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lol Shaz... my ex used to go on about how everyone on internet forums were weirdos.... funny, he turned out to be the weirdo, and i'm now living with and 110% blissfully in love and happy with.... a wonderful guy i met on the internet :D
 
aw peaches im glad you posted. i was afraid you wouldnt post :(

what do you mean proof? did you call the number or text them??
 
Peaches said:
Hi everyone. First off - I want to apologize for being a part of *anything* that has caused you guys unnecessary stress. My intention was to be supportive in someone's desperate time of need - and I knew you guys were more than able to be supportive as well - I have seen it over and over again on this forum. You guys KNOW me...seriously - it is ME - I would not mean to cause anyone emotional distress - especially not to this magnitude - I would hope that no one would.

You guys can completely ignore what I am about to say - but I'm going to ask that you please stop this discussion until this thing has been completely resolved one way or the other. I am waiting on one last little bit of evidence before I feel 100% confident that this is what we are thinking it is. Since I am the one most at risk for being duped if in fact this is what it is, I ask that you guys just hang with me another 24 hours or so. If I get the proof I need - then we are all going to have to apologize again. If I don't - then I just don't know what to think or say anymore. My trust in humanity will be permanently scarred.
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Shantel... it's taken a lot for you to come in and post..

listen, i want to ask you one favour... this really is the time to not hold onto any suspicion, hunch or info you may have, even if it's about someone we've not even got around to considering yet. we've covered a lot of ground in the past few hours.. there could be more. please please tell us anything that could be connected to all this trauma, but do it by pm.


eta.... just wanted to add, please don't post any details on the forum of what you know... we have to be careful right now re data protection issues etc.. thanks.
 
Guys - people are reading every single thing you are typing. If this thing is true - I'm ok with them reading it. If this thing is NOT true or we have just missed clues somewhere - we could be devastating someone!!! It may be the stupid compassionate me coming out - but I'd rather wait until I KNOW for sure without a shadow of a doubt before I assume the worst of someone.

I can't share any more information right now from my end. Please - just be patient - this will all get worked out, I promise!!
 
Hi Shantel!!!! SO glad you are real and so sorry for all the stress this must be causing you. I hope you can get it sorted soon so you can rest easy. Remember you only did what you thought was a good thing. Please don;t be 'scarred' and lose faith in people as most of us AARE real and ARE wonderful!

((((HUGS)))))
 
Peaches said:
Guys - people are reading every single thing you are typing. If this thing is true - I'm ok with them reading it. If this thing is NOT true or we have just missed clues somewhere - we could be devastating someone!!! It may be the stupid compassionate me coming out - but I'd rather wait until I KNOW for sure without a shadow of a doubt before I assume the worst of someone.

I can't share any more information right now from my end. Please - just be patient - this will all get worked out, I promise!!
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I hear you Shantel. However, if this thing is true then 'MG' is in an induced coma and so is unliklely to be reading the forum!
 
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I hear you Shantel. However, if this thing is true then 'MG' is in an induced coma and so is unliklely to be reading the forum!
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No - of course not - but as has been portrayed the entire time - her family IS. If she is real - her family is reading all this nasty stuff. If she is fake - guys - she has a *problem* - and we are definitely not helping. I mean, not that we should be helping someone with this type of problem - but we don't want to make it worse. Some of the stuff is very nasty that we are posting!!! Mike will post more I am sure - I am going to leave that piece up to him. I'm just asking for compassion for either party - whichever way it goes.
 
how do you know her family is real and reading?

and yeah if he/she has a problem that sucks and needs help (as i posted twice that it may be mental illness such as ocd compulsions that cant be stopped no matter how much they want to) but either way, after the emotional turmoil she caused most of us, we have a RIGHT to speak out about it and express our frustrations.
 
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I never thought of that Shantel - sorry.

But I agree with what kello just said. I feel we all NEED to vent here in some way. Difficult situation isn;t it?
 
Ugh, this blows my mind.

Mike: If this is what it looks like, you're not to blame. Thanks for the quick wit and swift action.

