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Ok so i know this is controversial and i do not intend to upset anyone. I myself have been ill with Crohns since 2001 and have had my fair share of ups and downs.

I regard myself as a happy person and people always comment on how happy go luck i am. HOWEVER....i know that sometimes i slip into despair and start to feel very sorry for myself. I know i few people with Crohns and this seems to be a trait of Chronsies.

Are we annoying people? Do we complain too much?

what do you think
 
I've found it to be a trait of most Crohn's sufferers that we don't complain enough. We get used to suffering and take it as a normal way of being. Often people sit with me and complain about the usual trivial things (trivial to me) and I help them as best I can, without mentioning my own issues. I think we generally know that people who haven't suffered much will not be of any use to us, so we keep our mouths shut! Crohnies are the best.
 
I don't think so. The majority of people I know wouldn't even know I had it if I hadn't of told them. People are always saying that I cope really well with it, even though I sometimes disagree.

Yes, I have bad times emotionally though. I guess I'm good at hiding it or covering it up well. People were shocked when they found out I was seeing a counsellor last year. "But you always seem so happy" is what I usually hear.
 
I think most Crohnies have lot to complain about, but will usually spare others the gory details. Maybe not on here though. I think it's stressful to bottle up feelings when you are feeling poorly and low and it's great having forum friends who don't mind the venting and can empathise.
 
No, we are NOT annoying, other people are annoying by Gawd.

Very few of us are moaners, quite the contrary. We just 'get on with it!'. While other people, especially if they've heard about my surgery (NOT from me) give me this...oh poor you, or look at me in pity, or worse.

Theres NOTHING wrong with me FFS! I have a health problem, so? I go to work every day, I just keep going. Most crohnies do. And we dont ask for anything special at all, and we dont moan. (ok 95% of us dont)

Misty
 
I think anyone with a chronic illness is entitled to a moan now and then. Some healthy people do nothing but moan about the silliest, most trivial issues. Why not?
 
I have my moments which I complaign. I try to keep the details to a minimum and move on with life. I find when I do complaign the person just sits there and shuts down or looks at me like so...why are you telling me? I don't care. I'm finding it easier and easier to just push on without saying anything. Who will listen anyway? It's just a disease...not like I have cancer
 
I've been to my friends's wedding today
It was held in a hospice chapel with all her family present. She was wheeled in in a wheelchair with an oxygen mask and cylinder.
She's got less than a week to live and was sooooooooooooooooo brave, inspirational and a bloody fighter.
She has 2 girls aged 12 and 14
She is 34
I've made a promise to myself that I will think just for a second if the moan that I'm gonna moan about is worth it.
Then I'll think about Kerrie and her new husband and 2 girls
 
Astra101 said:
I've been to my friends's wedding today
It was held in a hospice chapel with all her family present. She was wheeled in in a wheelchair with an oxygen mask and cylinder.
She's got less than a week to live and was sooooooooooooooooo brave, inspirational and a bloody fighter.
She has 2 girls aged 12 and 14
She is 34
I've made a promise to myself that I will think just for a second if the moan that I'm gonna moan about is worth it.
Then I'll think about Kerrie and her new husband and 2 girls
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Too right Joan. I think those of us that have seen some serious suffering by others are far less likely to moan about ourselves. It puts things in perspective doesnt it. Thats why I dont moan, and I dont think I've ever seen you do it either.
Misty
 
I am with the school of thought that says you don't complain enough!

Sarah never complains about her CD and the deficits she has been left. When I push her for info if she off handedly mentions something she more often than not responds with..."Oh Mum, I just need to eat some concrete and harden the f*** up".

Matt is still fairly new to this but he doesn't complain either.

I ask how they feel, how they coping and I get the same response from both of them...I've got Crohns, you accept it and get on with things.

Over time I would have to say that I have found the ones with the most to complain about don't and those with least to complain about whinge the loudest and the longest.

Dusty. xxx
 
I think I complain a lot. I have been working on not doing it as much, that way my fiance knows that I mean I'm in considerable pain and not just complaining about little things.
 
I don't usually say much - why? its not like anyone can do anything about the amount of pain I have anyway. Doctors, my family and my co-workers just advise me to "learn to live with it" and " don't let it get you down". Only my BF tells me to rest when I am in pain.
I am dealing with the all over body aches and terrible fatigue - yet I don't "look" ill - so I don't get much support or understanding.
I find I am complaining more now as I am at the end of my rope emotionally, mentally and physically with the pain, aches and fatigue. I still get the feeing that people think I am faking the whole thing.
 
kllyeve said:
I don't usually say much - why? its not like anyone can do anything about the amount of pain I have anyway. Doctors, my family and my co-workers just advise me to "learn to live with it" and " don't let it get you down". Only my BF tells me to rest when I am in pain.
I am dealing with the all over body aches and terrible fatigue - yet I don't "look" ill - so I don't get much support or understanding.
I find I am complaining more now as I am at the end of my rope emotionally, mentally and physically with the pain, aches and fatigue. I still get the feeing that people think I am faking the whole thing.
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I get that feeling a lot. that people think I'm faking it. That's why I started to shut up about it. I had someone comment that there is "always something wring with me" and that really made me feel bad.
 
And if one more person tells me just go for a walk everyday and take up exercise I will scream -I'd love to be more physically fit - however, the thought of having more pain and fatigue on top of what I have just turns me off the whole thing
 
StarGirrrrl said:
I think anyone with a chronic illness is entitled to a moan now and then. Some healthy people do nothing but moan about the silliest, most trivial issues. Why not?
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I agree , kinda gettin sick of a certain friend moaning about how horrible her life is everytime she get's a spot or she's put on a couple of pounds , try having ya face double in size over 6mths due to steroids , or missing your birthday coz your in hospital , think we have the right to a moan every now and then :)
 
I dont moan much (i think) but i find myself getting bored of talking about it all the time, I know ppl mean the best when the ask me how i am (and im really grateful for it) but it does get monotomus
 
I try to always remember that no matter how bad I think I have it...someone always has it worse. That's why Joan's post is so poignant. There will always be someone who is worse off, or on the contrary, someone who is prettier, richer, or more successful too. So I've tried to just enjoy every moment without comparing myself to others. I don't want to be a moaner and I don't want anyone's pity. I just want to live, love, and be happy.

And to be brutally honest...yes, I have found some Crohnies (and others in general) to be annoying. What bothers me is the person that thinks they were the first person to ever be diagnosed with it, or that they have the worst symptoms ever and no one else could understand their pain. But I'm sure they don't mean to be and I try to remember they are learning to emotionally deal with a life long disease. It isn't easy as we can all attest to.
 
We aren't any more annoying than anyone else out there. We're troopers is what we are.

My mom had to cancel hanging out with me last week because she had diarrhea during the night and it kept her up so she was tired and still dealing with diarrhea the next day. I was a little bummed but I understood cause I've been there. Then I realized how many times that's happened to me yet I still do what I had planned to do. I don't cancel on people or events just because I'm tired and/or have diarrhea. I've learned that this is part of my life and if I want to continue living then I'm gonna have to get out there and do it. Sometimes I can't do it though and that's ok too.
 
I complain sometimes, but very rarely. I complain on here. But my fiancee and mother have to guess when I am not feeling it. My fiance the other day told me I am handling it so well and honestly I sometimes lose it at night after my girls are in bed and I'm in a warm bath, I just bawl and bawl. I would say I complain most to my mother somedays. But I don't want to make my fiance worry. Which I've caught him in the middle of the night hidding in the bathroom talking to his mother about how he never knows how much I really am hurt untill I've been hurting for a long while... Poor thing. I love him so. i just don't want him to worry.
 
I would have to agree with what was said by the former posts. I think your worry may be attached to the support that we give and receive on a forum. It is okay to complain here. I almost never complain to Scott, and I pretty much leave my family and other friends out of it. We deal with a lot of pain and horrible side effects, so we do need a release. This support forum is a wonderful way to connect and commiserate with others suffering from CD.
 
Very True, Andigirl, this is an excellent forum for commiserating with others who understand especially when its hard to find a place for that in "real" life.
 
My friend never moaned about her illness. She got the all clear from breast cancer and was so optimistic, so excited, so determined. She was an inspiration to everyone at work. but then it took a U turn, and she went rapidly downhill, and still she never complained.
After her wedding all her work mates went to the pub to raise a glass to her.
I said ' Let Kerrie be the end of everyone's moaning about stuff in work, let her be our guiding light, and let's put everything into perspective, no more complaining, we've got so much to be thankful for'

I do moan, Joan the Moan! But not on here tho, but I moan about work, which has got to stop, now. I can moan about being ill, that's gonna stop too, now.
I have Crohn's, it's manageable, treatable and the day is what I make of it.
I haven't got Cancer, Kerrie has.
 
ThanksP said:
And to be brutally honest...yes, I have found some Crohnies (and others in general) to be annoying. What bothers me is the person that thinks they were the first person to ever be diagnosed with it, or that they have the worst symptoms ever and no one else could understand their pain. But I'm sure they don't mean to be and I try to remember they are learning to emotionally deal with a life long disease. It isn't easy as we can all attest to.
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I sometimes feel like I fall into the annoyin crohnies group lol. I don't mean to be though and whenever I start feeling like I'm being annoying I try to pull myself back

I like to post whatever is going on in my blog. That way people know without me having to tell them. It's more for me anyway a place which I can moan and groan get it out of my system and press on with my day. I tell my fiance if it hurts or if I'm ok and I'll let my family kno what's going on if they ask but other than that I try t keep fairly quiet about it.
 
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I Love Lamp said:
Ok so i know this is controversial and i do not intend to upset anyone. I myself have been ill with Crohns since 2001 and have had my fair share of ups and downs.

I regard myself as a happy person and people always comment on how happy go luck i am. HOWEVER....i know that sometimes i slip into despair and start to feel very sorry for myself. I know i few people with Crohns and this seems to be a trait of Chronsies.

Are we annoying people? Do we complain too much?

what do you think
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Love Anchorman :rof: No we don't complain too much. I think people get tired of hearing that we don't feel well so we just don't say anything. For me, I am tired of pretending that I am not sick. :redface:
 
kllyeve said:
I don't usually say much - why? its not like anyone can do anything about the amount of pain I have anyway. Doctors, my family and my co-workers just advise me to "learn to live with it" and " don't let it get you down". Only my BF tells me to rest when I am in pain.
I am dealing with the all over body aches and terrible fatigue - yet I don't "look" ill - so I don't get much support or understanding.
I find I am complaining more now as I am at the end of my rope emotionally, mentally and physically with the pain, aches and fatigue. I still get the feeing that people think I am faking the whole thing.
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Thank you SO SO much for saying this- I always get the JUST LEARN TO LIVE WITH IT from people. And when my friends do ask how I am feeling, I always say, "OK" but I am not OK. I am never OK. And I know that people can see the tears in my eyes so I just walk away. I am tired of acting like I am not sick and that it doesn't bother me. It does- A LOT. What good does it do to complain about it. I feel like nobody else understands. It is SO good to hear somebody else say what I am feeling inside. :hug:
 
ShanBanana said:
Love Anchorman :rof: No we don't complain too much. I think people get tired of hearing that we don't feel well so we just don't say anything. For me, I am tired of pretending that I am not sick. :redface:
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I think everyone with Crohn's gets to this point. I think the real question is- Why can't people just be there for you, as a friend or loved one? That's what loved ones do for each other-just listen and offer support. SO WHAT if we complain-how many of us have friends that complain all the time that they can't find the right guy/job/house-whatever. Sometimes it seems like a tiny problem compared to what we're experiencing at the time, but we listen and try to be sympathetic.

I think all any of of us are asking for is that they do the same for us. All of us need to complain from time to time-to feel heard and understood. It's good for the soul!:wink:
 
I think there's a difference between complaining and talking about how our disease affects our lives, and that's really what most of us do on here - just talk about the day to day difficulties of living life with a chronic disease.

And yeah, if we don't make it to the bathroom quite in time on occassion, I think everyone will cut us some slack for complaining....
 
Another thing that came to my mind is pain and anxiety. People experience both of these in different ways. Sometimes those that may come off as being whiny or annoying, are just truly frightened or overwhelmed by the disease and its symptoms. They aren't sure how to cope, may not have a strong support system, or may not even have supportive or adequate medical care/providers. When people complain, I have learned to try to find the root of the problem. Sometimes they just want a listening ear, but other times they are unable to find the help they need. I think annoying may be a little harsh when referring to anyone who is suffering from a disease or disorder. I have heard several people with Rheumatoid Arthritis complaining about their condition. I can not personally relate, but I can understand their frustration with chronic pain. I can't imagine what it would feel like to hurt when you use your hands, feet, and other joints on a regular basis. Just another perspective on things.
 
This is a support forum. Some members may have no other place to seek comfort or support. On any support forum, you will read about plenty of complaints and venting sessions. Isn't that why support forums were created in the first place. I believe that we are real life people; and therefore should be treated as such.
 
Yeah, I dont really complain about my illness...I think i've lived with it for so long its just a part of me now and I don't know any different!
Funnily enough, I havent met a lot of people with crohns, but when I have mentioned to people that I have it, everyone seems to know someone with it....which makes me think, we mustnt be a bunch of whingers at all!
 
I'm glad you guys explained IRL!! I've seen David mention IRL's and I thought he was talking about the internet!!
 
Haven't got a bloody clue wot IRL is!

I wanted to say that I agree with Amy and Andi, that there is a difference between moaning and complaining, and support. and that we're here to support one another in our day to day difficulties, yeah?
I find that it's other non Crohnies that 'just don't get it'
So I just don't talk about it anymore, or complain, it's really not worth it.
Therefore I'm putting a wall up, and that there won't be any backlash when some dickhead tells me 'You look fine to me!'
I'm a smiling assassin at the mo!
I only talk to loved ones, they're the ones who matter.

Can you tell I've had a shit day? ha ha ha
Permission to moan?
 
No, I have people that call me their friend and they find out I have CD after two years of knowing me and they are like what??? You have a disease? So, no I don't think Crohnies are annoying in general.

Do you think poor people are annoying I Love Lamp? All those poor folks always complaining about not having any money... geez, get some money you poor people!

Oh, and don't even get me started on the poor people that also have Crohn's Disease, man they are the worst!
 
While in recovery from my surgery I discovered I obviously do not complain enough. I used very little morphine because, to me, the pain was simply not that bad. It was nothing compared to the pain I had in my gut before the surgery. The nurses complained that I was not using enough pain medicine! My wife also thought I should be using more pain medicine. Quite honestly, to me, the surgical pain was NOTHING compared to the pain I had learned to live with because the docs kept mis-diagnosing me. My wife did not realize how much pain I was really in because I had not complained enough to her either.
 
JMO, but Crohnies don't complain enough because if they complain they will also have to do some explaining, which is embarassing. I know I don't complain to my doc because I'm simply afraid of two things. 1. More Pred. 2. More surgery.
I don't complain to my family and friends because I feel like they view me as "sick all the time" already and I don't want to explain my explosive D to everyone.

I complain here though, because we all understand each other and not every little detail needs to be explained. It's safe here.
 
Thanks Jeanette!
Gawjus photo!
It's lovely to see you!

@Farm, I never complain to the doc, just cos of your reasons!
 
I dont really feel that we complain too much. I am asked all the time by all of my family members how I am doing and I tell them. Anymore when I am in pain I just go to my room and sleep, and tell my parents I want to be left alone so I can sleep. I really dont complain about it, I just talk about it if I am asked. I feel that my complaining in general is so much less because I dont complain about trivial crap that most people in my high school complain about everyday. If Chronies actually complain more and I dont realize it, at least we have more of a reason to complain than normal, healthy people.
 
Exactly tflock...when I complain...everyone stop what you're doing and take me to the ER. If we moaned all the time no one would listen, and take us seriously when we really needed help.

But this forum....yes we can have a moan on here. But to do it to our families and friends, just doesnt seem that we do that much as a group of people.
Misty
 
''when I complain...everyone stop what you're doing and take me to the ER. If we moaned all the time no one would listen, and take us seriously when we really needed help.''

Yes! The boy who cried Wolf!
 
No.

I think if anything, a lot of us don't complain enough. It's not healthy to try to "be strong" and never let out your frustration or vent about what you're going through. I think a lot of us on here are the personality type who feel like we have to take care of other people, put them first, etc. and I think not letting others know how much you're going through is a part of that.

This place is my outlet so that I can get my venting out here and not let it bleed too much into my "real" life.
 
If I'm asked how I am doing, depending on who is asking, I will tell them.

This forum is meant for us to vent, to people who understand what we are venting about!

IRL we probably do not moan and complain enough when we really should a bit more. But I don't want to be seen as always being sick, or whiner.
 
I've been pretty crook for 6 months, colonoscopy last week showed severe inflammation chron's colitis....no one has really had any idea that I have been ill until the last 3 or 4 weeks and only then because i've lost lots of weight and look like shite! I find there's no point moaning to people who dont have any idea of the problem, hence the value of a forum such as this
 
Like the saying goes if it doesn't kill you it only makes you stronger, and chron's has opened my eye's to that big time. I dare anyone to walk a mile in our shoes.
 
denisk said:
Like the saying goes if it doesn't kill you it only makes you stronger, and chron's has opened my eye's to that big time. I dare anyone to walk a mile in our shoes.
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I agree with that, it has definitely adjusted how I think about things, and what was once a scary thing is no longer scary to me. I also have found that a Crohn's diagnosis is not some sort of death sentence, I have thrived in my life post diagnosis.
 
AndiGirl said:
This is a support forum. Some members may have no other place to seek comfort or support. On any support forum, you will read about plenty of complaints and venting sessions. Isn't that why support forums were created in the first place. I believe that we are real life people; and therefore should be treated as such.
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Well said AndiGirl.
I honestly don't complain to much outside a support forum or group. I just feel more comfortable talking to people that are in the know. Not someone that will tell you "Oh yeah, I had the runs for a day last week so I understand." I know they mean well but they have no idea it's completely different. Other then that reason I keep my complaints to myself. I don't like showing weakness or wanting people have a pitty party for me. When I am home sometimes my weakness shows and my great wife sadly gets to see what it's like first hand. But all in all I am just a stubborn Sicilian that doesn't let anything get me to down or keep me away from what I want to do.
 
I do see irony in the Pizza Hut ad at the bottom of my screen right now. On Crohn's forum. Hmmm...
 
I don't complain to people much anymore...I'm a stay at home mom, and I only occasionally see old friends and co-workers when I'm out and about. They know I have Crohn's but most don't know what it is, they just know I don't eat normal foods. When they ask me how I'm doing I just say "fine". It's easier.

I "complain" on here, because I can talk to people who understand, have been there before, and can offer some sympathy. I think people who don't have Crohn's try to be understanding and supportive, but when you don't live with it constantly it can be easy to peg someone as a whiner or complainer. We all know firsthand how painful and embarrassing this disease can be, it helps to talk to others who know what you're going through.

I don't care if some people find me annoying. Sometimes letting it out makes me feel better. I think people who have no sensitivity to others living in any type of chronic pain are annoying!!

LOL Doug, that's funny! I've had a Disney ad down there for 4 days!
 
I think I agree with everyone that's said people with crohn's don't complain enough! Although I think 'complain' is the wrong word. And I certainly don't find it annoying when people are having a hard time and need to offload, or talk about it! If someone is finding you annoying thats THEIR problem.

My sister doesnt ask for help when she needs it. She tries to be 'strong' and get on with things on her own. From what I can see this has only made her condition worse. I think she holds onto a lot of stress, because she doesnt want to 'moan'. And of course stress only aggravates things.

This idea that because someone else might be suffering more than you, that means you won't complain, seems a bit of a weird logic. There'll always be someone worse off, but that doesnt mean your pain or suffering isnt valid. If we go around denying our feelings, doesnt that just make ANYONE ill? Let alone if you already have a condition such as crohns? Obviously, 'complaining' all the time isnt going to help either, but there's a balance that needs to be found.

lilchan xx
 
I guess ive been called annoying by my immediate family. When i was pretty ill over the xmas period, although I still went to a few parties with them, I was quite quiet. Was told by my mum that if i wasnt going to join in and be happy then there wasnt much point in being there .. nice :p
 
Whenever I feel like complaining or feeling sorry for myself, I just think about my dad. He's had Crohn's disease his entire adult life, but wasn't diagnosed until he was 42. For most of my early childhood, my dad was ALWAYS sick, and it seemed like no one knew why. He was also an airline pilot, and would go to work every week (be gone 3-4 days at a time) because he had a wife and two little girls to provide for. He just sucked it up and did what he had to do. When I feel crummy, I figure if my dad could go and fly airplanes during a flare-up, I can certainly drag my sorry butt to work and sit in front of a computer!

It wasn't until I was diagnosed with Crohn's myself a little over three years ago that I really understood what my dad dealt with. We both have a pretty high tolerance to pain, but he admitted there were times on his way to or from the airport that he'd have to pull the car over and just sit and breathe because the pain was so bad. He absolutely gets what I'm going through, and even though when I was little I had no idea how sick he was, I get it now. Plus, we have great conversations now about poop! How many people can say that about their dad?
 
^^^ me too, I tell my dad everything. He has IBS but a very severe IBS that I sometimes think is worse than chrons symptoms. He has had it his whole life. He had to drop out of school but He went on with life and went to work with pain and D. I LOVE my dad.

I have only been dealing with this a very short time and let me tell ya...I am the one to complain. I have always had a phobia of illness since I watched two of my aunts and a cousin pass away from cancer. I watched them be brave and they never complained. I on the other hand get scared when I have a rash. So this has been overwhelming for me but I have noticed that as the days go by I gain more strength and more courage. Today I was talking to my BF on the phone and had the urge to vomit- while having some muscle spasms and I just told him I have to puke have a good day and I love you. A month ago I would have cried and puked cried some more and told him to come over and not go to work. I know such a Drama Queen lol but I am learning and I am noticing that when others ask how I am I tell them oh I feel some joint pain when in reality my joints are on fire! I try to complain less and less everyday but tonight I am having a pity party with my sis! I think all of you are wonderful and truly are amazing not because you deal with pain everyday and continue being wonderful but I can tell that regardless of illness all of your are very special, kind, and compassionate individuals.
 
