Coping with cringe worthy moments

[Daytripper]

Hi everybody!

I hope you're all having a chilled out weekend.

I'm 26 and I have crohns and I just want to know......how do you all cope with those cringe worthy moments?

First of all there's the little things like the gurgling of the tummy in quiet rooms...I try to just laugh it off when it happens. But then there's the times when I'm running for the toilet, and this may be TMI, but it's the sounds that come out of me while I'm on the toilet! I mean, it's that loud I'm sure everybody in the house can hear and probably the next door neighbours too! There's absolutely nothing I can do about it, but I just sit on the toilet and I daren't come out the bathroom because I'm so embarrassed. I'm a young girl, and I'm so polite, and I know people just don't expect that kind of thing from me which makes me feel even more embarrassed but there's not a thing I can do about it. I laugh to myself about it sometimes because it's like the scene on dumb and dumber when Harry is on the toilet! But sometimes I just feel so embarrassed by it all, I know I can't be the only one who experiences this? And I just wondered how you all coped.

Thanks

 

[ronroush7]

Welcome to the forum. I am sorry that you have this disease but you have come to a good support here. I am sorry this happens to any of us. I don't know of a good answer.

 

[Eridon2002]

I've learned not to give a "crap" what people think (pun intended). Everyone poops, it just happens our is more frequent, noisy and smelly.

 

[anitas.paul]

sounds like a rumble in the jungle ; )

 

[DJW]

You could try turning on the fan, running the water to start, or flushing when you go.

After that...as Eridon said...getting to a point where you don't give a crap.
That usually comes with time.

 

[fuzzy butterfly]

Hi if I go to the loo in public, I tend to stay in the cubicle till the others have left. It can be tricky sometimes as there is a queue.

 

[Georgeforaday]

In the mornings with my last girlfriend I used to play some music on my phone, leave that on the bedside, then go turn the shower on and go to the loo with the ambient noise. I think it worked... maybe not, but it did make me feel better about the situation.

I'm sure your family don't care what sounds come out of you, if your friends know about your Crohn's, then they don't care either. my friends all laugh about it, but they're never mean (and my friends can be pretty brutal). They nickname me Indiana Crohn's.

As for strangers, there people doing worse things in public toilets and the chances are you will never see them again, take comfort in that.

The only one I struggle with is being at work. At least once a week I leave the toilet and there is a cleaner waiting outside and I'm friendly with the cleaners. They never mention anything, but it's always embarrassing knowing what hell they are about to walk into!

 

[Madhu]

I'm the wife of a Crohnie and I know exactly what you mean by the "sounds". I have heard them and have never cringed about it. Every time I heard that, I only prayed a silent prayer that he heals soon because I was sure he would be embarrassed and suffering silently. Dealt with the poopy stinks all over the house, gas, sprayed freshener in the loo when he is not looking so it doesn't hurt his feelings, arranged loads of sitz baths to soothe his fistula and so many other things. I just love him more and more when I see how bravely he deals with this horrible disease knowing that it doesnt have a cure yet. And I love you all for that. All you wonderful people out there, please do not feel bad about all this. You have enough on your plates to deal with. We (your families) love you for who you are, and are so proud of you

Feel better soon!

 

[ronroush7]

I'm the wife of a Crohnie and I know exactly what you mean by the "sounds". I have heard them and have never cringed about it. Every time I heard that, I only prayed a silent prayer that he heals soon because I was sure he would be embarrassed and suffering silently. Dealt with the poopy stinks all over the house, gas, sprayed freshener in the loo when he is not looking so it doesn't hurt his feelings, arranged loads of sitz baths to soothe his fistula and so many other things. I just love him more and more when I see how bravely he deals with this horrible disease knowing that it doesnt have a cure yet. And I love you all for that. All you wonderful people out there, please do not feel bad about all this. You have enough on your plates to deal with. We (your families) love you for who you are, and are so proud of you

Feel better soon!

You make me think of how great my wife has been in handling me with this disease. She is always by my side
figuratively.

 

[fuzzy butterfly]

I'm the wife of a Crohnie and I know exactly what you mean by the "sounds". I have heard them and have never cringed about it. Every time I heard that, I only prayed a silent prayer that he heals soon because I was sure he would be embarrassed and suffering silently. Dealt with the poopy stinks all over the house, gas, sprayed freshener in the loo when he is not looking so it doesn't hurt his feelings, arranged loads of sitz baths to soothe his fistula and so many other things. I just love him more and more when I see how bravely he deals with this horrible disease knowing that it doesnt have a cure yet. And I love you all for that. All you wonderful people out there, please do not feel bad about all this. You have enough on your plates to deal with. We (your families) love you for who you are, and are so proud of you

Feel better soon!

Aw thanks for that hun. Hope you know that we appreciate what you all put up with and deal with for our sakes. :medal1:
Best wishes to you and your husband :hug:

 

[EvieBaby]

I have exactly the same thing. Most of my friends are fine with it so I'm more relaxed but I could never go in a public toilet. I went to a nightclub a few years ago and the music drowned out the sound but the smell was horrific and every single person who came in made a comment. I was mortified and stayed in there far longer than was necessary. Unfortunately people just can't accept that we all poo!

 

[fuzzy butterfly]

I carry a body spray where ever i go n use it as air freshner if need be ☺

 

[anitas.paul]

Sometimes wish i could take my feet off at night n hang them out a window to air them like you would a pair of sweaty trainers ; /

 

[cdnrose]

I'm pretty much like you Daytripper...quiet, shy, very polite person who would have never even passed gas in public let alone take a huge explosive poop in public before my crohns hit me. Now I find it easier to deal with in a public washroom then in someone else's home. At least you never (usually) see the people at the mall or where ever you are again.

During the Christmas season my significant other and I went out for dinner and then to a house party, I don't know the host very well at all. About an hour into the party my stomach started. There was only one bathroom in the house and I kept saying, we need to leave and go find a bathroom. Unfortunately my SO does not have the same quiet shy nature about himself as I do, he's like "just let it rip, who cares what they think". I care and I cringed when I saw the next person walk into the bathroom after I was in there. I tried using spray while in there, flushing mid explosion and then after I was done but I could still smell it wafting down the stairs into the kitchen where all the food was. No one commented on it but I was still horrified.

I can't see myself every getting to the point where I don't give a crap, it's just not in my nature.