Peaches: *HUG*

Admin: I am happy to provide proof of who I say I am. I'm a bit newish and I don't want anyone to think I'm not me. Can I volunteer to be first to be "verified/bonafide?" :)
 
If she is fake - guys - she has a *problem* - and we are definitely not helping.
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On the other end of the coin, I've seen, been in the same room, as a prank caller, which this would be the internet version of if true. They have no real remorse of what they're doing. It's just cute to them. A bit of fun to pass their time, no matter who they hurt. I watched as a guy continually perpetrated a falsehood that his brother had died and went so far as to tell everyone where services were to be held, the whole nine yards. Friends and acquaintances calling in left and right. Only when real relatives started calling in did it get serious and stopped.
 
at the end of the day, this is just an internet forum. if someone is watching their daughter/sister dying in hospital, i doubt they'd be particuarly interested in what's being typed right now. would you? i mean, they have allegedly been called to her bedside...

we already have enough evidence to link one thing to another and lead us to believing what Mike has already posted. if there's anything else, we'll find it.
 
Unfortunatley, if what the mods are saying is true, and this whole thing has been fake then I don't think many people are going to be worried about making the fake person feel bad or worse. Everyone is going to need a chance to express their anger, sadness and frustration.
 
kello82 said:
how do you know her family is real and reading?

and yeah if he/she has a problem that sucks and needs help (as i posted twice that it may be mental illness such as ocd compulsions that cant be stopped no matter how much they want to) but either way, after the emotional turmoil she caused most of us, we have a RIGHT to speak out about it and express our frustrations.
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PLEASE help me out here Kello. Like I said - if this turns out to be a real fake person (oxymoron) then by all means - have at the bash session. Do you want to risk bashing if she turns out to be real? I'm NOT saying she is - I'm still waiting......waiting for that proof - but if she is - then are we just going to turn our backs on her because we made a mistake? You guys were going to turn your backs on me - and look - I am not involved (other than a possible supreme duping) and I'm getting supportive emails and PMs and phone calls??? I'm just saying I feel like we are acting way too quickly without the 99.9% certainty that for me - I need. If I get it - YOU GUYS will know, I promise!
 
I guess I'm not grasping the legitimacy of the possibility of her being "real"...I do have a tendency to have knee-jerk reactions, but I did find some private evidence regarding this all earlier this afternoon.

I've actually been censoring myself, believe it or not, but will refrain from further harsh posting for now out of respect for the time needed to allow some more smoke to clear if there could be doubt. But I'm VERY skeptical.
 
if he/she turns out to be real then apologies will definitly occur, this thread and the one in the lounge will be deleted, and they will UNDERSTAND because if someone did this to them they would feel angry and hurt too.

thats my opinion and i stick to it.
 
What I meant was I saw the evidence that Mike did personally, I guess I didn't want to say it that way, so I said "private" because it wasn't publicly introduced. Sorry for the confusion.
 
Hi Mike,

I left England on Friday 6th to go on holiday exited to be going away but really worried about MG. I was fairly new to this site and even discussed this case with my partner explaining that I was dreading coming back of holiday and finding out she had passed away. I landed early hours of this morning and have come straight on to see how MG was. I have read your comments and am amazed that MG was a hoax. I assumed innociently that people on her were desperate like me to talk to other individuals in the same boat, this is the first site I have ever been on and this has been a big wake up call that there are some sick people out there! I am so glad that this forum is around and thank everyone that answers my questions, including Peaches who has been great. I am really glad that there are administrators who find out about these sick people and get rid of them!
 
Mike, you simply made a mistake that we all forgive and I'm sure Shantel will forgive as well.
 
shaz just listed out all the similarities in the other thread....both dx as a child, took care of siblings till they were 18, got blood cancer from the meds, had most of insides removed, and went into septic shock.

wowie, i mean, what a coincidence these two are.
 
oh.
haha i dont think its screwed in ok at all. but it IS screwed UP thats for sure LOL
 
Very distressed about all of this. Will keep watching for Peaches' and Admin's posts as I would like to know the outcome.

I will still use this forum for advice as we all suffer from similar problems and it helps to discuss, but it is going to be difficult to "make friends"...
 
Peaches- big hugs to you. I'm glad you are you since you were one of the first to welcome me.. (plus Peaches is my nickname for my 1 year old granddaughter)

I will wait to see what you guys find out.
 
