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I quit work just over a year ago. At that time i had (although i didnt know what it was) A large abscess--peri rectal, and i couldnt walk without pain, or sit or stand or move or sometimes breathe......i had no idea what was going on at that point. I remember my last day of work i was So sore.....i couldnt do anything without shaking cause it hurt so much. I still had non stop diahreea and i had to poop leaning to the side so it didnt hit the sore area so much. I am usre if anyone walked in on me they would have thought i was falling off the toilet!! lol
I was running a home childcare. I had 3 kids under 3 all in diapers, and it was NOT easy. I couldnt do what i was supposed to do with them, i couldnt take them outside, i couldnt lift i couldnt do my job. I ended up that weekend with the rupture, and taking time off which eventually led to me quitting.
For anyone who knows d/c it is a hard job to take weeks and weeks off due to illness as parents need to find other care and well....once your child is happy somewhere else.......
So i did end up not going back.
Financially i do have to work. We cant make our bills, barely make our mortage each month. The stress of it all hurts me. And i am afraid that my poor dh is feeling like he cant do anymore.
My girls are older 7yrs and 17 yrs. Yes 10 years apart. How do you make them understand??? My 17yr is old enough to , but she is also at that age where she is still selfish, her boyfriend, her friends etc come first. She does work 2 pt jobs, so i try not to lay too much on her. But i dont think she completely gets it . Is it wrong of me to print out info for her to read???? So she knows what i am going through??? maybe if she sees it in black n white???
I need her to at least look after herself more. Be more responsible for her self and her belongings. I have tried to tell her , but teens...well....i was the same way i was sure. Maybe she is worried? i dont know.
My youngest she understands that mommy is sick. I tried to tell her that my tummy is mad at me and doesnt like when i feed it wrong or too the wrong thing and then it gets angry and hurts and makes me poo alot.
She kinda got it. She is good to a point. She likes to be my helper and look after me. And when i am really down and go to bed she is good at entertaining herself, or sitting with me and playing quiet or reading.
But it seems for my whole family, including my husband that if i am not down and out and choose to go to bed they think i am can manage. if i am laying on the couch then i must not be that bad.
I have a hard time making them understand that even if i am on the couch i just want to be with my family. It doesnt mean i feel better.
How do you work???? how do you get your family to understand???? How do you live day to day without screaming and crying and wanting to throw things?????
I was running a home childcare. I had 3 kids under 3 all in diapers, and it was NOT easy. I couldnt do what i was supposed to do with them, i couldnt take them outside, i couldnt lift i couldnt do my job. I ended up that weekend with the rupture, and taking time off which eventually led to me quitting.
For anyone who knows d/c it is a hard job to take weeks and weeks off due to illness as parents need to find other care and well....once your child is happy somewhere else.......
So i did end up not going back.
Financially i do have to work. We cant make our bills, barely make our mortage each month. The stress of it all hurts me. And i am afraid that my poor dh is feeling like he cant do anymore.
My girls are older 7yrs and 17 yrs. Yes 10 years apart. How do you make them understand??? My 17yr is old enough to , but she is also at that age where she is still selfish, her boyfriend, her friends etc come first. She does work 2 pt jobs, so i try not to lay too much on her. But i dont think she completely gets it . Is it wrong of me to print out info for her to read???? So she knows what i am going through??? maybe if she sees it in black n white???
I need her to at least look after herself more. Be more responsible for her self and her belongings. I have tried to tell her , but teens...well....i was the same way i was sure. Maybe she is worried? i dont know.
My youngest she understands that mommy is sick. I tried to tell her that my tummy is mad at me and doesnt like when i feed it wrong or too the wrong thing and then it gets angry and hurts and makes me poo alot.
She kinda got it. She is good to a point. She likes to be my helper and look after me. And when i am really down and go to bed she is good at entertaining herself, or sitting with me and playing quiet or reading.
But it seems for my whole family, including my husband that if i am not down and out and choose to go to bed they think i am can manage. if i am laying on the couch then i must not be that bad.
I have a hard time making them understand that even if i am on the couch i just want to be with my family. It doesnt mean i feel better.
How do you work???? how do you get your family to understand???? How do you live day to day without screaming and crying and wanting to throw things?????