Does anyone hate holidays as much as I do?

[misunderstood]

I am so tired of the many holidays where people get together to eat massive amounts of mashed potatoes, gravy, stuffing, sweet potatoes, rolls, and endless pies with ice cream with turkey or ham. Out of all of those, I can eat turkey or ham. On Easter, our people celebrating the resurrection of Jesus with ham? He was Jewish and they wouldn't sat around eating ham. And of course, on Easter, people have to add massive amounts of candy - can't eat that either.

I just am so withdrawn from social situations - especially since food is always the center. I am so glad every time a holiday has passed. This is combined with a lot of losses because many people died when I was young and I'm just so alone.

Thanks for an opportunity to vent. :crabby1:

 

[Cat-a-Tonic]

Oh yes, I hear you completely. Over-eating is one of my triggers, if I eat too much I will feel crappy and my GERD will go haywire too. My least-favorite holiday is Thanksgiving because that's the #1 holiday where you're supposed to stuff your face. I'm not a big fan of Easter either - I'm not religious and neither is most of my family, so it is pretty much all about the food and nothing more. And I'm bummed because I don't get to see my grandparents this Easter like I was planning on (my grandfather is just too sick right now - he just had an angioplasty a couple of days ago) so that sucks too.

I'm always withdrawn from social situations too, but that's more my personality than it is from food avoidance. I'm introverted and socially awkward to the point that I suspect that I might have Asperger's. So yeah, people and food tomorrow. Blah. At least the holidays only happen a few days out of the year!

 

[Jim (POPS)]

I happen to like ALL the hoidays. It is a time for me and my family to get together and visit eachother. They are the people that I love and its not thier fault that I have crohns and just because I can't eat most of what they are going to eat I will do as I always do each day and eat what I am able to and be very happy that I have the family and fiends that care about me and how I'm doing. I look at the brite side of things and feel blesed that I have what I have. Thats the truth.

Don't let crohns take away your hoildays just because you can't eat the food there. Hell, we can't eat the food they do every day and we don't hate every day do we?


Jim (Pops)

 

[rollinstone]

I know how you feel but I had an Easter egg this morning hehe, first taste of chocolate in over 6 months. Yum

 

[misunderstood]

Jim (POPS)

As a matter of fact, I do hate every other day, but thanks for making me feel worse and not feeling like it's OK to vent. I guess I won't come to this board to share my feelings any more than I will try to share them elsewhere.

 

[lizbeth]

Misunderstood please don't feel that way I can relate to what you say and you do need to be able to vent, internalizing will only make you feel worse Social occasions do remind us of Crohns, they can't not when you see everyone else tucking into foods that you can't have. I have an unhealthy relationship with food now, I'm diabetic too so have many restrictions and find it really difficult to food shop or decide what to make for tea. Sometimes I hate food because I see it in a way as poison? If I make the wrong choices food will make me very ill. Unfortunately I do make the wrong choices sometimes.

I do agree with Jimpops that holidays are times to be with our loved ones, but they are also times when the losses that we have had are even more evident, when seats at table aren't filled anymore.........

Please know that you are able to come here and vent......if you can't do it here then where can you? :ghug:

 

[Ihurt]

Misunderstood,

I dont think Jim meant what he said it a bad way. I think he was just trying to shed some of the positive things on the whole holiday issue( like being able to see your loved ones and such). Believe me, I also am not thrilled during the holidays either. All the hustle and bustle and having to entertain. One thing that I do, is that I do not hold holidays here at my house anymore. That way I am not as obligated to anything. If I am feeling up to it, then I will decide if I want to go and visit family. Also, I am already on a limited diet, have been for years, I am gluten free. I have actually gotten use to being around food I cannot eat and it does not bother me anymore. Hell, I even cook stuff I cannot eat for the rest of my family. I buy chocolates and all kinds of stuff for my husband( he loooves chocolate), but I cant eat it at all, it would kill me. If I do end up visiting, I will one) either eat something before I go so I am not hungry, or two) bring something I know I can eat. And like I said, If I am not feeling good which happens to be most of the time, I just do not attend, simple as that. If people cannot understand that( certain family members), too bad!

Please dont feel like you cannot come to this board to vent, it is a great place with a lot of great people who care.

Jim (POPS)

As a matter of fact, I do hate every other day, but thanks for making me feel worse and not feeling like it's OK to vent. I guess I won't come to this board to share my feelings any more than I will try to share them elsewhere.

 

[Ya noy]

Everyone in my family lives over 1,000 miles away and I really can't take the time off to travel, so I hate them too.

So we're going over to have dinner with some of our Hispanic neighbors, and I'll be bringing the Easter tamales.

 

[Jim (POPS)]

misunderstood, I'm sorry if you took my post the wrong way. I was just trying to bring light on the things that hoildays are really about to be, that being family and being thankful for what I DO have. Yes, I don't like that everyone eles eats things that I can't have but I try to look at the bright side of things and I'm happy that I can eat at all. There have been times that I could not eat after all. I guess what I wanted to say is, crohns can take away from my body but it will NEVER take away the things I love like my family, good times with them and I'll be damn if crohns will ever break me down to where thats all I think about. I belive that a possitive mind helps keep the crohns down a bit.
I hope that you are in good health this Easter and find some joy in this great holiday.

Again, I'm very sorry if I offended you in any way. That is not what I wanted to do.

Jim (Pops)

 

[Mistybear]

Misunderstood, I am sorry your feeling like that' sounds like your just bummed out somewhat, may be just a slump your in right now. Hopefully it will get better. Trust me when I say you are not alone feeling this way. We are all human and go thru different emotions! A great deal of my family has passed on also such is life I guess. Hope you get to feeling better!

 

[Amy2]

We aren't a religious family, so our holidays are mostly about the FOOD. Or, were.
Now, my husband has stomach issues and suffers all night if he eats very much or the wrong things, (most of his favorites) our adult daughter is on a very restrictive diet, as she has Crohn's and now our young son has it, too. And I've been vegan for about 13 years. It's not easy!
I'm hoping to find some nice, new recipes that we can all enjoy together once our youngest can eat again. They need to be SCD AND vegan. I found a roasted asparagus soup, that uses cashews for the "cream" but cashews come quite late in the SCD, so it will be a little while...

 

[UnXmas]

misunderstood - I'm very sorry to hear about your losses. It does make holidays difficult because there is so much nostalgia, and also the expectations that everyone should be happy.

I'm lucky as my family understands my issues with eating. I do join in, but I eat very small amounts - a little of everything. This year I helped cook the lunch yesterday, and had been out buying chocolate eggs for the kids in the family a couple of weeks ago, so I was involved with the food in ways that didn't hurt my digestive system too much.

 

[mwkwmn]

I think food in general scares a lot of us. We want to eat but we know what's going to happen if we do. Even eating in moderation it can hurt us. Life is a struggle and a fight but we are all strong and with the support of everyone here on this forum we can overcome these issues. Hang in there and good luck.