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Hi xstitch.. i so hope this is the one your successful with...
Praying for you to get this . Best wishes n love, Mandy 💕💋
 
Thanks Ron & Mandy!!! Ever since I turned in that application the 2nd that I turned it into is always giving me a big grin whenever we see each other! I'm excited. But, at the same time am hesitant because I've had so many rejections. Am planning on taking my cross-stitch into this interview too to show if possible.

Forgot to mention that the trio of my Store Director, Manager and HR is being broken up!!! Today is my Store Director's last day, he's being transferred to another store. Husband and I are thinking this maybe his last chance since he screwed up my store so bad. The new one starts tomorrow. Apparently the new guy was in yesterday meeting people and shaking hands. Although, he was gone by the time I got there. The new guy has been a director for awhile, so he knows the ropes.

Linda is breaking under the stress. She got in the face of one of my coworkers trying to bully her. Not a good choice!!! The coworker is planning to go to our HR first to see if anything will be done and move up the ladder to make sure she gets heard (under my encouraging). My coworker wants Linda gone and has told me personally!!! We'll see what tomorrow brings...
 
Oh by eck its all going on hun..
I really hope this is your break n you finaly get the job you want.. if anyone deserves it you do hun. Very very best wishes n the very very best of luck💕💕
 
Got a call yesterday to come in for the interview. It was all I wanted except, not enough hours for my medical insurance. All went well and he really wanted me. But, just couldn't come up with the hours. So, rather than putting me in a predicament where I had to say no he took someone else. But, we'll keep talking and if he comes up with something that will work for me we'll try again. Shows me he's actually a good manager!!! Hopefully eventually it'll happen.
 
Cross-stitch gal said:
Got a call yesterday to come in for the interview. It was all I wanted except, not enough hours for my medical insurance. All went well and he really wanted me. But, just couldn't come up with the hours. So, rather than putting me in a predicament where I had to say no he took someone else. But, we'll keep talking and if he comes up with something that will work for me we'll try again. Shows me he's actually a good manager!!! Hopefully eventually it'll happen.
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Here we go again!!! Turned in another application at another store. This time it's for a full time position in the home department. This is the store my manager worked at before coming to my store. So, they know all about what she's like (he seemed truly concerned about retaliation from her of my applying for this job). I have a feeling I maybe the highest senior employee to apply for this position. But, it sounds like this manager is all about seniority. Plus, the store director is one that I've had before. The job closes tomorrow and was told that the interview will be soon. Will see what happens...
 
Hey xstitch. You were so unlucky the hours wernt enough. I hope this one will be yours for the taking hun.
Keep us updated how it goes. Love n best wishes 💕💕
 
Ok. Now I'm not a happy camper!!! Time for a trip into the new store director! She just lied to the manager who I turned in my recent application to. Told him she didn't know I was applying reason being I'm not getting an interview. She knows I've been applying all along. I think she's just losing people right and left and it's making her look bad. We'll see what happens. At least I know he'll listen to me.
 
Oh the absolute bitch!!!😠
You go girl tell him/her (store dirc) how it really is hun. Gwad what a f*****g weasel...
Really hope you get this job as it will well piss her off.
Hate people like her they are lower than a snakes belly,to do things like that. Arghhh. Love hugs n best wishes hun 💕💕💋
 
fuzzy butterfly said:
Oh the absolute bitch!!!😠
You go girl tell him/her (store dirc) how it really is hun. Gwad what a f*****g weasel...
Really hope you get this job as it will well piss her off.
Hate people like her they are lower than a snakes belly,to do things like that. Arghhh. Love hugs n best wishes hun 💕💕💋
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We printed off the two letters I have on her and plan on taking them in with me/us when talking to the director. Kinda glad I'm not working with that guy since apparently he's in touch with my manager. We'll see what happens.
 
So, on Monday 4/18 I got called into my manager's office. Of course, with both my manager and my 3rd I figured I was in trouble again. Instead, my manager was #1 trying to get me to return to my register duties full time instead of being on the floor. #2 Trying to get me to forgive and forget everything she's done to me since she became my manager. Reason being that she's in very hot water! Needless to say, I didn't back down.

Today I finally got the training on the floor I'd been wanting in order to get the store recovered at night. In fact, I got a full hour's worth of it! First by a coworker and next by my assistant. I think my 2nd knows I have no respect for my manager and is doing her best to help...

I'm officially in a flare. But, am more than thankful to finally be on my 2 days off!
 
Found a couple more to apply for both at another store and both at the same store. One is a pic which is in charge, I believe at night. The other is a section head position and they're both in the home department. I got my assistant to sign the applications since my manager is on vacation for over a week now. Plus, I see my new third or second assistant today. It will be less stressful without my manager there.

Also, I got a flyer in the mail yesterday. This coming Thursday my state rep is hosting a job hunting workshop in the morning and I'm going. It'll be difficult being in the morning (with me being used to closing) but it looks like it's going to be quite the event. Just got to update my resume to be ready to take with me!
 
Well. Just got called for an interview for those 2 positions. Nope, not happening. They wanted me to work graveyard and on top of that have complete availability. Basically, any day any shift. Oh well.

Didn't go to the job thing today. It was just a workshop to learn how to write resumes. I already know how to do that. Also, may not go to the job fair Monday since I have to close the night before and then work till 11:30pm that day.

Found something else to apply for though. It's for the garden center in my own store in the home department. Applied yesterday. So, will wait to hear from the manager over there. The assistant seemed excited when I handed off the application to her. Plus, my new store director was urging me to apply as well. So, we'll see what happens...
 
Interview tomorrow (or officially today). A big deal was made by the manager of Home and the manager of food about setting the time up. I think they were showing everyone who they could get. Also let my director know about it too. He's seeming to like being involved in these interviews (or at least likes knowing about them). We'll see what happens....

By the way. I'm still keeping a watch for jobs on the board at work for backup...
 
Hoping to hear good news from the interview soon. Keeping my fingers crossed for you hun.
Very best wishes n good luck. ☺💕💕💋
 
Got to the interview and found out the schedule would be starting at 4,5,6 or at the latest 7am. Basically expected to be available any time and any day. I was the number one pick and was completely pressured but decided not to go on with the interview since I wasn't willing to agree to withdraw my restrictions of wanting my normal days off and he wasn't wavering either.

But, I'm still planning to look for something that will work for me. Meanwhile, I'm staying where I'm at. Just have to get the time to update my director as he asked (I do my best to keep my promises).
 
Me too. I'm getting pretty tired, doesn't help I'm in a flare. There has to be something out there. This week I happened to get my award for being there 15 years though. We'll see what happens...
 
Oh ouch those are early starts and to be free where ever n when ever !! Dont blame you passing there hun. I would have to.
Good luck with the continued hunt hun .
Best wishes 💕💕 . Mandy
 
Applied two different places (stores within the company I work for) this week. Once on Sunday and another one today. We'll see what happens. Even if I just get an interview, it'd be alright.

Out of nowhere, I got a different schedule. I'd had my 3rd day off taken away and quite often had 4-5 hour days 5 days a week. But, since I got a new assistant and store director things changed. I still got 4.5 hour days. But, this week I got 3 days off and 2 eight hour days. It's not exactly the way I wanted them. But, it was a start.

However, after 2 weeks in a row having 3 days off and two eight hour days (this week and next week), it's being taken away in the newest schedule I printed tonight. Gotta love it. I think I'm just tired...
 
Got an interview for the Children's lead on this coming Saturday 5/28. It works well because I'll be able to see the manager there and show her my finished cross-stitch that I promised her I'd show her!!! Not sure about the 40 hour week thing. But, it'd be nice to get out of the hands of my current manager! We'll see what happens.
 
Cross-stitch gal said:
Got an interview for the Children's lead on this coming Saturday 5/28. It works well because I'll be able to see the manager there and show her my finished cross-stitch that I promised her I'd show her!!! Not sure about the 40 hour week thing. But, it'd be nice to get out of the hands of my current manager! We'll see what happens.
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Best to you.
 
