Been away

[prplkow]

Hi all, I have been away for a long time on here. It has been a busy summer with family and friends visiting. Plus we are doing a kitchen/dining/living room remodel. I have missed being on here. One of the main reasons I have not been on here though is because my family thought I spent too much time on here. Spent too much time focusing on Crohn's. Spent too much time always reading and learning, etc., so I stopped talking about it. I stopped coming on here. Dealt with the summer happenings and dealt with all the Crohn's crap (lol, literally) silently. I just get so ticked because since I don't have a visual impairment, and that I look healthy, it just is easy to for everyone to forget the whole Crohn's crap. I get tired of having so many fricken trigger foods, and having a small list of go to foods. I get so sick and fricken tired of CD. Then, I kick myself in the arse because I know it could be worse and it is stupid to dwell on it. I guess that is what the family thinks too. I don't know. I am just conflicted and irritated about it all.

 

[Cat-a-Tonic]

Hi, welcome back! I'm sorry to hear you've been feeling down and I know what you mean. I've been through similar lately, I'm in a mild flare that has been going on since the spring, and we've also done some home remodeling (which is way more stressful than it should be!). And the food trigger thing too, I totally get that. They're bringing in a free lunch for everyone at work tomorrow, pizza and salad, and I had to ask them to not order anything for me because I can't eat any of that stuff. I feel like a freak for having to tell my colleagues that I can't eat pizza or salad! So I get it, it's every day and it never ends, but it always finds a way to throw something new at you. It can never just be easy, it always keeps you on your toes. I wish I had some answers for you, but all I can say is I definitely relate and you are not alone! And yes, it could be worse, it can always be worse, but that doesn't mean your complaints aren't legitimate. You have every right to vent, we all do, so don't worry about that part of it. Sending you a big virtual hug!

 

[Jennifer]

Welcome back prplkow!

I'm also going through something similar minus the remodeling and people thinking I'm on the forum too much. Honestly I'd be surprised if my family knew what I did during the day since they don't seem to call or come over anymore since my recent flare.

I told my husband last night that I haven't been doing well and need more help around the house and more moral support in general. He said he thought I was fine cause I was getting up and walking around. I can barely do that. No one wants to be a burden and asking for help for every little thing. It'd be nice if he showed a little concern and offered to help once in a while rather than me always having to ask. Each time I ask anyway all I hear is a big complaining sigh. Yeah, that really makes me want your help with that attitude. I JUST got sick back in June and have no idea when things will get better. If he has such a bad attitude now, how long is he going to be able to last to actually see this through? We met when I was in remission so he has no idea how bad a flare can be.

Well, that became my own personal rant, sorry. Our anniversary is coming up on Sunday this weekend and he said that I need to find a restaurant somewhere that offers food I can eat. Would be nice if he at least tried helping and asked, "can you eat here" or "can you eat this?" Rather than basically saying, "you're the one with the health problem, you figure it out." I'm sick of the diet restrictions too. Seems like I can eat just about anything but it takes so much work to make it then clean up after all the mess it makes in the pots and counters, its a lot of work. My husband says he'll help me make food I can eat when he has a day off again (clearly not on our anniversary), next day off isn't until Monday. Looks like I'll continue to starve. I'm being over dramatic now, sorry.

Anyway glad to see you back. I think we can all relate in one way or another.

 

[prplkow]

Thank for the comments ladies. It's nice to know other people feel the same way. I get the whole eating out thing too. I always have to pick the place as well. Then no one wants to order something in case I can't eat it. I have to argue with my husband for him to order what he wants. At parties or lunches it seems like you are always the odd ball out for not being able to eat hardly anything when flaring. ugh. It certainly is good to back here where we can all understand each other. :smile: