I'm quite a bit different, being someone who when healthy has dietary guidelines on how I slowly put on weight (muscle), at appx 1 lb./week....when I get sick and cannot workout I drop weight big time because my body is used to major calories (like 4000 give or take 1000, when bulking) and regular upkeep of muscle (body sees no reason to keep the muscle if you don't use it, and it goes FAST, because it's expensive to keep around)...Pred made me pissed off and I couldn't work out, so I ate accordingly, didn't gain much really (I actually lost some weight because I lost muscle while not allowed to work out), except a little water retention I suppose, but I had horrid moonface, so it looked like I gained like 40 to 50 lbs. and everyone thought I was "cured" or "healed" when really I was still flaring. I want to be 220 or so, appx 8-9% bodyfat once I'm able. I'd be there now if this damn demon that's possessed me and called itself Crohns didn't badger me.
Kitty I'd reiterate what others said, health is first, your fat deposits second, some fat loss/satiating tips I can give you off the top of my head, but I'll keep it to many of the common ones because they're not complicated and they work:
1. Try brushing your teeth frequently, a clean mouth has less desire to pig out, try it, it actually works well
2. drink lots of liquids, mainly water and any other low sugar/Crohns friendly drinks you can tolerate.
3. any protein like Isla said you can tolerate the more the better, do it, same with fiber and healthy fats (in moderation, they're calorically dense, so easy on 'em) if you can tolerate any that is
4. cut out the simple carbs if you can (even though they're Crohns friendly), they spike blood sugar and increase hunger when you "crash" again
5. small snacks here and there are great (your calorie counting is a good idea, I count calories and protein each day mentally when I'm in remission)
6. If you can tolerate either apples or nuts, eat 'em, the fiber and especially the specific sugar in apples actually blunts the appetite well
7. When you serve your portions, serve up smaller ones and then leave the serving "area", you'd be surprised at the studies that show subconsiously how much people were inclined to "finish their plates" with whatever was on it
8. take sips of water between bites, this will fill you up faster and slow you down, allowing your signals for satiation to register
9. try eating with your opposite hand (this works well unless your ambidextrous), it also slows you down, a right hander would eat with the left hand.
10. If you can when shopping, eliminate the purchase of anything you have a tendancy to endulge on, even if it's for a special occasion or someone else (if it's there, you'll eat it)...you'll get a craving at home and think "eh, all I have is this and that, I'm not in the mood for that, forget it", and also make the shopping trip when you're full
11. Try soups and liquids too, surpisingly low in calories per their weight, and will fill you up faster
12. If you're an emotional eater, try to tackle that and preoccupy yourself with something and relax so you don't trigger things
13. This one can be harsh, but it works...before you feel the need to go eat something either look in the mirror and recall your desires to lose weight, or pinch a part of your body that is a part you feel very poorly about (ie: your belly or your thigh), this often makes people recall their conviction about wanting to lean out and works well
14. since the fact of it boils down to calories in/out, remember to focus on the "out" part too, read: exercising...try to do anything active, park your car farther from the store, take the stairs, etc...now that you're on pred you may have the ability to do this stuff better
15. time of day matters, try to get any/all carbs in in the AM, and taper them off as the day goes, the closer to bedtime, the stricter you should get in general, and try to isolate your food as protein sources towards bedtime (shouldn't go to bed hungry though, use the protein)
16. Perhaps make a goal of getting into an old piece of clothing that you fit in recently that you liked (or even buy a new peice that you WOULD have fit in if you need more motivation)...use this as a goal, you want to fit in it and picture yourself looking good in it, shoot for this
17. Eliminate all "TV and mindless eating", if you are tuned out of your eating process, you'll be inclined to eat more than you should, AND eat it faster...try eating when eating is the only thing you're doing
18. Use treats as a motivator, many times you'll still lose fat effectively if you set a goal, like if you eat very strict for 3 days straight, you get a treat (food or even otherwise, like a purchase) on the 4th day, and repeat, repeat...
19. Take some measurements...some people respond better mentally to a numerical value to their fat loss/weight loss, this motivates them better if they can conceptualize their progress this way
I used to have a list of nearly a hundred of these on an old USB drive somewhere I used to give to people I'd advise (coworkers, family etc...) and help to go along...But remember, your Crohns has to come first, as well as your mental well being...don't let those be overiden. A lot of these may not work for you, and what helps is if you try to root out what causes your "snacking" etc...is it stress? is it something to chew on? (gum helps here), find out what that is and attack that too if you can...These are very common sense ones too, hopefully something will work. I'll come back here and post more if I can think of any. Good luck, PM me if you have anything I can help with.