Really embarrassing question about sexual intercourse

[lizbeth]

Ok so here goes, I've been too embarrassed to ask this but would really appreciate your thoughts. Does anyone find there symptoms get worse after having sex?

Can I also ask if anybody has found since being diagnosed that their partners don't appear to be interested in having sex anymore? I've noticed a distinct decrease in my husband interest and feel it's bc I now have a bottom that can produce sounds a man would be proud of lol. Seriously though I do feel he views me differently now, I've tried to talk to him about it but he just clams up.

 

[mish2575]

My symptoms don't get worse, but others might have the same problem and can chime in.

about your husband: A few years back my husband asked me if we could start a new slate with grossness. After being together for so many years we would start being immodest about bodily grossness. He said it was making him less interested in me sexually. I appreciated his honesty.

Maybe your husband doesn't want to say it to you, which is why he clamps up, because he will complain about something you cant change much about. I would suggest sharing less with him in terms of smell (be diligent about bathroom spray and deodorizers), pains, and bodily functions. Maybe he'll come back around.

 

[MissBG]

Just a suggestion but it could be that he is trying to be sensative to the fact that you may not be feeling well and is trying to be supportive. I don't know your husband so that may or may not be the case.

 

[lizbeth]

Thank you both, I tried to talk to him last week and he did say that he didn't think I would be interested cos of my health so yes Missbg I think you're right about him trying to be sensitive. Mish I understand what you're saying and it does make sense, it sort of takes the idea of intimacy to a whole new level, I did try to hide stuff but I got so sore from trying not to pass wind that I had to give up though I do try to keep it to the bathroom.

Honestly I think it's ridiculous to have to do this cos I can't help the way i am, my husband is very supportive of me and doesn't expect to come home to a sparkling house, excepting that I don't have the same capabilities as before. I believe I surprised him by telling him I was still interested in sex, possibly more than I did before, it did put a small smile on his face (maybe even boosted his ego a bit) lol.

 

[MissBG]

I am glad you guys talked about it and it all worked out! I think sometimes we don’t give our spouses enough credit. I am very fortunate, my hubby works in housekeeping at a warehouse and grew up with 2 brothers. So gross things don’t really phase him much. He used to get so frustrated with because I tried to be tough and keep it to myself. We got in an argument one night and he said that he couldn’t help me if I didn’t let him in on what was going on with me. If I trusted anyone in the world with things like that it should be him and he was right. He also has this great way of poking fun at the situation… not in a cruel way but just to kind of try to lighten the mood and bring a little bit of humor into something that for me is very embarrassing.

And I completely understand on the gas issue! I almost went to the ER one night because I was in so much pain… then I passed gas and didn’t know whether to laugh or cry. lol

 

[Crohnzie Girl]

Lol. @ missbg. That's funny but serious issues at the same time. I know exactly how good it feels to pass gas. You and lizbeth are pretty Lucky to have hubbys that are supportive. I can't imagine the thought of dating now with all I've been through. Part of me really wants to be alone bc I can't fathom the thought of having these conversations with a man I'm trying to impress. Lol. Good Luck Lizbeth.