Nope, not the children's lead either. I keep being told that I'm not qualified. I think it's time to go to my director to find out how to get qualified/trained. However, I also keep being told by everyone not to give up and keep trying. I'm just getting tired.
 
Oh hells bells hun...
Thats true hun dont give up but i agree maybe you should see your director n ask about training up. Any extra qualification/s cant go amiss hun.
Love n best wishes :hug:💝💞
 
The hardest part for me is that while I keep getting turned down, others either continue being transferred or becoming supervisors at night. It's like a slap in the face. I mean, I'm happy for them. But, what about me?

Problem is, with the stress from this my stomach is acting up. Doesn't help that the last two or three days it's been around 100 degrees outside. So, between the weather, the stress and it being a total zoo at work it's taking a toll on me. :ybatty:
 
Aw sweetheart i know what you mean.. if they can move on why not you. I have beem in simlar circumstance n it can be upseting.
That heat is ridiculous oh my days.!!!
Keep your chin up hun things will work out for the best :hug:.💕💕
 
No interviews lately. But, just turned in another application today. This time for the floral department for a part time position just down the street from me. I've had the manager in my store before, so she knows me. Supposedly later today I'm supposed to get a call from her to find out when I'm going to get an interview. We'll see what happens.
 
Cross-stitch gal said:
No interviews lately. But, just turned in another application today. This time for the floral department for a part time position just down the street from me. I've had the manager in my store before, so she knows me. Supposedly later today I'm supposed to get a call from her to find out when I'm going to get an interview. We'll see what happens.
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Best to you.
 
Thank you both! I kinda gave the manager a run for her money already. She wanted to interview me on Friday, but I'm working a 9-6 and she'd be off before I could come in. And, my lunch on those days are from 1-2 which is when she's got a conference call for managers (so a phone interview wouldn't work either). So, she's having to figure out a time that will work for both of us! Needless to say, I haven't gotten the call yet...
 
Hi its hard to fit in interview when u have work already. My new ish boss had to fit me in after i finished work . So she hung around to see me at 6pm which was the earlist i could get there. Im sure she will figure something out hun. 💕💕
 
The manager called about the interview while I was at work today and left a message on my phone. I'm to call her on Monday about at job interview for the floral position.

Meanwhile, one more 8 hr shift to go tomorrow (or officially today) and I'm off for 5 days!!! Boy do I need it. :eek:utahere:
 
Turned down again. I had my interview today about 10am. Phone interviews are sure harder! Said they'd call back in a couple hours, but a couple turned into 5 and a half. So, I'm guessing it must have been a hard choice. Would have been the perfect birthday present cause I would have started there the week before my birthday. I guess, on to the next.
 
Husband and I had to get out yesterday after that downer. I've been very good, but with being turned down so long when these managers tell me that I interview well I want to tell them, "that's nice, but it doesn't get me anywhere"! Beginning to wonder....

But, we're going to the beach today for the day and I'm off work till friday since we decided to take a few days of vacation. So that does help some. Meanwhile, I'm doing a bit of playing around with microsoft powerpoint.
 
Cross-stitch gal said:
We will and I sure hope so. Question is, when?
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That i cant answer.. but it will come,i know the waiting can be agony, just keep strong n keep believing in yourself hun. You have talent and experience that will be wanted needed and appreciated by the right person at the right time.. hang on in there sweetheart. Remember she who laughs last laughs longest,as it were. The wait may be to your advantage in the long run.:hug:💕💕
 
fuzzy butterfly said:
That i cant answer.. but it will come,i know the waiting can be agony, just keep strong n keep believing in yourself hun. You have talent and experience that will be wanted needed and appreciated by the right person at the right time.. hang on in there sweetheart. Remember she who laughs last laughs longest,as it were. The wait may be to your advantage in the long run.:hug:💕💕
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I agree. Problem is that I'm getting so exhausted and worn out from the waiting.
 
