Since he stole that large sum of money, call the police on him. It is a serious crime and he needs to go to jail or repay you NOW. Seriously, the abuse he has put you through is emotional, verbal (telling you to get colon cancer--tell him to go pound bricks), and psychological at best. You do NOT need to put up with his abuse. Yes, that it what he is doing to you and I am speaking from experience. Over 15 yrs. to be exact until I stood up for myself to put a stop to it.
My own sister called me a drug addict when I was in high school and after I got my ileostomy that saved my life, she referred to me as a bag lady. She was never supportive even now, heck I was her stupid maid of honor (I didn't want to be but my mom told her to ask me and my mom was like I should) and flaring at the time. Come to find out from a bridal party member that my sister was telling EVERYONE I was out to ruin her big day by faking being sick which was total cr@p because I was out on disability 2 months beforehand from work.
After the hell she put me through with my own wedding, I finally put a stop to her bossiness and told her that I love her but I will NOT tolerate her bullying me or treating me like dirt any more. She blew a gasket and made tons of false accusations from stalking her at work (I don't even know where she works) to stalking her at home (um, she lives over 2 hrs. away and last yr. I was recovering from a serious surgical infection. I was at home), causing her undue stress while pregnant (she never told me she was), and harassing her via emails which I only sent her a few telling her to that she needs to apologize and quit being so nasty towards me. Then she sent my husband an explosive email stating that she's going to throw me in jail based upon these false accusations so he had to hire an attorney for me in case she followed through with her threats .
My sister is the biggest bully you'd ever want to meet. If you don't kiss her butt, she'd make your life a living hell. She is ALWAYS right, never wrong. And if you do something to tick her off, WATCH OUT. Heck, when we went looking for bridesmaids dresses, the clerk gave her a price in error, she had the poor girl in tears, literally and the manager took my sister outside and the manager was like do you really like to make salesclerks cry? What is your problem? People make mistakes. My sister can do no wrong. I tell ya. It's been 5 years now and she won't talk to me or the rest of the family. On top of that she won't let anybody see the 5 kids either. She is a very sick person and needs mental help but she doesn't think she does. My BIL is a wuss and won't even do a thing about it. He's a loser who's just a sperm doner.
So Towls, you aren't alone when it comes to a sibling who's in desperate need of help and needs to be avoided. Do your parents know that he stole from you? Do you have witnesses that he stole the money. Seriously, you need to go to the police station and file a complaint and have him arrested. That money is YOURS. You need it to pay for your medication, doctor bills, and hospitalizations. For him to say what he did is inexcusable.
If your parents don't support you at filing the report, have a friend go with you. I'm behind 100% at doing this. Does your doctor know about the abuse he put you through? Next time you go in for a check up, just tell him the stress he's put you through so it's documented and what he said for the record. You never know when you may need it for proof. I made sure to tell my primary care MD at least as well as my neurologist after my stroke and they agreed that as a stroke survivor, I do NOT need to put up with my sister's abuse as it is not good for my blood pressure or recovery.
I want you to be well and in remission for a life time. I care. ~Gutless Wonderwoman:rosette2: