That's it...I'm outta here!

[shazamataz]

Hi All,

Just a quick note to let you know that, after the happenings of the past couple of days, I really feel I need to take a break from this forum.

I don't want anyone to think I am being over dramatic here. I just feel so incredibly uncomfortable, almost too scared to post, and so feel unable to contribute for the time being.

I have lost a lot of sleep over this. I feel like I am abandoning friends, but I can't see any other way to cope with it all.

I feel that is has gotten petty and personal and have seen an 'us and them' that I didn't even know existed.

There are many people here I have grown close to. If you aren't already on my Facebook, here's my profile link:

http://www.facebook.com/?ref=home#!/profile.php?ref=profile&id=664725863

If that doesn't work, I'll still be checking PMs and having the odd read, just not contributing.

Love
Sharon

 

[Nyx]

I don't really know you Sharon, but I'm saddened to hear this. I hope you'll come back to us some day In the meantime, take care...

 

[Guest]

i'm saddened to read this, Shaz.

i hope you can see how much effort we're putting into the forum, especially now, to make things better for everyone, and i would ask that you give us chance to do so.

we certainly don't encourage a 'them & us' atmosphere in here, nothing could be further from the truth of what CF's staff want this forum to be. we embrace every member equally, and value each and every one of you. i hope you'll change your mind.

 

[dreamintwilight]

I didn't get a chance to know you too well either Shaz, but have enjoyed reading your contributions to the board. I hope you come back soon

 

[farm]

Shaz,
I truly hope that you just take a break and come back. Everything will work itself out, as it has in the past. We need you. You contribute a lot here and I know that more and more people, as they come here, will be missing out on a great person if you are not around.

 

[My Butt Hurts]

I hate that people are leaving over this. If everyone would have just read MikeYarmo's original post in that thread, and made some changes within themselves instead of arguing it, and twisting the real meaning of it - it wouldn't have gotten to "us vs. them".

Lishy is feeling bad because she thinks that this could have been about her (or however it was worded), but I've never once seen a problem with ANY of Lishy's posts. They were mostly relevant and appropriately hilarious.

I HATE that Mike (Kim's Mike) is deleting his posts. He is a wealth of knowledge of personal experience with PG, and it is SUCH a shame that all of those words will be forever gone.

And just for the record, a lot of the "us" have a lot of the "them" on our faceboook pages. It's not an us vs them thing, which was written in the thread several times.

I think we all need a break now and then. Hopefully you will come back soon.

 

[kello82]

shaz, sent a pm for you.

agreed with mbh, i hate that people are leaving over this, i ahte that anyone has to be driven from this forum for any reason.

im truly sorry for doing my part in contributing to the hostility. i admit that my emotions got the best of me in some moemnts, along with my current struggle to speak/write cohesively and accurately to whats in my heart.

i know for myself, i shouldve taken more care in my postings, and again, im truly sorry for that you are so upset over this as well shaz.

 

[Pirate]

Shaz, I'm going to miss talking to you. Your the first person I've ever known from NZ and you will always be considered my friend

 

[farm]

Pirate, Janis is a wonderful woman who deserves your attention. Just remember your old Crohnie pals every now and again.

 

[violetcreams]

This is all very sad

 

[BWS1982]

I know this is upsetting Shaz, and if it helps you, do what feels natural, but I'd also like to remind you to follow what brought here: a needing to be with those who understand you. I've sensed that you were so lonely without this forum, that I couldn't stand to see that facet of your life return full force. Please, with all your consideration, do what's right for you (#1) but also think about what this forum has given to you, and what you've given to it. You have no obligation to stay, but I have an obligation to tell you the truth in this instance: That you totally matter, and that you will be totally missed. Please, Shaz.

 

[shazamataz]

OMG!! Okay, so I have a lot of messages here and in PMs, everyone is being so wonderful!

I really need to clarify, that I didn't mean I was LEAVING, just planning to take a break from posting, step back for a while.

I think you are right Benson. Things have been pretty **** for me lately and I HAVE been lonely. This forum has helped keep me sane and keep me company. So many wonderful friends here.

I expect this is similar to others as well in that the degree of upset I have felt in the past couple of days is indicative not only of unrest here but also the fact that I have been relying on this place far too much. I need to stop sulking about feeling sick and losing whom I thought was the love of my life and start getting back into 'real life' a bit more. NOT that I consider you all not real, I hope you know what i mean.

Good news is that I seemed to have turned a bit of a corner and feeling significantly better in the past 3 days. I also have my brother, his wife and my 1.5 year old nephew in town for a few days. have had a great time with them this afternoon and really looking forward to seeing as much of them as I can while they are here.

Elio (my nephew) has six teeth now (last time I saw him he had one) and is finally beginning to speak. He's been slow because he is being brought up bilingual and unfortunately for me, his words are all Italian at this stage!

I hope all I am saying makes sense. I felt it easier than sending separate PMs to everyone. please know that appreciate the thoughts from everybody, I really do.

So, no I am not leaving, just stepping back a bit.

(((HUGS))))

Shaz

 

[violetcreams]

cool.

 

[Peaches]

I am glad to hear this Shaz...your kiwi butt would have been missed around here!!! I hope you have a *bunch* of fun with Elio while you have him. You know how I feel about you - I'd miss not "seeing" you

 

[gibby]

hugs......


hope to hear from you real soon!

take care hun, we'l all still be here when you get back....

 

[DanM]

Hey Shaz... Don't be a stranger around here. I am far from innocent when it comes to stupid, hurtful posts. In the end, this is a great group of people source of support. Hopefully we can move on from whatever happened and get back from the regularly scheduled drivel.

Dan

 

[mwb3779]

I can't lose my Kiwi friend!!

 

[crazycanuck]

Ok guys maybe I've just had my head in the sand but can somebody please tell me whats going on here? Shaz I don't want you to take a break or anything like that at all. Your a great person and although you may not know it have helped me too and I assure you many others as well.

 

[BWS1982]

Stretch first and then get comfortable.

http://www.crohnsforum.com/showthread.php?t=9347

Then you can go here to see how we're looking to improve:

http://www.crohnsforum.com/showthread.php?t=9379

 

[crazycanuck]

Benson the first link doens't work and I'm assuming this is because it was taken down to move on. From what I have seen I'm assuming there has been some fighting amongst members? and I heard about somebody apparently faking their death on here as well. Anyways if thats it thats fine I need no more if I'm wrong feel free to point it out.

 

[Guest]

hi Crazycanuck... just to clarify a little... yes there have been a few problems and hiccups over the last few months, but the staff are working hard to eradicte any negative issues, and we have also spent a lot of time looking into ways to improve this forum for our current and future members... things are still under discussion, but you should see the changes pretty soon...

this is a positive time for Crohn's Forum - we're looking forward, and putting every effort we can into the future success of this special place

 

[Rob]

Geeeez seems I've missed alot on here last few days
shaz takin a break - such a shame
lishy too it seems
and others deleting there posts

I havnt been posting much myself as there seemed to be something going on here
hopefully things will sort out soon

 

[Tan]

OMG Rob I know what you mean I have been only getting on every other day or two and only reading a few posts etc so didn't have a clue whats going on. Its really sad that people feel hurt from this forum and looking at leaving or taking a break. I hope everything works out for everyone, especially you Shaz have loved talking with you since joining. Will def look you up on my facebook girl.