Hi Charleigh and :welcome:
I am so very sorry to hear about your boy...:hug:
You have been given fabulous advice about medication and EEN.
As has been said EEN is as successful as Prednisone at inducing remission, particularly in children and that is the key point...getting your boy into remission as quickly as possible and then keeping him there.
I do believe that diet does play a role in the alleviation of symptoms when flaring and in helping maintain remission once it is attained. The maintenance medications used for IBD play a different role again, their role is immune modulation, so they are changing the immune system by suppressing its response to inflammation/infection since as you would know IBD is considered by many to be caused by an over active immune system.
It surely is a difficult place you find yourself in and one that most of here are or have trodden. I fully understand your drive and desire to have your son avoid these medications and what path you eventually choose will no doubt be made with much soul searching, fear and hope. Regardless of what you choose you must remain vigilant in ensuring that your son stays on the path of clinical remission. Don't depend on physical symptoms alone but ensure that regular monitoring is followed through with.
Both of my children have had surgery and are taking Imuran as a maintenance medication. I neither like it nor want it for them but I have seen what Crohn's left to its own devices can do and I never wish to see that again. Perhaps how I gain some sort of solace from them taking this medication each day is look upon it as any other medication a child needs to take in order to survive. If my child was an asthmatic they would no doubt be using a preventative inhaler daily or twice daily in an attempt to curtail acute attacks and the need for Ventolin. Or perhaps if they were a diabetic and needed insulin to be injected 4 times a day. These two conditions are chronic and incurable just as Crohn's is.
I suggest you read, read and read some more and then question, question, question anyone and everyone. Good luck hun, these decisions are never easy but for now focus on getting your boy into remission and then you can buy yourself some time to mull things over.
Dusty. xxx