Aw xstitch i know how that feels. I was in a similar posistion 10/12 months back when i needed to get out of my old job. Its hard to get a job change whilst still working. It adds to the work toll in a way,looking for applying for and doing interviews. I did get my break tho i found i job i love. The hours are more and im knackered but i enjoy my job so much.
If i could get a break you can.. anyone can coz without bad luck id have no luck at all. ☺
Try not to put to much pressure on your self all will come good hun. 💕💕💝
 
Applied for another Children's lead a few weeks ago, but the manager was either sick or on vacation. Well. I got turned down for that one today. Said she had some applicants more qualified than me and she wouldn't be interviewing me at this time. But, encouraged me to keep applying. Same line I've been hearing since I started applying.

And, I go back to work tomorrow.
 
Cross-stitch, you're still teaching yourself some computer programming skills, right? I'd say keep going with that - there are a lot of jobs out there for that sort of thing. It sounds like you keep hitting dead ends so maybe it's time to go in a new direction and work on the computer stuff more. I know employers will hire even when you're self-taught, because my brother managed to get several decent jobs and he taught himself how to write computer code. There seem to be freelance jobs out there as well for that sort of thing. So do keep that in mind, and keep your chin up. Something will come along that pans out, just have to be patient!
 
Do these people know what they are doing !!! They are missing out big time by passing you over. Some folks dont know a good thing when it hits them with a wet kipper in the face. But know this hun.. one person out there will see your value n potential and snap you up, believe me hun. Your to good not to be noticed for your experience n talents.
Chin up girl n keep on trucking.. ☺💕💕💋:hug:
 
I haven't played around with photoshop in awhile. But, I am working with powerpoint. I'm making 2 slideshows one each for my grandparents in Indiana for their future memorials. Just waiting on more pictures. So, this is my current project. I've found that I can turn those into websites as well. So, have more youtube videos to watch for training while I wait.
 
Had a horrible time last night at work. I was trying to shut down a register and a customer came up wanting to be rung up. My coworker told the customer I'd be right over and I ended up really ticked and behaved badly I'm afraid. I'm all for customer service, except when I'm trying to take care of money and it drives me nuts when an employees good deed isn't as much a good deed for me and causes more problems for me rather than helps me.

When that happens, I tend to replay it over and over in my head. I think I've found a way to do things differently next time and hope things will work out better. What do you think?

#1 always make sure I have the closed sign up on both registers

#2 I can ask the employee if they'd mind jumping on the other register to help the customer or if the customer happens to be in a hurry there are other registers further down who can take care of them faster. Otherwise it's going to take me a few minutes to take care of this before I'll be up and running again.
 
Here we go again! I applied for another position today. But, when I applied I also talked with the assistant in the department. She asked me if I'm burned out doing the same thing where I'm at and I admitted that I am. She recommended that I apply for a position called: click-list. This is where you can order your groceries online, have them picked out for you and pick it up outside in your vehicle. I could either work the register or be a personal shopper...
 
I'm writing my application to be ready for the click-list. Having a hard time. I need to say (or would like to say) that basically I've been a personal shopper professionally without actually saying it.
 
A position came up and I applied for it. This time however, my store director signed the application and he's got some pull. He doesn't know much about this position and appreciates all I can fill him in about it.

We don't have this at our store and it's something that will be in the future. So I don't know, but it's possible that if I do get this I'll get trained and good at it and then when we get it at the store I currently work at I maybe brought back to train others...
 
And, another nail to my manager's coffin will soon be added!!! The HR from the store I applied at for the click-list called and turned me down at 9am this morning. Told me that I have trouble getting along with others and trusting others and rub people the wrong way and that's why she's not interviewing me. I need to talk to my manager, my store director and my HR to work on this and get it resolved before applying again.

Totally smells of my manager, especially when they call me at 9am. And, you know that they just called my store first. Thing is that my director signed this one and will want to know why I got turned down. He will not be a happy camper!!! I'm wondering if he's off today and that's why they ended up talking with Linda...

I love it when they wake you up for this and then you have a hard time getting back to sleep because of being wound up from it! Especially on your day off!!!
 
Oh the rotten bitch. I dint know her from Adam but i think im right in my opinion of her...😠😠
Defo get on to your director etc and complain like hell about her..
Big hugs 💕💕💕
 
Stupid thing is they turned me down like that for this one. Yet, I got another call today from the same store for an interview for another position. Only thing I can think of is they got her for the first one and somebody else for the second. Sad part is it's the first one I really would have enjoyed. Somebody tell me what's going on please!
 
Well im confused.com myself hun. What the heck!!😕
Shame they got her for the job you really wanted tho.
Hope you do get to find n get something you want to do n get away from her ..
:hug: 💝
 
Cross-stitch gal said:
Stupid thing is they turned me down like that for this one. Yet, I got another call today from the same store for an interview for another position. Only thing I can think of is they got her for the first one and somebody else for the second. Sad part is it's the first one I really would have enjoyed. Somebody tell me what's going on please!
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I am sorry you are having such a rough time.
 
Told my store director and the food manager yesterday while I was on lunch. Even better that the Queen and my HR were off yesterday. Both gentlemen were totally beside themselves with anger and my director shared some words I won't repeat.

Although I didn't get to finish telling him everything, he did demand knowing who called me with that false info. And, if I knew who from our store the other store talked to. When I left the office, the two practically slammed both doors to the office. And, when I came back there for my last break the doors were still closed. But, the food manager was in the managers' office with his 4th rather than in Matt's office.

Supposedly he put a call into that store and was waiting to hear back. When he gets all his ducks in a row, it's not going to be a good time for my manager and HR!!!
 
Aw hun i hope they can help sort all this BS out and u can get the job you want. They do sound rather angry at the way you have been treated.. as would anyone with any sense.
Crossing my fingers that this will be good for you hun. 💕💕💋
 
Today is my Monday at work, so will see what happens. Only thing I know is my manager is taking today off as a comp day. Otherwise, I don't know what to expect. With all this excitement I've been having the joy of wet gas and emergency bathroom visits. Just want this nonsense over with!

Have a GI appointment on the 29th and got a letter in the mail yesterday stating I'm needing a colonoscopy by the end of the year for my IBD. Oh the joys of this challenge of ours!!!
 
Enjoy your day despite the toilet troubles hun. Iv a colo to be endured too on the 4th of oct😕

As you say oh the joys 😯
Love n hugs 💕💕:hug:
 
fuzzy butterfly said:
Enjoy your day despite the toilet troubles hun. Iv a colo to be endured too on the 4th of oct😕

As you say oh the joys 😯
Love n hugs 💕💕:hug:
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Thanks my lady!!! I hope yours goes well. :hug: Just got word that my HR is packing up her office and leaving. Don't know much else. But, it sure sounds like I maybe needing the popcorn soon...
 
Lately I've been getting extra hours coming out of the woodwork. Sometimes almost getting 40 hours a week. Quite the change from having to fight for hours.

The newest thing now is that in the new year my store is getting rid of our home electronics department. We'll be keeping a few things like a couple televisions, cell phones and some small things. But, the majority will be discontinued. So, we'll be needing one less manager at our store.

Husband and I are wondering if this might be the time my manager is let go. She's acting pretty nervous right now and making mistakes left and right. Not alone that obviously her job must be on the line. But, we'll see what happens as time gets closer...
 
So, lately my manager has been off all the time supposedly on vacation. Kinda weird especially being November now which is always black out time for retail being too close to the Christmas season for anyone to request time off. Needless to say, my assistant is running the show and making all the schedules and screwing up left and right most likely listening to what my manager wants. Biggest thing that's made me mad is that the assistant is doing the same thing my manager has done. She's trying to take away my two days off! I already had to give up my third day, I'm not sacrificing my other two!!! :ymad:

What's stupid, is that we've got two full time associates on medical leave and a part time seasonal newbie that's off right now because of clearance problems when she got hired. So, we've got plenty of hours even though they're saying they have no hours and are complaining about my not giving up my two days off. I'm still getting 32 hours this week working 4 eight hour shifts. It's a good thing I don't have a real bat! This could actually be me with all this going on!!! :ybatty:
 
Made my store director laugh today. Told him that I really need to stop talking to other employees cause all it does is get me frustrated!!!! Reason being that when I do quite often I keep finding someone else who's been transferred outside of their department. I think he understood me though.

