Okay, I had to jump in here...
Prior to becoming sick, my son booked a grad trip for July 2012 to Dominican Republic. The normal mom worries were there at booking time but... cutting those apron strings, right? Those worries paled in comparison to the worries that came once he was diagnosed.
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My husband and I have been almost frantic, worrying about this trip with his Crohn's. Worried that 'healthy' people get sick in Dominican, worried that his maintenance treatment will be ending that same week or so, that he will be transferred to a new GI that week or so (will be leaving children's hospital), worried about the alcohol with Crohns, about getting sick there and not getting appropriate treatment, etc., etc., etc. But, so far, neither of us had the heart to tell him our concerns or that we didn't think he should even go... :yfrown:
Well, last night at 2:30 am, my son woke me and said he needed to speak with me. Of course, my heart jumped - OMG, what's wrong??!!!
He said he hadn't been able to sleep and was thinking about his grad trip. He had decided that it wasn't a good idea for him to go, that it might make him sick and he wanted to cancel the trip. (hunhh???!!! At 2:30am??? lol) As I'm trying to wrap my head around this conversation, I asked him AGAIN if there was nothing else wrong, health-wise. He assures me that there is nothing, just that he didn't think it was such a great idea to go. That we would be spending a lot of money on his trip and he didn't think we should spend it if he wasn't going to be able to have as good a time if he was worried. :ywow: He said he'd go on some other trip some other time later...
I asked him why the urgency in telling me in the middle of the night??? He said he couldn't sleep thinking about it and wanted to get it off his chest (sure, wake up mom at 2:30am! :ylol
and he didn't know when the next payment would be and wanted to make sure I cancelled before more money was spent. AND, then offered to pay for all the payments already made. :yfaint:
It truly did break my heart that he had to have these concerns at all :yfrown: Against my better judgment, I asked him if he didn't want to think about this a bit more?
(OMG, why am I asking??? lol) But he said he'd been thinking about it for a while. (I really have no idea what brought it on???)
I was so proud that he obviously considered the complications that could arise and made a very tough, grown-up decision. Sometimes I worry that he doesn't take his diagnosis as seriously as I think he should but... they do prove you wrong, don't they?
(By they way, the down payments.... I told him I was so relieved over his decision that I wouldn't care if we'd paid in full and lost all the money!!! LOL That there was NOTHING to repay!)
Just had to share...
