Sorry if this is a bit personal but I need advice.
My partner has crohns. We have been together nearly 7 years. He was diagnosed in 2008. He explained everything when we met and everything sex wise wasgreat for a few months. After this it just stopped and went down to about once every 3 months. After a while it picked up but has now died a death.
I have tried speaking to him but he is the most uncommunicative person I've ever met. He gets angry easily and blames it on the drugs.
He's now on infliximab& methotrexate. The last time we did anything remotely sexual was summer 2015. So yes, a year ago.
I try to talk to him and asked if it was lack of drive etc or what it was, obviously feeling it is me.
He said its not important and how can he have sex when he's ill.
He freely admitted to a friend ( so not me) that he feels ok in the morning but from lunchtime he feels terrible.
I really do try to understand but he's so angry & demanding. Add in the no intimacy for 12 months and I'm sure you can imagine how I feel.
Is this a normal length of time to go without? Literally nothing. If I try anything I'm told to get off him & pushed away. He has no idea how much this hurts.
I do sometimes feel that he'd rather be elsewhere and it's kind of a reason to stay away from me.
Advice please lovely lot xx
My partner has crohns. We have been together nearly 7 years. He was diagnosed in 2008. He explained everything when we met and everything sex wise wasgreat for a few months. After this it just stopped and went down to about once every 3 months. After a while it picked up but has now died a death.
I have tried speaking to him but he is the most uncommunicative person I've ever met. He gets angry easily and blames it on the drugs.
He's now on infliximab& methotrexate. The last time we did anything remotely sexual was summer 2015. So yes, a year ago.
I try to talk to him and asked if it was lack of drive etc or what it was, obviously feeling it is me.
He said its not important and how can he have sex when he's ill.
He freely admitted to a friend ( so not me) that he feels ok in the morning but from lunchtime he feels terrible.
I really do try to understand but he's so angry & demanding. Add in the no intimacy for 12 months and I'm sure you can imagine how I feel.
Is this a normal length of time to go without? Literally nothing. If I try anything I'm told to get off him & pushed away. He has no idea how much this hurts.
I do sometimes feel that he'd rather be elsewhere and it's kind of a reason to stay away from me.
Advice please lovely lot xx
