Anyone else single and doing this alone?

[hbonsky]

So I logged on today to actually go into the stoma forum to ask a question. My son had his ileostomy surgery 3 weeks ago. But as I'm getting ready to ask my question, his bag leaks, dog pees on the floor and all kinds of stuff happens around here lol. I couldn't help but think I cant be the only parent dealing with a child with Crohn's alone. Its a little difficult sometimes being the only one to take him to appointments, hospitals, pick up prescriptions, handle ostomy care and manage everything else. Anyway, just wondering if anyone on here is in the same position as me? I'm not complaining. I'm getting into a routine and I've gotten used to being his only parent and I do have other family and friends that are supportive.... just curious I guess. :ylol2:

 

[Supermom]

I know exactly how you feel! I am a single mom of two and my 13 year old has Crohn's. There have been days when I have wanted to "call it quits" but like the energizer bunny, I keep going and going and going...

But I know I have to be the number one advocate and supporter for my son. He has good days and bad, cant seem to get to the point of remission, tried several medications and is looking at surgery possibly in the future.

Hang in there! We got this...

 

[LJS]

:hug::hug::hug:Me too! Single mom of 2..son with crohns. Have had custody their entire lives, dad is mentally disabled (legally - had himself declared to be)...and in the midst of working, taking care of 2 kids, one with crohns and tryign to make it day to day, goign through another round of legal battles with the ex (he has filed crap for the last 10 years..drained me financially and doesn't give me a penny for the kids so its' doubly difficult, as I'm 100% responsible for the kids, in every way...) So yes, I know how you feel..right there with you!

 

[imaboveitall]

Me too, widowed in 2005 and no family other than my children.

 

[Devynnsmom]

Single mom here as well. I have four children, my oldest two have moved on their own. Devynn (IBD) and my son are still at home. It is hard being the only one, but honestly I don't know any other way. I have been divorced since I was pregnant with Devynn and have always done it on my own.

 

[CDJ]

Me too, I have been a single mum for 5 years. I had to deal with trying to get a diagnoises for Josh for months, to him being diagnoised all on my own. It is so hard being on my own with it at times, though like Devynns mum I don't know any other way.

Josh does see his dad at times, there is a 300 mile drive, but his dad shows little interest in his sons illness. Even when Josh was severely ill last year in hospital his dad didn't visit. I have no choice, I have to keep going. My problem is when my ex critises me for the choices I have to make for Josh sometimes, though refuses to be involved in anything. It's so easy to critise when you don't deal with it on a day to day basis.

Hugs to you hbonsky :ghug:

 

[jland25]

:hug:Another single mom here! I've always raised my son on my own and when he was diagnosed with autism at three, I thought I was overloaded. Now add Crohn's (diagnosed in March '14) and we've got quite the stressed-out mommy. I do have friends and family around, which helps a lot, but at the end of the day it's me and my guy. Thank god he's a sweetie and a fighter. That helps get me through. What's that quote? "When there's a why there's a how." Well, he's my why.

Power to the single moms and dads! We rock!

 

[DustyKat]

Power to the single moms and dads! We rock!

You surely do! Kudos to you all! :headbang::headbang::headbang:

Dusty. :heart:

 

[izzi'smom]

Single mom to two here as well...been separated since ds (4) was 3 months and just before Izzi's dx. While he takes them for dinner a few times a week, I can't trust him to medicate her properly or depend on him to manage her care or take her to appointments. Agreed...go single parents, you all rock!!