lead a horse to water.. Some people do bleed from the anal area but it is certainly not normal to vomit blood. I really find it disturbing when some people don't go to the hospital, so many things could be happening. There is no magic pill a doctor can give him in a appt, tests and and IV of meds is what he probably needs. NO one likes to be in the hospital, I would talk to his parents if they dont already know. There is nothing you can do, he has to get to the hospital. :hang:

 

[Astra]

Hi worriedsick
and welcome

All I can say is, I'd be worried sick too!
Not sure how you're gonna do this hun, but he's gotta go to hospital! Vomiting blood? That is so not right! Talk to someone else, someone who can persuade him.
I wish you luck, and let us know how you get on
lotsa luv
Joan xxx

 

[Shannon]

Well all I can say about Crohn's and relationships is that I have a very faithful and wonderful boyfriend who made the whole thing easier for me when he assured me that not even this awful disease could chase him away or change anything. Take his lead, it will go far.

 

[ameslouise]

Wow, now I am worried sick too! I hope your BF comes to his senses and starts to take things seriously. It sounds like he is losing tons of blood - he may need a transfusion if it is really severe.

Ditto what Dusty said above about contacting family members to see if they can help.

Good luck - please keep us posted - Amy

 

[joe1984]

There is the slightly dishonost approach. Trick him somehow. You could also threaten to "hold out" on him if he doesnt go. Both of these methods have landed me in the ER and both times I was in serious trouble when I got there once a complete obstruction and once a perforation (sp)

 

[Liam]

Welcome to the forum, Worriedsick.

Vomiting blood definitely isn't right, and even if your BF doesn't want to go to hosptial, it's for the best if you could try and persuade him to go. They will probably be able to diagnose and pinpoint why he is vomiting blood and subsequently treat it with medication or whatever other route they might choose.

When I was first diagnosed, I was very much like your BF, I didn't want to go to the hosptial and didn't like seeing the consultant because it just brought home that I had Crohn's and I didn't like it one bit. But in the end I accepted it and embraced and I'm all the better for it.

Worriedsick, I hope you are able to talk him round and change his mind, it's for his benefit at the end of the day.


Good luck and all the best for the future,

Liam