Ally, I think for me that a flare is when I start noticing blood in my stool, to me that shows there's inflammation going on. I may not have any other symptoms (i.e. 15+ trips to the toilet, D, mucus, tiredness, major stomach pains), and if this is the case, then it's a mild flare. When I'm in remission, I feel like I'm back to normal and can be me.