Hi, Dwy
I'm in the same boat as you, having recently been diagnosed with mild CD restricted, we think, to the colon. Reading many of these posts scares the pants off me.
When I was a nurse I often had to help people with new stomas to change/empty the bags, and I felt it was one of the only things in life that I couldn't bear to have to go through (and I worked mainly with people with gangrenous limbs which usually ended up amputated - easy in comparison, I thought!). I think in most cases though, if it comes to living with unbearable symptoms, or dying, then a stoma can be accepted as a means to a new life. One of my patients was so badly affected that even a stoma was impossible, she had no functioning gut left at all, and I know that she would have done anything to have had the chance of one if she could.
What I have learnt from reading everyone's experiences, is that although my CD is mild, and I have not got it into remission yet, I HAVE to take it seriously and look after myself if I want the best chance of avoiding surgery of any kind.
That's NOT to say that anyone who has had surgery could have done anything else to prevent it. For many it's inevitable no matter what you do. But I know I'm quite a lazy person, prone to complacency, and I realise now that I can't afford to be when it comes to this nasty disease. I have to count my lucky stars that it is mild, and do my best to keep it that way!