Weight loss getting me down

[ruthyp]

weight loss getting me down

I was doing so well, i put on a stone and a half but after my recent flare i lost that again in 2weeks! i think i look disgusting! when i lay down my hips just stick out and the gap between my legs seems huge. My boyfriend tells me he still fancies me (however he does agree i need to gain what i lost purely to be healthy) but i just feel so depressed about looking so skinny.

It doesnt help my appetite has gone down, i look at food and feel sick or wonder if it going to upset my tummy.

I have a wedding to go to on saturday and the people there havent seen me since i was in hosp 2 weeks ago, iv lost weight since then and i know all the comments im going to get, im dreading it! why do people feel the need to comment on weight loss?!? if someone gains weight, people dont say "wow you've got fat!!!" but its ok to tell me how skinny i look? as if i dont know already! im obsessing about it, its all i think about, literally every second of the day i think about how disgusting i look, no matter what anyone says.

has anyone got any self help tips for me about how i can see myself differently? i know i need to put on weight, im not sayin i want to think its ok to be this small as i know its unhealthy, but i just want to feel less digusting with how i am at the moment

 

[Josephine]

I am sorry I haven't but only thing I suggest is flow (flare)top or dress. I can understand about how feel to be skinny.

 

[Hann]

I can honestly say that having crohns its difficult to see your body the way you did see it before, which is hard, I've had to tell myself things will get better, seems like a lifetime away but i guess its the only thing you can do. We have to deal with alot, all I can say is stay strong

 

[Carolyn C]

I can totally relate to what you are saying. I think people that don't know what it is like to be sick say the absolute stupidest things. My latest crohns flare up has been going on since 2009. I have had a few months on and off where I have felt good but mostly felt rotten. I have lost alot of weight over the past few years and I am extremely skinny. I have to wear an extra small and my sister bought me clothes in the junior section for Christmas. I am on leave from work right now but there is an extremely annoying man there that loves to comment on my weight. Whenever I am walking down the hall past him he yells at the top of his lungs "HI SKINNY". It is so embarrasing because anyone around turns to look at me and I just want to crawl in a corner and die. He is an overweight person so I feel like yelling out at him in response "HI FATTY".
I really think you and I will just have to find a way to not let it bother us because stressing out about it is not good for us. I am glad to hear your boyfriend is supportive because my husband is too. Like I said at the beginning of this post, people that are healthy just don't understand what it is like to be sick and go through what we have to deal with. Try not to be too hard on yourself because you deserve to be happy and just know there are other people going through the same things as you.

 

[ruthyp]

Carolyn, maybe you should say that! would shut him up wouldnt it! i notice that its mostly women that say it to me, alot of men at my work will say how good i look from when i was in hosp (i work at the hosp i get admitted to so everyone from work sees me at my worst) but the women say 'you still look very skinny'.

Yeah we have to be strong like Hann said, sometimes though i dont want to have to be strong, just normal! my boyfriend says that the more i tried to hide myself, the less attractive it is, he says that on the days i think i look nice, they are the days he is most attracted to me because of my confidence, so i suppose it isnt all about looks, its about how we come across. but its so hard, should we be faking confidence? is that the answer?

 

[Cross-stitch gal]

I know how you're feeling. I've lost so much weight that my husband swears that I could be pretty close to the same size I was when we got married. At work, I have a few concerned girls who've asked me if I've been losing weight again. It's not fun, especiallly when you already know you've lost so much weight and can't do much about it. Probably the best thing I can say for you is: I'm right there with you and know what you're going through.

 

[SomethingIsMissing]

Hello,
Very sorry for where you are at (right now). Hopefully things will start to improve, it takes time.
I know what it is like - the looks, questions and comments. I really don't think people know the anguish that goes with being painfully thin.
In time the weight gain will happen for you too. Its so hard when you are in the thick of it.
On a positive note there are a few things that might help; a supplement called absorb-aid, also in my case McDonalds 4 times a week, eating 3500 calories a day (still). Can you ask your Dr. what can you take to try and slow the 'd'. If food is difficult to eat, check out whey protein powder mix to add to beverages. Trader Joe's has very good ones, their brand. Eat frequent small meals, plenty of protein, and nuts if you can handle them. I also know that sometimes no matter what you try it just doesn't seem to want to stick. Just keep trying.
Be sure to see if you can be checked for vitamin deficiencies, some can cause weight loss.
If you are going to a event, try to wear something that fits. I found that too loose of clothing can sometimes make things look even worse. Wear neutral colors like bisque, creams, taupe, stay away from black clothing. Wear a scarf to cover the collar bones or a necklace that covers the area. Cover the dark circles under your eyes evenly, and wear neutral make up.
I am sorry this is so long, it is a heart felt subject for me.


My best to you all!
Keep your chin up.

 

[Robert747]

Hello,

I have no idea if this is suitable for you - but I am on a six week liquid only diet of Fresubin / Fortisip. So only intake are 8 small cans of drink a day at 300 calories each. I lost one stone while in hospital - but have started to put weight on through these drinks. Easy to drink so lack of appetite is not a problem.

All the best,

Rob