Hey hingrum,
I feel with you that you still can't get Crohn's under control. I also struggled many years, although I had a few good years in between since being diagnosed in 1999. The last 15 months, however, were very good with virtually no symptoms.
Just a few things I know that really, really helped me:
A. Getting the anaemia under control by getting your long-term iron levels under control. i had the same issues with most iron tablets prescribed, they led to cramping and diarrhea. What really works for me are dissolvable 80mg iron tablets with vitamin c. Although they don't taste well and you need to really use a lot of water to dissolve one tab (I take 3 times as much as specified on the description). Additionally I take 2x80mg iron tablets called Tardyferron (a French brand) that are the only iron tabs that I can take without cramping problems - they have some kind of strange red coating and way of binding the iron in tab form.
If you just can't find tabs that work for you I suggest iron injections or iron infusions (both iv).
No more anaemia also means that your body generally fares better and you feel better.
B. Sport, if at all possible 3 times a week and at least an hour... Some type of workout where you sweat (running, rowing, fitness club etc.). I know it's hard to do if you are in a flare or have constant inflammation, but sport really helps with keeping me in remission.
C.vitamin therapy... There are several threads about that on this forum, specifically vit D and also B6, B12 etc. and also eliminating calcium, magnesium, zinc etc. deficiencies.
I think next to diet, meds and stress relief the above is the reason why I have been on my longest streak of remission right now. At the end I think it is the combination of a lot of different things that come together.