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I guess ive been called annoying by my immediate family. When i was pretty ill over the xmas period, although I still went to a few parties with them, I was quite quiet. Was told by my mum that if i wasnt going to join in and be happy then there wasnt much point in being there .. nice :p
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I have the same experience with my in-laws; sorry to say but that's kinda harsh of Mom! Sending you a hug!:hug:
 
Kerrie died today

can't say anymore than that really, but things kinda like get put into perspective somehow, I've had a horrible week.
Jess nearly losing her life, Kerrie dying and Andrea having a really bad time in ICU has affected me, I feel a lil blue.
I've got Crohn's, it hasn't got me.
Cancer got Kerrie
Peritonitis nearly got my baby

By all means be annoying, moan and complain, maybe we DON'T do it enough.
I've certainly kicked up a storm over my illness enough times!
But maybe sometimes, just stop and think for a moment.
 
Aw Joanie, so sorry for the loss of your friend :-( What a week you have had, yet you've still been here for us, supporting Welshy and keeping us updated.
Love ya to bits xxx
 
Sorry for your loss Joan! What a horrible week you've had! I hope Jess's recovery and a rapid turn for the better for Welshy will help alleviate your loss!
 
Joanie I am so sorry about your friend : ( I wish I was there to give you a hug in person. How is your daughter doing? You are very strong and I hope that things turn around for you quickly. Your definitely right that there are many things that we can look around us and it will give us a new perspective. I am sending you a big bear hug all the way from Reno Nevada!
 
Hey Thank you my friends!

Jess is doing ok, needs to rest and take her meds, she'll be ok.
I will miss Kerrie, a lovely loyal workmate, one of the good guys, but she's at rest now and pain free.
Yeah, I've had a horrible week, last week
Now it's the start of another horrible week, so permission to moan?
I've had another letter from the boss about my absence levels and she wants to see me informally on Thursday.
I would like to know what the F*** she would've done if her daughter was hours from death? Dump her in A&E and go off to work?
Like F*** she would!
I've phoned the Union, I've had enough, I'm being harrassed and it's time I challenged the ignorant bastard!
Lotsa luv
Joan the Moan
xxxxx
 
Oh my Joan, I'm so sorry I have missed this till now...:(

What an awful time for you hun. To have all the worry of Jess and now losing a best mate. My heart goes out to you...:hug::hug::hug:

As to your boss, well, I hope the union takes her to task! It is so very easy to sit in your ivory tower and lord it over everyone when you don't face the daily challenges of chronic illness, sick children and dying friends. I hope she wakes up every morning and thanks the lord for her health and that of her children, if not, then perhaps that should be pointed out to her! Dozy cow...:ymad:

Look after yourself mate and that gorgeous girl of yours, :kiss:
Dusty. xxxxxxxx
 
Hey Joan, so sorry you are going through so much all at once! You just have to take things one day at a time; unfortunately there's no way around grief-you can only go through it. I hope the momories you have of your best friend will give you comfort in this dark time.

Glad to hear you're daughter is on the mend-sending hugs to you both! :hug:

When you feel up to it, I hope you give that witch you work for the wrath-tghe union should get her job for being such a poor excuse for a human!
 
Hey Joan,
Sorry about your boss... I too know what it is like to work for someone who does not understand when you are truly sick. I am very fortunate to now be working for an outstanding boss. Just last night I had to go to the ER- I was in a LOT of pain and was vomiting (better today Thank God). My boss called me on my cell phone to check on me. She is awesome. Best of luck to you and hope your boss gets what they deserve for being such a lousy human being!!! :devil:
 
Hi Joan, I'm sorry for your loss. Hopefully things are on the upswing. You've had your share of rough water for a while. Hugs to you.
 
I was diagnosed last month. I am the expansive type who gets more out of sharing her personal problems than bottling them up. I try to be funny about it though. But my son who is 16 told our counselor that I tell everyone I have Crohn's and it's so annoying. This was hurtful but since then I have not been mentioning it to those who already know and not telling people I don't know well. I think it was the shock of the diagnosis that made me blurt so much. I love this forum and try not to share with my family as much and go here instead. I've been reading about TM (Transendental Meditation)and think that it would help a lot to steady me. But it is v. expensive. Has anyone had experience with this?
 

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