Feel like such a terrible mom

[Kaitlyn]

Today my son had football practice and why I went to wake him up this morning and he said his stomach hurt him and he didnt want to go. Now normally I would have believed him but a few times in the past two weeks he has used his stomach pain and Crohn's as an excuse to not go to practice. So I was hesitant to let him stay home also I was rushing because I had to get to work. So I made him get up and get ready to go I told him to tell his coach he didnt feel well and ask just to take an easy ( in hind sight I probley should have told his coach myself ). So about 30 minutes into practice my husband calls me to inform me that he had gotten really sick at practice and he had gone to get him. I feel so bad for not believing him it's just that lately he has been useing it as an excuse.

 

[my little penguin]

Hugs
We still send DS to practice knowing he has the option to sit and rest as much as he needs to between laps etc( he swims)
We talked it over with him and his doc so he knows not to push but also not to miss it entirely since just going to practice is a positive.
Maybe time to have a similar conversation.

 

[Johnnysmom]

Its so hard when its early and you have to get to work and make a decision in 5 minutes about whether they are okay to go or not. You made a call, don't beat yourself up over it. It's hard with a life long illness to know when to push it or when to ease up. Especially when you know he isn't contagious and he can sit out if he really starts feeling ill.

I agree with MLP that you discuss with him what signs he can look for to know when he is pushing himself too hard. Sometimes you will both get it wrong, but we all just do the best we can.

((((Hugs)))))momma, and I hope your boy is feeling better soon

 

[DustyKat]

Oh mum...:ghug:...isn't 20/20 vision in hindsight just the pits! I hope your lad is soon on top of things again, bless him. :heart:

Is there a reason why he doesn't want to go to practice?

Dusty. xxx

 

[ChampsMom]

Ditto to what Dusty said - hindsight!

Alas, I had a similar instance with my son shortly after he was diagnosed when he said he wasn't feeling well and I made him get up and go anyways... Alas, shortly after getting there he was throwing up I remember running to him and bending down (he was on his hands and knees) and asking, "Are you okay?!" and he just turned and looked at me with *that* look and said, "I told you I didn't feel well." (stab to the heart... no mother of the year... again...)

We had a heart to heart after that. He doesn't ever fake it. IF he says he doesn't feel well - I'm going to take it seriously and act accordingly. IF he doesn't want to do what he's suppose to do - then tell me. I just might let him out of it or I might say, go and sit on the bench (Alex plays ice hockey and baseball)... either way we're both honest with each other.

Given yesterday's events - it would be a great time for that conversation.

AND for the record - if you weren't a GREAT Mom - what happened yesterday wouldn't have bothered you. Sorry you had to go through it (too)...

Hope he has a GREAT season!

 

[Twiggy930]

You are not a bad mom! Or if you are so am I! I have been in exactly the same situation so many times and made exactly the same call. It is impossible to know the right answer all the time and we just have to try our best. Knowing when to push and when not to seems impossible at times. I don't have any suggestions I just wanted you to know that you have company in this rotten situation. :hang: