Needing some advice in caring for someone with crohns

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I married my wife 3 yrs ago last week. When we first met I knew she had crohns and was not scared off at all. She was in remission for the time we were dating, but a month after we got married her flare ups starting to return. She would be writhing in pain and i would feel so helpless not knowing what to do. After many many tests, and different diagnosis of what could be causing the flare up. We found out that she had food allergies.

So we cut out the food that causing issues. It helped for a little while but the issues returned again. Now she was diagnosed with a mutation in her lower intestines.

We have had asophogeal surgery as well, She has bad acid reflux that they said that this was causing the issues. NO luck.. food allergy testing.. helped a little. On top of this she has asthma as well. She says that she can deal with the pain and I know she can, but i see her in pain so much. I get to spend roughly 2 to 3 hours a day with her. I make her lunch in the morning when I get back from the gym.. Then a little at night after we get home from work. By 8 oclock she is asleep..

I have changed my diet as well to make it easier on her to find food to eat without having to think of food for me as well. I help her in anything she needs. Im at all of doctors appts. I just feel so helpless.

Is there anything else that i can do to help her ease the pain.. Any advice would be grateful..:sign0085:

 

[afidz]

The best things that you can do for her you are already doing. I have read in several different places here that a hot bath is really comforting (for me as well). Maybe get some relaxing bath salts? Here is a thread of someone in a similar situation, maybe you can tlak to him and get some advice? http://www.crohnsforum.com/showthread.php?t=42649

 

[Cross-stitch gal]

I'm sorry to hear that your wife is dealing with this pain I hope this thread that afidz will help you some. I can honestly say that I've been in your wife's place pain wise and know that it's not easy.

Just want to say also that you're doing a great job. Best thing to do is to stick up for her at the doctor's office when you know she needs it and be there with a comforting shoulder. Take care.

 

[Kip1]

I am sorry that your wife is going through all that pain & you also have my sympathy as I know how hard it is to feel so helpless when someone you love is in pain.
Just keep doing what you are doing now as just by being there & supporting her when she needs it is wonderful.
I hope you get the right answers regarding your wifes condition very soon so that she can get her pain under control.