Stomach's been acting up. Always does a bit during the Christmas season with all the stress. But, at least this time around I've got someone at work who understands me. Just gotta get through to the new year! That's when the managers in the departments get moved around or out. Hope this finds you guys with a little less stress than me. :ghug:
 
So sorry for all you are going through. Prayers go out to you for strength and courage to get through all of this. Take care!
 
Thanks guys!

Makes you wonder when she hires seasonals, that two are fired, one gets transferred and a new section head is grabbed from our store/department and taken back to where she came from. Kinda shows how good of a manager she is, doesn't it?

I figure she must have gotten her walking papers on monday, because the only time she talked to me or even addressed me on tuesday was when the whole store management had their morning meeting and she called me asking for the daily time chart...
 
Reached my enough point today, one of my coworkers was being herself and by the time I clocked off for lunch I'd had it. Saw Matt (my director) as he was coming back from lunch himself and told him I'd hit my enough point again. We started talking and he took me into his office where we continued. He made sure I knew that it's not ok to be treated wrong no matter who it is. And, to let him know if he needs to talk to anybody for me. Needless to say, I felt a bit better.

When I saw him next he was looking at wine (which he was planning to mark down in price) and he asked me if I drink. I told him I'd never had any alcohol and Matt told me I'd be fun to take to a bar. Told him if we did that we'd have to bring our spouses!!! His response is we'd have to have them with us to keep us in line!

He was happy to hear I told you guys how much I trust him and likes the thought of us acting like a couple of school kids! As frustrated and tired as I am and even though my stomach might be acting up a bit, I'm glad to finally have someone at work to talk to who understands.
 
Be careful, just saying. He is your supervisor and in a position of authority over you. Shouldn't be asking you to go out drinking with him. Don't know how old you are, but wouldn't want you to get in a situation when you are not feeling well and vulnerable. Take care!
 
I don't really see it happening. I'm not interested in trying alcohol as it is. I think if it really came to, I'd be more for him meeting my husband without the drinking part.
 
Been doing a lot of thinking tonight. I'm 38, yes plenty old enough to have a drink and could have 17 years ago if I really had wanted to. But, I have two reasons why I never have.

#1 As sensitive as my stomach is, I'm scared of how alcohol would react to it and how sick I could be from it afterwards.

#2 I have alcoholics in my family and I've seen what it's done when one is drunk. Even though it maybe only once in a lifetime, it's not a chance I'd really want to take.

We've been doing a lot of joking and goofing off so to speak lately. I think it might not be a bad idea for us to have a talk to see if this was joking or serious. As comfortable as Matt and I are together, I don't want alcohol to mess it up.

If you don't mind, I'd like you guys' support when we end up talking. I doubt it'll be a problem, but it's a talk I've never had before.
 
Ended up talking with Matt today and all went well. Was able to tell him that I didn't want to hurt him and have seen what alcohol does. He did say I would be entertaining with a little alcohol in me, but understood why I don't want to chance it. Needless to say, even with that nothing has changed with us. It's understood that even though we work together, we've become more like brother and sister...

One of these days though, I'd still like him to meet my husband and let him know that too in which he agreed.
 
I completely understand your thoughts on alcohol, I have very similar thoughts on pot. I hate it. I've known 3 hardcore stoners in my life and things didn't go well for any of them. 2 of them are dead now (one died at age 19 and one killed himself at 33). The 3rd one is my brother, who quite frankly is a loser. He's 31, unemployed, living with our parents. He's hard to get along with, I think all his drug use has somehow either warped his brain or brought out a latent mental illness. He's not a well person. So yeah, I absolutely hate pot because I've seen people destroyed by it. I am not a big fan of alcohol either - it doesn't do good things for my stomach nor for my bladder issues. So I tend to avoid all that stuff because it's just plain bad for me.
 
I haven't had a drink since I stopped smoking 24yrs ago.I thought I would be tempted to light up if I was drinking, so didn't want to chance it.My brother died through alcohol when he was 41.I must say though,he was a happy drunk,and to my knowledge was never in trouble because of it.But what a waste of an otherwise decent life.
 

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