Am I Being Too Sensitive? Husband not supportive or understanding.

[tragichamlet]

I was diagnosed with Crohn's colitis last year during a colonoscopy. I am fortunate that my crohns does not affect me as much as others who have the disease. I occasionally have cramps that are mild and other than that, i just always have either diarrhea or soft stools. I don't even remember when I ever had a hard stool. I have 2-4 bowel movements a day. My husband just went to use the restroom and commented on how I splattered poop all over the toilet. He said it was gross and disgusting. I am so hurt by this because I can't help it. It is not like I do this on purpose. I don't mean to but when your going diarrhea three times every day, you sometimes can't help getting it on the toilet I feel so hurt now and can only think if he is complaining about that, how would he be if my crohns got so much worse? Am I being too sensitive? I'm sitting here crying and I told Him what he said was very hurtful considering my condition. Does he care? No.

 

[theOcean]

I'm sorry to hear that your husband is being insensitive... I don't think you're wrong for being upset with that. I would be, too. He's blaming you for symptoms of your illness that you can't help.

Does he understand Crohn's Colitis? Does he know how hard it can be to manage and deal with?

Also, if it's all right to ask, are you being treated with anything? Because then maybe the 3-4 loose bowel movements a day could stop if you were treated more effectively... I could maybe suggest things if you'd like.

 

[Hope345]

we all do and say things that are insensitive.... and that was one of them.
However, it does not mean he doesnt care about you.

without bringing up that particular situation, when you think it is time, you might want to tell him that you are somewhat scared about this and his support means so much to you. He can still be in love with you without liking to see poo.... However, what you have is very serious and he needs to realize that.

I really dont know anyone who has a mild case or has it easy with this.

You have our support and everyone here really understand what you are feeling and going through. I am a mother of a daughter with Crohns or U.C. She is very sensitive and I hope she someday finds someone who will care for her.

take care

 

[Axelfl3333]

It's never mild to person with it! Doctors should be banned from using that phrase

 

[Daisy123]

I was diagnosed with Crohn's colitis last year during a colonoscopy. I am fortunate that my crohns does not affect me as much as others who have the disease. I occasionally have cramps that are mild and other than that, i just always have either diarrhea or soft stools. I don't even remember when I ever had a hard stool. I have 2-4 bowel movements a day. My husband just went to use the restroom and commented on how I splattered poop all over the toilet. He said it was gross and disgusting. I am so hurt by this because I can't help it. It is not like I do this on purpose. I don't mean to but when your going diarrhea three times every day, you sometimes can't help getting it on the toilet I feel so hurt now and can only think if he is complaining about that, how would he be if my crohns got so much worse? Am I being too sensitive? I'm sitting here crying and I told Him what he said was very hurtful considering my condition. Does he care? No.

I go to the toilet 20 plus times a day, 2 to 4 seems normal to me. Being serious, I think it is frustration on your husband's part. I lived with my sister when I was younger and on one occasion when I had thrown up over the carpet, she shouted at me and told me to clean it up. I think however hard it is for us, it is harder for those that love us.