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For the last year me and the boyfriend have been completely screwed over by the NHS. He had an abscess last January, which was diagnosed as a stricture (after he'd been down for the op. He was admitted for having an abscess.)
After the ordeal of that it was smooth sailing. But (there will always be a but) he had crippling bowel pain between January and June, when he was readmitted for said pain. He was basically sat in hospital with no treatment until July 12th when he had a bowel resection, an abscess the size of a golf ball removed, and a perforated bowel repaired. We only found out about the perforation after he'd been discharged (August.) On July 21st he was rushed to theatre again for an emergency op because his bowel had came apart and everything was leaking into his body. The surgery wound was seeping with what can only be described as blood, pus, and fecal matter. Nice. But no, they still wanted to discharge him. It was only when he removed a dressing to get in the shower and this goop just fell onto the ground that the doctors did anything. He was fitted with an ileostomy and mucous fistula and then put into an induced coma to recover from the severe septicemia that he acquired. Thanks NHS.
Now, he may have another abscess, which by the time he recovers from the op it will be time to have his stoma reversed (a matter of which I am terrified about, nightly panic attacks will ensue.)
We're left thinking that he's never going to get any better, and this is what our life together will be like. We're both 18 but we feel like we're in our 50's, as we can't do things our friends or other couples our age do. The furthest from home we've been together is Redcar, about 10 minutes away from us by train. We have a very eventful relationship! Just not great events.
Does anyone else ever feel like this? We feel incredibly lonely.
After the ordeal of that it was smooth sailing. But (there will always be a but) he had crippling bowel pain between January and June, when he was readmitted for said pain. He was basically sat in hospital with no treatment until July 12th when he had a bowel resection, an abscess the size of a golf ball removed, and a perforated bowel repaired. We only found out about the perforation after he'd been discharged (August.) On July 21st he was rushed to theatre again for an emergency op because his bowel had came apart and everything was leaking into his body. The surgery wound was seeping with what can only be described as blood, pus, and fecal matter. Nice. But no, they still wanted to discharge him. It was only when he removed a dressing to get in the shower and this goop just fell onto the ground that the doctors did anything. He was fitted with an ileostomy and mucous fistula and then put into an induced coma to recover from the severe septicemia that he acquired. Thanks NHS.
Now, he may have another abscess, which by the time he recovers from the op it will be time to have his stoma reversed (a matter of which I am terrified about, nightly panic attacks will ensue.)
We're left thinking that he's never going to get any better, and this is what our life together will be like. We're both 18 but we feel like we're in our 50's, as we can't do things our friends or other couples our age do. The furthest from home we've been together is Redcar, about 10 minutes away from us by train. We have a very eventful relationship! Just not great events.
Does anyone else ever feel like this? We feel incredibly lonely.
