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Brian'sMom

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Because my stupid thread, "what bothers me about this forum" keeps getting renewed... I felt I should post a new thread. APOLOGIZING TO EVERYONE!!

I wish that thread would just go away. I feel horrible for posting it. It makes all the great parents here 2nd guess themselves. It was all me having the issues. You all are great in the way you visit here. I was feeling alone and selfish in my own pain. Every IBD kid has it rough. I had originally planned to be gone myself...but I need this forum. I need all of you here. One family member I have that will listen at length and lovingly is my sister. The day I posted that stupid thread I lashed out at her too. Sorta blaming her that her kids are healthy. I would like to just delete it...but now that so many people have posted there with supportive and loving responses to my tantrum...I almost feel its good for new members to see how GOOD this forum really is. I'll have to say tho...that feeling guilty about this has been tough. I feel like I hurt many here. But please don't post a bunch of responses forgiving me.... just take my apology and know that I love you all and need you sooo much! (Feel free to let me have it...I'm sure I made plenty a bit upset)
 
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Stop it. It got renewed because I am finally reading through the threads. I don't log on as much, I didn't read all the replies or the worry you had I am sure posted in that thread. I read you main thread and replied. It is not you it is me. Can someone in the Kansas area please give Kathy some wine.

You need wine. Everyone needs wine. ;)
 
I never saw the thread ur talking about, but I do know what its like dealing with crohns. I have it myself I get very discouraged and angry myself from time to time, and see the constant look of despair and hurt in my wifes eyes. So I cant begin to imagine how it would feel to be a parent of a young person with this awefull disease. Hang in there and im sure no one here is going to hold anything against anyone for venting a lil.
 
I'm with QueenGothel and the wine, wine for everybody please.

This post radiates guilt about that other post, Brian'sMom, and there is just no reason to feel bad or guilty about it. That is what this forum is for. In the parent's section it is as if we are all in a symbiotic relationship, each of our successes or failures affects the group as a whole. So there are benefits and disadvantages. I do hope you will put your feelings of guilt behind you, they are unwarranted. I agree with you that that thread shows the raw emotion and support that this forum encompasses. I think personally it has a place here.

I do hope things start improving for your DS soon and he can reach a long, stable, remission! Hugs!
 
Ya, I lashed out at the hubby from time to time. Poor guy it's not his fault. But when it's day after day of dealing with Grace's pains and problems, I just break down.
Now I have asked him to take the night watch after 3 am. That way I know I can get some sleep.
It helps knowing I can have a little help.

This suggestion is for anyone here but maybe volunteering for a local IBD chapter might help or children's hospital. When I was at Mayo I got to see beautiful children with serious problems. It put in perspective what some other parents go though with different diseases and or problems.

Also Mom's and Dad's take time for yourselves.
Our kids need us to be there for them and being stressed helps now one.
Take time for yourselves. Read a good book, go to a movie, have a monthly girls night out.
My friend taught me how to crochet (sp). I love it and it's relaxing.
Take a break when you can.
 
We have all been there so much so, one of my posts got locked down by Dusty. Boy was I a mess at that time. We are all here for this, it is group therapy! I prefer wine with my therapy, food and dessert. Man I need to eat something... but hey I digress.
 
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Bring pop and I'll show up Mary.

Wasn't their a desert called beaver something or was it bear claws? That's sounded good.
Of course will have to bring s'mores for Dusty.
 
I am so glad for that post. It has made me want to get more involved. Stop feeling guilty about it. As I have mentioned previously I do volunteer at our Childrens hospital and find nothing more satisfying than holding and cuddling a sick fussy baby whose parents or nurses can't be there all the time for. Also as a volunteer the kids are so happy to see you cos they know you will show em a good time without poking prodding and sticking needles in them like the doctors or nurses do.
 
While I can't identify with having a child with IBD, I understand how this disease can cause us to lash out. I have been so petrified of what my meds are doing to me, I am on edge all the time.....thinking I have cancer or something from my 6mp. I get so jealous of my friends and family for not having to deal with this like me, I sometimes lash out. I feel awful after because of course they're trying to help, and I would never wish this on any of them. This disease can make you feel totally alone.

Long story short, I think you're entitled to be angry and it's ok to say it. I'm new to this forum but it seems like people here understand, I know I do. Best of luck with everything.
 
Pinor Noir is my glass of wine. To everyone here, Cheers! I need you all too!

You have/you are teaching and supporting me every day. Don't know what I'd do w/out you.
 
It's beaver tails! Best served in some snowy location. I've never had them with wine but I am willing to try. :)

What I wouldn't give to be able to get together with all of you here for a glass (or two) of wine. Just thinking about it makes me smile. :beerchug:

We really need a smilie with a glass of wine...
 
Kathy, no need to apologize! We love ya girl and knew exactly where it was coming from. Plus I also think the thread elicited some really neat responses. However, the responses on this thread are much to my liking :wine:
 
crohnsinct said:
Great! Now she has a rolling pin AND pointy needles...why do farm girls get all the weapons?
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There's no "pointy needles" involved city girl.:tongue:

As to the weapon comment.................................................................
country girls just know how to have more fun I guess.:ylol2:
 
1) I do not believe you owe anyone an apology.
2) Because you do not need to apologize - I don't feel the need to forgive you....

Forgive you for what? Being human? Being a Mom?! Being SO incredibly invested in the health of your son that you're pulling your hair out, one-hair-at-a-time?! Ummmm.. nope... I will cheer you on... I would throw my arms around you if I could... but in no way would I forgive you for feeling sad and discouraged.

I am sorry that Brian continues to struggle...

((((hugs))))
 
No Mary, drinking is against my religion and I'm sticking by it without shame and more brain cells.

Shot, we country people don't need no booze, we need to know where we left our tractors come morning, lol
 
Farmwife said:
Wasn't their a desert called beaver something or was it bear claws? That's sounded good.
Of course will have to bring s'mores for Dusty.
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You mean Beaver Tails!! They're awesome :D .

Agree with everyone Kathy absolutely no need to apologise. :ghug: xx
 
I enjoy Moscato. My husband and I have enjoyed a glass....or two...or heck, the bottle isn't that big :) :) Good advice. Love you guys!! I also agree that it'd be nice to all get together and just relax.
 
Farmwife said:
No Mary, drinking is against my religion and I'm sticking by it without shame and more brain cells.

Shot, we country people don't need no booze, we need to know where we left our tractors come morning, lol
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I am Catholic they serve wine at mass... My bad my bad... I said juice anyway. :lol:

Brain cells regenerate. Thank God or I would be really dumb.

I do it for my health... moderate drinking can have a number of health benefits, including improved cognitive abilities and lowered cholesterol levels. That an I am CRAZY and it calms the beast within. :devil:
 
QueenGothel said:
I am Catholic they serve wine at mass... My bad my bad... I said juice anyway. :lol:

Brain cells regenerate. Thank God or I would be really dumb.

I do it for my health... moderate drinking can have a number of health benefits, including improved cognitive abilities and lowered cholesterol levels. That an I am CRAZY and it calms the beast within. :devil:
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^^^^Picture if you will Mary standing up at the next AAA meeting.
Hi, my name is Mary, I like to give you reasons why it's ok to keep drinking.:rof:
 
For starters AAA is an insurance company. AA is Alcoholics Anonymous. I would never tell my car insurance company I drink. They would up my premiums and I am a total light weight and that would make me very angry. They would not like me when I am angry. Yeah... I am also a cheap date. DH likes me best that way.

Biggest bar night of the year and I am watch the Red Wings game in my room. I am old. Kicking Boston's Butt! Awesome! Where is my beer?
 
QueenGothel said:
AAA is an insurance company. AA is Alcoholics Anonymous. I would never tell my car insurance company I drink. They would up my premiums and I am a total light weight. Yeah... I am a cheap date. DH likes me best that way.
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:rof::rof::rof:

:tongue:See there's proof I don't drink or at least seek help to overcome it.:tongue:

I'm sorry Brian'smom, here you are trying to apologize and we've turned it in to city vrs country and sobriety vs.......... car insurance.:rof:

:hug:
 
Don't make me drive to you, duct tape your mouth, put an ohio state jersey on you and leave you in the middle of big bad Detroit. Cuz I will do it and I cannot even imagine your stress about it tomorrow because of the Parade going on right through the heart. lol now that would be funny stuff.

Happy Thanksgiving Farmwife I am thankful for you. ;)

:queen:
 

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