He's being an a***! BIG vent ahead

[Leebie3]

yes, I have spent the majority of my time the last few months being in either pain, hospital or researching.. just had a huge argument with DP. All because i asked why he got normal sausages instead of honey ones (my favourite) he said he was going to make curried sausages.. he could tell by the look on my face that I didn't like that idea although I kept my mouth shut.. so he flies off the handle so I fly off mine and it all ended badly. I yelled that he spent so much money on groveries when the rent hasn't even been paid and he yelled back that at least he got food so we can eat and that he got nachos because he knows I love them.. yes, but I can't eat them because my mouth is full of ulcers.. so he's stormed off and I'm upset and dammit I am ALLOWED to research what is wrong with me!! I NEED to know EVERYTHING about it I possibly can! ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! (and yes, I know I am not being particularly lovely either).

He's taken off in the car with the bubba (3yrs old) and the teenager has stormed off to his room saying it's better to just be in his room all the time and I am done, I'm spent. I just wanna curl up and then I get angry again and I have no idea how to feel but it does feel great to get it out!

 

[Jennifer]

Sounds like a lots going on. Its hard to not fly off the handle especially once one person does it. I can relate. Too many health, family, financial etc. issues! Too much stress! Glad you let it out online though. I use the forum to do that as well since everyone here seems like a second family. We wont judge you here. You go ahead and scream and yell all you want on here.

 

[Leebie3]

thanks crabby you brought tears to me eyes.. I do feel like I can vent here because he can't see/hear it either lol

I know it must be hard for him.. I'm feeling overwhelmed (which is weird because I was pretty sure of the diagnosis weeks ago) so I can only imagine what it's like for him and he is trying to do the right thing.. ie: cook meals etc.. ugh. I've made such a mess of things lately :-( this whole diagnosis and research (that's how I cope) has consumed me. It's been easy to do.. we have our own business, real estate photography, and he is on his computer editing til all hours.. so it's been easy to ignore everything and be on mine as well..

 

[tots]

Leebie-
Its so easy to feel overwhelmed. "We" dont look sick so its easy for people to think "Really"??

Yesterday I went to my GI for a follow up. Heard exactly what I was expecting- but somehow I sat in two bookstores sitting in the corner crying!! Classy right? It was also my 26th wedding aniv. And my husband was pissy at me!! It was just a very lonely day. So this forum is the best palce to
vent- we get it. We know how you feel. This can be a very emotional disease. Either that or right now I feel emotional still from yesterday.

Take an hour for yourself- I am not reccomending a book store right now!! But- some alone time is good for you to really rest- and pretend for that hour Crohns does not exist.

Lauren
:ghug:

 

[Leebie3]

awww tots! that sounds really rough :-( I declare we all stay away from bookshops! either that or we create our own just for sooking in? lol our new saying.. I'm just going to the bookshop ;-D

 

[Jessasha]

Hey Leebie 3, :hug:

I too have been consumed with the whole research thing.. Yes it is very easy to do..
My 6 year old has changed since my grumpy attitude and fatigue, it has really effected her grades this last term, not to mention her attitude.. We never used to be like this before the crohn's set in. Some how in all our mess we need to try and do a bit at a time or things can get out of balance.
"So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of it's own."
Like crabby said vent all you like here, we understand..
Hope you guys make ammends and work through the tough times together.
:hang::

 

[OnMyOwn]

Vent away Leebie! This disease can be a big source of stress and unfortunately all of the other stresses in our lives don't stop just because we have Crohn's

In the past year I've been diagnosed with Crohn's, lost a 14 year relationship and had two Crohn's related surgeries, not to mention the recovery time spent away from work. It is a nightmare, but I'm still here and I've decided that the key to living with this disease is LIVING with it! People in your life may not understand but you are not alone and anytime you want to vent we are here for you

 

[Leebie3]

(((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))) onmyown ('cept you aren't on your own anymore.. not with us!)

 

[xX_LittleMissValentine_Xx]

I know it is easy to be angry at our close ones when they are trying to help and get it wrong. I do it all the time to my parents when I'm not feeling well! And I feel bad because I know how much they do for me. As long as you don't forget that they are trying to help you, it makes you remember to be more grateful when they get it right.
The more the two of you learn about your illness the easier it will be for you to work together and support each other

 

[marjaw]

I feel for you but you're not alone, just come talk to us. Tots is absoultly right, we "don't look sick" and it's hard for loved ones to understand. I'm trying to get it through my husband's head that sex is not a top priority at this moment and he's got to be patient. A big part of it I think also comes from them being scared for us and not being able to "fix" things for us. Patience and understanding needed all around
(And by the way, the drugs seem to be working so I see a change in my priorities coming real soon)

 

[Leebie3]

thanks marjaw, I TOTALLY get what you're saying about sex.. far out. he wondered why i wouldn't even kiss him.. ummm honey. I only JUST showed you my entire mouth being full of ulcers! lol

 

[Jennifer]

Ya we're dealing with the sex thing too. He understands but to me it seems like he makes advances towards me more when I'm not feeling well than when I am. He said its cause of the way I lay down when I'm not feeling well. So from now I I think I'm gonna just throw the blanket over my head so I look like a pile of laundry.

 

[marjaw]

May steal your idea:ylol: