Am I overreacting?

[craiglaurasam]

I'm just starting to get over a really bad flare that lasted for about 3 months. In the last few weeks my wife offered to change her schedule so she can be off one weekday to help me out with my son so I can rest and she would work on Saturdays when my mom could come by.

I was talking to a friend on the phone last night and he asked how my wife was and I was telling him about her new-ish job and the better hours than retail sales and when I tell him she is only required to work 2 Saturdays a month she chimes in from across the room that she has to work every Saturday now.

I went upstairs and told her that I am getting better and she could go back to a regular schedule which made her feel a bit better but I am angry that she offered to do me a favor and threw it back in my face.

Am I right to be angry or am I overreacting? Thanks in advance.

 

[CLynn]

Is it possible that she just found out the every other Saturday, and being newish, was afraid to ask for what she intended too?

 

[craiglaurasam]

What she asked for was happily granted by her bosses because most people work the Saturdays begrudgingly. We knew about the requirement of 2 per month to begin with. She decided to take on all the Saturdays this month for me and now she wants the freedom of her weekends off at least every other weekend that is.

I can understand how she feels I just wish she would have talked to me about it instead of being angry and resentful about it.

 

[CLynn]

I do understand exactly what you are saying....maybe she was just feeling tired, or stressed, or overwhelmed at that moment.

 

[craiglaurasam]

That's true thank you for your perspective.

 

[CLynn]

I've had Crohn's since before my husband and I started dating, when we were 35 and I was pregnant with our 2nd child, he was diagnosed with type I diabetes. Between the two of us, we can either one of us have those moments, and then when we find out we hurt the others feelings, feel so bad. But we are human, stress takes over sometimes.

 

[craiglaurasam]

I definitely understand how stress can take over that is why I bit my tongue and talked about it instead of getting angry and having an argument about it.

I hope you and your husband are doing as well as possible you sound like you have an excellent relationship and a fine family.

 

[CLynn]

Yes, biting your tongue is just what I would have done, and glad that you talked about it later when you were both calmer. That's important, that you talk about it, but when you are calm. I get my feelings hurt easily, so I do understand why it bothered you, I do. Thanks for the wishes, I hope the same for you, glad to read that you are feeling better.