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Hey guys... I received this link from my Psychology Professor of Abnormal Psych... it's an interesting read:
Feeling Down? Get Happy Dammit
Feeling Down? Get Happy Dammit
"Feeling Down? Get Happy Dammit!"
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Kev
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Excellent article.. Good food for thought. Wonder how many will digest it? not to criticize your avatar photo, but it is just me, or do you look really, pensive, maybe even a little down in it? Here's my question, if you were feeling down when you snapped it, any chance that every time you log on here, and see it, subliminally (sp?) IT could affect your mood... even subconsciously? There's a question to toss to your prof... See if perhaps our mood, and resultant health or feeling, is more than perhaps a little prone to nuances we not even aware of. mind you, if that wasn't your mood at the time you took it, PLEASE forget everything I just said... But there's got to be at least a kernal of truth behind that old.. 'put on a Happy Face'.. How's that for a psychological thought process????
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Ha... no Kev I wasn't sad in the pic... I was... I guess pensive is the right word... but yes I do believe that little tiny subliminal messages like that can affect your outward demeanor. Which is why we see people with Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D) AND why there is a higher suicide rate in Alaska than everywhere else. I'm an all around usual happy person mostly, I enjoy finding humor in things... especially our disease, but I think a lot of the reason I'm like this is because I'm always surrounded by bright colors (my favorites) and other happy people. I also like to surround myself with plants and my puppy and I usually always have the blinds open during the day... just because I think those things help my mood and happiness.
I don't know if you remember but a while back there was another member on here that I suggested to not be so down on herself and to look at the bright side of things and stuff like that and she completely flipped out on a couple of us. I said this things because I truly believe in mind over matter... I think we make ourselves (to a certain degree) as sick as we want to be. Now we don't have control over our actual disease progress, but how we deal and cope with this can affect stress.
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Ha... no Kev I wasn't sad in the pic... I was... I guess pensive is the right word... but yes I do believe that little tiny subliminal messages like that can affect your outward demeanor. Which is why we see people with Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D) AND why there is a higher suicide rate in Alaska than everywhere else. I'm an all around usual happy person mostly, I enjoy finding humor in things... especially our disease, but I think a lot of the reason I'm like this is because I'm always surrounded by bright colors (my favorites) and other happy people. I also like to surround myself with plants and my puppy and I usually always have the blinds open during the day... just because I think those things help my mood and happiness.
I don't know if you remember but a while back there was another member on here that I suggested to not be so down on herself and to look at the bright side of things and stuff like that and she completely flipped out on a couple of us. I said this things because I truly believe in mind over matter... I think we make ourselves (to a certain degree) as sick as we want to be. Now we don't have control over our actual disease progress, but how we deal and cope with this can affect stress.
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Kev
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Wellllll, some folks are sooooo extremely fragile, that no matter how tactfully said, how sincerely meant, how innocent or innocuous the comment or sentiment, ANY expression that could be taken in negative context; even a heartfelt suggestion; triggers a totally unexpected... usually 'magnified' or 'extreme' response. It often reflects a delayed OR programmed reaction; however late, to issues long buried in their past. The most extreme of these are the widely publicized cases of people; typically young males, who rampage.
Not always. Was visiting a friend... who employed a seemingly 'normal' young lady as a part time housekeeper, who was planning/preparing for her upcoming wedding. Being that my friend and I were both divorced, I made a small joke (in retrospect, there are times I should definitely keep my big mouth SHUT) r.e. marriage in general... not a joke at the young ladies expense, or in any way of a personal nature of her or her pending first nuptials (ooops, there's another one) Just one of those things that folks of either gender who are divorced get into the habit of doing... take my word for it, never met a divorced person who didn't fall into this pattern - akin to black humour, as divorce is a painful thing.
Anyway, my comment (too lame to call it even a witticism) wasnt' directed to her, so her response caught me totally off guard.. She was washing dishes in the sink... without a word, she grabbed a butcher knife from the sink, turned and threw it at me, point blank. Fortunately, by the time it hit me in the chest; it had rotated in mid air so the blunt handle struck.. So, I guess my comment almost ended up being a cutting remark.. but in reality was duller than even me. Anyway, at that point, the young lady burst into tears, and ran out of the room.. I wont' bore you with all the details; how this wasn't her 1st proposal, how'd she'd been engaged on a number of prior occasions; even jilted once; and how her currrent fiance was now experiencing some 'premarital jitters, and how marriage appeared to her to be the only viable exit from an abusive home.
I wasn't hurt; no harm, no foul, no need (as I saw it) to involve the police. I did get an invitation to the wedding; went; and gave the happy couple a nice gift.
End of story. Did my best to avoid being in the young ladies company without plenty of witnesses... So I have no idea at this point how her life turned out.
My long winded point? Even after all of that, I'm still stupid enuff to question whether or not you were sad in your avatar photo. Us old farts never learn. You aren't washing dishes by any chance, are you? ;-)
Not always. Was visiting a friend... who employed a seemingly 'normal' young lady as a part time housekeeper, who was planning/preparing for her upcoming wedding. Being that my friend and I were both divorced, I made a small joke (in retrospect, there are times I should definitely keep my big mouth SHUT) r.e. marriage in general... not a joke at the young ladies expense, or in any way of a personal nature of her or her pending first nuptials (ooops, there's another one) Just one of those things that folks of either gender who are divorced get into the habit of doing... take my word for it, never met a divorced person who didn't fall into this pattern - akin to black humour, as divorce is a painful thing.
Anyway, my comment (too lame to call it even a witticism) wasnt' directed to her, so her response caught me totally off guard.. She was washing dishes in the sink... without a word, she grabbed a butcher knife from the sink, turned and threw it at me, point blank. Fortunately, by the time it hit me in the chest; it had rotated in mid air so the blunt handle struck.. So, I guess my comment almost ended up being a cutting remark.. but in reality was duller than even me. Anyway, at that point, the young lady burst into tears, and ran out of the room.. I wont' bore you with all the details; how this wasn't her 1st proposal, how'd she'd been engaged on a number of prior occasions; even jilted once; and how her currrent fiance was now experiencing some 'premarital jitters, and how marriage appeared to her to be the only viable exit from an abusive home.
I wasn't hurt; no harm, no foul, no need (as I saw it) to involve the police. I did get an invitation to the wedding; went; and gave the happy couple a nice gift.
End of story. Did my best to avoid being in the young ladies company without plenty of witnesses... So I have no idea at this point how her life turned out.
My long winded point? Even after all of that, I'm still stupid enuff to question whether or not you were sad in your avatar photo. Us old farts never learn. You aren't washing dishes by any chance, are you? ;-)
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Kev
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True ones usually are... I should have been more carefull. Tho I'd never met her before, I had gone to school with her much older brother. He had a very violent temper... But he must have dealt with it somewhere along the line. He now seems a level headed, mild mannered person who is a successfull car salesman.
Geez, in the movies, the knife always lands perfectly with the blade in the victim. Good to know it doesn't always work out that way.
I learned a lot in that article at a church I went to. The same basic principles were applied, but using scripture. One of the best verses from the Bible in this regard is "A merry heart does good like a medicine, but a broken spirit dries the bones." Proverbs 17:22
In retrospect, I'm not in agreement with the way that church mixed psychology and faith. But it's interesting.
I learned a lot in that article at a church I went to. The same basic principles were applied, but using scripture. One of the best verses from the Bible in this regard is "A merry heart does good like a medicine, but a broken spirit dries the bones." Proverbs 17:22
In retrospect, I'm not in agreement with the way that church mixed psychology and faith. But it's interesting.
Kev
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Wellll, it's a subtle distinction, but I've always separated or segregated 'religion' N 'faith'... As in religion is what you practice, faith is what you feel.. Psychological? Yes. But, it doesn't have to stem from one's church or denomination. I prefer to think of myself as 'spiritual' these days, not 'religious'. Regardless of the religion, if you look deep enuff, you'll see the folly of man expressed in it somewhere, and it has become 'grandfathered' in deep enuff that it can never be addressed.. Frinstance (and w/o getting into a deep philosophical or religious argument).. be you Christian or Jew, can you 'name' your God? There's an embarrassing part of our joint religious history that few people care to explore... If that part of our religious worship CAN'T be 'fixed', it really makes me wonder (speaking just for myself) IF I care to be associated with that particular 'deity'. That's what I mean by the 'folly' of mankind thingy.
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Kev, you are a fine observer and a good writer.
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I believe in the mind over matter as well, but, the recommendation "think fast" (thoughts race and often cover as many negative scenarios in my head as possible so as to be prepared for their arrival if need be) are what my anxiety is fueled by, so perhaps I'm misunderstanding what I should be doing with that concept? Reading fast, though, eh? Perhaps I need to engage my mind in something quickly, but something to distract me....
At least the part about being engaged in the 'be curious' makes sense, that's why I guess I calm down when I get into a movie or video game....they override the racing thoughts most of the time.
Otherwise, it all makes sense, interesting stuff.
At least the part about being engaged in the 'be curious' makes sense, that's why I guess I calm down when I get into a movie or video game....they override the racing thoughts most of the time.
Otherwise, it all makes sense, interesting stuff.
