Sorry, got it working now!
I agree with your list, however some things you really can't control. E.g. whether they'll email you between appointments, and whether you see the same consultant each time. I have one excellent surgeon who always makes sure I see him, and never "a member of the team", as the letters say.
My medical history is so long and complicated that seeing anyone new is very difficult. My GP surgery makes sure I always see the same doctor, as there's no time for someone to get to grips with my medical conditions in one appointment. So I guess my tip would be: have as many illnesses as possible, that way you'll be able to see the same doctors consistently!
I wish more doctors would use e-mail or phone consultations! I've had so many long trips to faraway hospitals, and hours of waiting, for a consultation that includes nothing that could not have been said over the phone.
It should make sense to have a list of your aims for the appointment before hand, however I find that most of my appointments don't end up following my plan. I don't bother planning lists of questions any more. Maybe that's because I let the doctor dictate what gets said? One thing I have learned is that consultants really do not like patients making suggestions about their illness or treatment! I know it's terrible, but if I'm seeing a consultant for the first time, I keep my ideas to myself until I can suss out whether he/she is one of the many doctors who gets angry when patients make suggestions of their own.
Another thing I learnt early on: don't expect a diagnosis from a consultation. Most doctors will not commit themselves to a diagnosis, or sometimes even suggest possible diagnoses, until they have all test results back.