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What do you do with a parent that shows no interest in his sons crohns?
I am a single parent with a 12 yr old son. His dad is involved [ sort of ] in his life, in that he phones him once a week for 10 minutes. He does live 300 miles away, so they only see each other some weekends and holidays.
But my ex shows no interest at all in the problems his son is going through. This was much the same before diagnoses when we were still together, he thought I was making a fuss over nothing and couldn't see how ill our son was getting and he doesn't see it now. When he does see him, he will just say he looks okay doesn't he?
He has never been for hospital visits with us, even when we lived near him, he has never shown an interest in wanting to come along and see what our son has to go through.
Each time we have a hospital visit, or if our son is having problems with his crohns [ as he is at the moment ], I email ex telling him all that has gone on, results of anything and how son is feeling. Often I get no reply, if I do, it is just to say "thanks for letting me know" -- that is it!
My son is going in to hospital tomorrow for endoscopies, and an MRI on Friday because of the problems he is having at the moment. Ex shows no interest at all.
He was here last weekend and took our son out, so I thought when he comes back we could talk face to face for a change. I tried to tell him what has been / will be happening, but apart from saying I hope it goes well next week, he asked nothing at all about what is going to happen, how we will manage it all, if son is okay with it, am I okay. Nothing. He then goes back home as if everything is normal.
One thing that really gets me is that I know he plays the "poor dad with sick child" card with his girlfriend, parents and work collegues. So I know he does read my emails, as he tells these people everything his son is going through to get sympathy from them and plays on this. What he omits to tell them is that this information comes from me, and that he hasn't actually asked anything about it.
He always liked to be the centre of attention when we were together, so maybe this is why he is like he is now, he can't cope with his son getting more attention than him?
I know this is a moan I shouldn't really be having. But being on my own sometimes dealing with this is really hard, and I could do with some back up from my sons dad sometimes.
Does this happen with other single parents? Or am I just very unlucky in my choice of ex partner :yrolleyes:
I am a single parent with a 12 yr old son. His dad is involved [ sort of ] in his life, in that he phones him once a week for 10 minutes. He does live 300 miles away, so they only see each other some weekends and holidays.
But my ex shows no interest at all in the problems his son is going through. This was much the same before diagnoses when we were still together, he thought I was making a fuss over nothing and couldn't see how ill our son was getting and he doesn't see it now. When he does see him, he will just say he looks okay doesn't he?
He has never been for hospital visits with us, even when we lived near him, he has never shown an interest in wanting to come along and see what our son has to go through.
Each time we have a hospital visit, or if our son is having problems with his crohns [ as he is at the moment ], I email ex telling him all that has gone on, results of anything and how son is feeling. Often I get no reply, if I do, it is just to say "thanks for letting me know" -- that is it!
My son is going in to hospital tomorrow for endoscopies, and an MRI on Friday because of the problems he is having at the moment. Ex shows no interest at all.
He was here last weekend and took our son out, so I thought when he comes back we could talk face to face for a change. I tried to tell him what has been / will be happening, but apart from saying I hope it goes well next week, he asked nothing at all about what is going to happen, how we will manage it all, if son is okay with it, am I okay. Nothing. He then goes back home as if everything is normal.
One thing that really gets me is that I know he plays the "poor dad with sick child" card with his girlfriend, parents and work collegues. So I know he does read my emails, as he tells these people everything his son is going through to get sympathy from them and plays on this. What he omits to tell them is that this information comes from me, and that he hasn't actually asked anything about it.
He always liked to be the centre of attention when we were together, so maybe this is why he is like he is now, he can't cope with his son getting more attention than him?
I know this is a moan I shouldn't really be having. But being on my own sometimes dealing with this is really hard, and I could do with some back up from my sons dad sometimes.
Does this happen with other single parents? Or am I just very unlucky in my choice of ex partner :yrolleyes:
