*rant*

[MrsG]

Heya,
im new to this site, so i hope i have put this in the right place!!!
*takes deep breath*

Well the other day i was at work and i get a call from my husbands work, saying he's doubled over in pain in the corner,the boss wanted to take him to A+E, I agreed, explained to my boss I needed to leave (shes knows about hubbys Crohns and is very supportive/understanding) and went to husbands work to pick him up and rush him up a+e
When I got to his work, I sat and waited in the staffroom and there was a group of people there chatting, i suddenly heard
"yeah he's only doing it to get out of work, he's always pulling this stunt"
and then I heard another say
"he's usless lazy c***"
I was gobsmacked to say the least!!
I just wanted to scream at all of them then one of them turned round and realised I was his wife.
they just stood there for a second staring at me, and all one of them said to me was,
"so what it like being married to a lazy f*** thats always skiving off work?"

At my husbands work, only his boss knows about his crohns, he never told his collegues, but I am still so angry what they said!

I never told my husband what they said because I dont want to make him feel worst by telling him what he said.

*takes deep breath* Right.. Rant over

 

[muppet]

Well, I'd have told them off, but if your husband wants to be private about his condition that's his business.

It seems counterproductive, though, for this reason and others. I understand that some people are very private and have a lot of pride and I respect that. At my job, everybody knows, and so I get less grief about being ill. But it's a double edged sword. I tend not to get big projects assigned to me for fear I'll go ill and delay things (which has never happened, I always keep on top of things even while out sick, but the perception is what matters.)

Sympathies. It's hard either way.

 

[rygon]

Yeh I have told everyone at my work. They are more understandable when im tired or ill. I havent had many days off, but they know that when i do phone in sick im not taking the p*ss, and will sort cover out straight away. You will still get a few who will moan no matter what but most will be a little more supportive

 

[chrisnsteph1022]

Ooh, I'd be livid. I can't believe they said that TO you! I'd have given them a piece of my mind. All my immediate coworkers know about my condition and don't give me grief. I've only missed one day of work in the 9 months I've been here due to Crohn's, though. And even then, I worked from home (I have a laptop).

 

[muppet]

I had the bad luck to become very ill my second year here (and my daughter around the same time). I missed something like 4 months in fits and starts in a single year of work, which has soured my reputation here considerably. If there was another job, I'd probably go.

 

[MrsG]

Well, I'd have told them off, but if your husband wants to be private about his condition that's his business.

It seems counterproductive, though, for this reason and others. I understand that some people are very private and have a lot of pride and I respect that. At my job, everybody knows, and so I get less grief about being ill. But it's a double edged sword. I tend not to get big projects assigned to me for fear I'll go ill and delay things (which has never happened, I always keep on top of things even while out sick, but the perception is what matters.)

Sympathies. It's hard either way.

Well at his last job he did tell them, but the same as you, they would avoid putting him on certain jobs because they felt he would be unreliable, or get taken ill and hold everything up, so he decided to not tell any co-workers, just boss, but once again, kind blew up again!
*sigh* theres no medium is there...

 

[25times]

I was offered a job starting in September. My GI told me I "shouuld" be in remission by then, so I didn't bother telling them about my illness and all the problems I'm having. They have wanted to meet up a few times this month, and I wasn't able to, because I was sick. I finally sent her an email on Wednesday, explaining what was going on. I told her, at this point, I don't think I'll be able to take the job in September. I'm still really sick and I just don't think I would be reliable right now. She was super understanding and said she's willing to wait until I'm better to hire me. I was so shocked.
I was denied employment twice this year due to having crohns. I'm a nanny, so it's very understandable that people don't want to hire me because I have a chronic illness. So this time, I decided not to tell them. She understood that, and wasn't upset. I'm glad I told her. Now, if/when I do start working for her, she will know why I'm calling in sick, or why I have so many doctors appointments. I would rather have my employers know, and take it easy on me, than have them in the dark, just wondering why I'm so "lazy" and "useless" and eventually end up getting fired or something.
But I also understand why your husband doesn't want his co-workers to know. If I worked at a bigger place, I would probably do the same. Until they started making comments like that. Then I would probably go off on them and start telling them, in great detail, about my condition. That's so unfair that they think he's just lazy and trying to get out of work. At least you, and his boss, know that's not true. I hope he's feeling better.