Fed up

[Daunting]

Sometimes Life can sure take you on a Rollercoaster.


I have been sick for a few years now and finally this last 3 months I have been playing around with lomotil and have been feeling not too too bad, started working fulltime 2 weeks ago and hoping to have a great xmas.

This is where it changes, I am an only child and have just found out that my mom has been diagnosed with ovarian cancer, what stage we do not know but they need to do chemo first before the surgery, that means the mass is huge... she will have to go for several treatments afterwards and still we don't know the prognosis.

Now as you all suspect my intestines are killing me, I have an appt with my speciaist on December 1 and hoping he can give me something to help while I deal with all this.
I am the only one she has in her life, she never re-married and I need to take care of her, I need to be there for her and not be sick myself.

I have never been completely diagnosed for crohn's yet only suspected, but I am hoping he can give me a round of entocort and lets hope it works at least while we go through surgery and chemo, I know there will be alot of traveling because the surgery and chemo is in another city and I need my strengh.

Sorry for venting a bit I'm just tired of life being so damn fustrating.

 

[Jennifer]

I'm sorry to hear that about your mom. Life usually throws a curve at everyone and its usually a crappy one. We had ours last Christmas with my grandpa's stroke and my mom and I have been his main caregivers ever since. Maybe that's why my remission has been teetering ever since. Stay strong and hang in there. You're both in for a rough road but here's hoping its a successful one for both of you.

 

[KWalker]

So sorry to hear about everything you two have to deal with. Life always seems to make things harder during an already difficult time. Stay positive and you guys will make it through everything and have a great christmas.

 

[tishbite]

once you have crohn's i notice life likes to throw more and more hardships at you. it's like life's way of testing how strong someone is or how much it will take to break you. that seems so pessimistic but lately life has been throwing curve balls at me as well and it is hard. bear through it and be stronger then the crohn's. i hope your sypmtoms are soon alleviated.

 

[archie]

Sorry to hear about your mum I hope she's get treatment very soon, my best friend had ovarian ca 14 years ago and she was treated with surgery and chemotherapy with great success. I hope your mum also has a good outcome, meanwhile take care of yourself

 

[monkey]

That sounds very similar to my current situation... Mum has had a few spells this year of just blacking out, resulting in a car accident and not knowing who she is, shes doing better now, BUT, i found myself working my normal job, plus running one of mums businesses and supporting my dad to run the other whilst she was ill... Now i find myself in deeeeeeep flare without my waders! Its tough, but try to care for mum without handing over your entire life as that will probably have you getting sick!
Its a tricky balance! Good luck, keep us posted!
xxx

 

[Daunting]

Thank you guys



The support is needed. I think I am having a harder time dealing with my mom having cancer than myself being sick.
I am an only child and she is all I have.

My only comfort is that I will try my best to be there for her through all this but unfortunately i will need to take care of myself as well becaue if I don't she will have no one.

I'm scared. And they don't want to tell us the stage of it yet until we see they gyno/oncologist or until the surgery.

Wish me best and thank you all for the support.

 

[kimmy86]

I wish you all the luck in the world I really do my mum is my rock my best friend and the person who is always there 4 me through this illness. I am trying to support my mum too while her brother, my uncle is battling stage 2 cancer he is in bristol while we live in liverpool so the travelling is tough. Juggling it is so hard and the frustration of wanting desperately to be well for that person is awful cos you dont know how you are going to feel from 1 day to the next.

Life is hard isnt it! good luck stay strong and hope u both have as lovely a christmas as you possibly can xxxx

 

[Sybil Vane]

I am so sorry you're going through this. Can you contact a cancer support group? Maybe they can give you tips on how to help your mom and yourself through this. I will be thinking of you both and wishing you all the best.

 

[Daunting]

update on mom and me

Today was a double whammy with doctors appts.

We went to another city 3 hours away so my mom could see the oncologist and so that I could see my specialist.

For mom she will have surgery in January to remove the abdominal mass, the gyn/oncologist does not want to give her chemo first because she is not 100% convinced that it is cancer, with all of the tests that have been taken none can tell her a 100% sure that it is ovarian cancer or not. So she wants to remove the mass an test the cells immediately to see whether or not it was cancer, here's crossing fingers.

As for me, my specialist finally believes it maybe crohns but the very mild type, too bad this mild type is still giving me diarrhea. He is sending me for a new test that we have around here called a CT enterology. We might not have it at my hospital where i live but he will find me a spot to have it. He states that because when he did my colonoscopy and pill cam nothing showed that he is optimistic that I am only having IBS symptoms from it and hopes that it will stay like that, and becuase of my age he said that it is a good possibility with all of his experience. i hope he is right.

Well just wanted to give you an update on mom and me.

Take care All

And best wishes to you and your family for the festive season.

 

[Terriernut]

Best wishes to you Daunting and to your mother. May it not be cancer for her, and may it NOT be crohn's for you.

I sincerely hope that 2012 brings you both good health.
:hug: