Pain during sex

[Rachel]

I am in the midst of a flare. Sex seems to be painful lately. When my husband is inside me, I have lower abdominal pain. Certain positions are more painful than others. It helps to move to a different position. Also, afterward I usually get really bad cramps. Does anyone else experience this? It stinks, because we are newlyweds and my flare is not making for a fun sex life in the beginning of our marriage. I need some advice and encouragement.

 

[Jennifer]

How is your flare currently being treated?

Maybe you could try some other things to please your partner that aren't painful for you for starters (mouth, hands etc). It'd also be good to see your GYN and make sure there isn't some other underlying issue going on.

 

[RissaIUP2016]

I get cramping sometimes while having sex, but its not too painful, I can usually tolerate it. But there are sometimes when we have to stop. Thank goodness my boyfriend understand and doesnt wanna hurt me, but it still makes me feel bad. :/ I hope you can figure out whats wrong!

 

[lola99]

I have the same problem except I don't get the cramps and I swell up. Oddly enough its not but every once in a while. It has gotten to be less and less now that I'm on medication.

 

[LisaL]

Ugh...The thought of sex during a flare is almost impossible. I am sorry that you are dealing with this so early in your marriage. I agree with Crabby, that if you are feeling too much discomfort find other things to do to have each of you feel good that don't involve intercourse. The pressure may just be too much right now.
-Lisa

 

[BeccaH]

Hi

I have also experienced this problem. I saw a gyno a few years ago but nothing ever came of it. This was before disgnosis.

I get pain during, as though he is "hitting" something and I also get the cramps.

I'm afraid to say anything because some times it fine, well, better than fine and other times its painful. I don't know when it will be so how is he meant to? He is very understanding but I don't want to put him off. We've only bene married a few months and the sex is already starting to become non existant.