Hi everyone,

We are hoping to resolve this fully by today. Our most recent understanding of the situation confirms that Lynn2 death was not real. From what is actually happening is a bit murky.

I know this does not give a lot of information, but I think Peaches is right on holding off from this for a wee bit. We will get to the bottom of it and let you all know. We all want the truth and we are doing our best to get it.
 
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I think it's more rare for it to be the entire basis of a suit, as hinging it entirely on it would make everyone even more sue-crazy than they already are.

You could be cut off in traffic, and sue someone, you could have a long wait at the deli and sue someone. I'd be able to sue for the stress my moron nurses may have put me through almost risking my job, even though no monetary loss was technically incurred (thank God). Not to say this was that kind of "trauma" or to undermine all our pain and anguish here (especially yours Kelly) but that I believe using this to spearhead a lawsuit would be flimsy and futile. All we can do is believe in Karma. Unlike what Shaz said, I don't feel bad for this person really. There is something called a moral compass, and even if your needle is spinning like a fan blade, you are accountable for your actions.
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I wrote a paper recently about this. Its called litigiousness. America has a serious problem with it.

I, too, felt much like Kello did. Lynn2's death affected me more than muddin' gal's struggle. I just didn't feel right about muddin' gals situation. I was unemotional... and now I know why.
 
So I'm off-line getting Windows 7 on my computer and come back to this!
I'm quite impressed by how convincing this person has been... but I wouldn't want to share his/her karma! I shed real tears for Lynn2 and was steeling myself to do the same for MG... boy! do I feel silly.
I'm not even an amateur psychologist, but Munchausen's by proxy was running through my mind as I was working through the posts. Maybe this person is really sick and should be pitied.
I feel sorry for all of us (and for the mods and Mike)... the last thing we all need in our condition is more stress.
Now, sorry to shout, but: GLAD YOU'RE BACK IN TOUCH, SHANTEL
That's me done on this one... hopefully business as usual, soon!
 
Wow, I am shocked - I had told all my family about this moving thread and even had my husband bring my laptop into hospital for me to keep an eye on progress.

Whatever the outcome though, I have learned that this IS a GREAT FORUM, full of generous and kind hearted people. Whatever the revelations, and whatever the truth, at the end of the day I have learned more about the humanity of you guys, than any lesson about internet hoaxes.

Have to admit though - am laid up right now and kept piously reminding myself that certain people were in a much worse state than me! I shall now lanquish in self pity for a while!

Whatever the truth - the testimony is in your posts, you all have a lot of love and support to give - please don't let that change - I for one am so grateful for it!

PS - Moderators - I too have no qualms about confirming my identity, I just use a pseudonym because I have a tendancy to bear my soul (read arse), and despite the fact that this is a public forum I take privacy from the fact I don't use my real name. Most of my mates would recognise me like a shot if they came on though!

Lishyloo
 
Thank you to all of those wishing to confirm your identity. I think for now that we are not looking to validate the identity of all of our members, but we know who to go to first if we do decide to do that :).

Lynn2/Muddin Gal are both 100% fake. This has been confirmed through e-mails and conversation. What was being posted by these accounts was not actually occuring to the poster.

The individual has admitted fault and has apolgized. She has stated she will not come back and we will do what we can to ensure that she won't and can't.

I know many people here are hurt and upset over what happened, but please accept this as closure. Please do not look for personal information on the individual or attempt to harrass them or their family in any way. If I am made aware of this punishments will be required, which can include being banned. What was done to us is very wrong, however this was the actions of one person only. We do not know why she did this and the best thing for now is to not give her any of our time and just move on. Her family is aware of this and they will need to work through this issue togehter.
 
Thanks for that Mike. Something that occurs to me: is or has, this person got any other personas that should be removed? for instance there might be the possibility some of us have befriended this person on Facebook (not that I'm suggesting any of my friends on FB are this person, just saying like!)...
 
Thank you Mike... I appreciate the dedication and hard work. I also appreciate you being open to comments and listening to your group members. Thanks so much!

As for the situation... I'm hurt and angered (more about the Lynn2 story, because as I said, I hadn't emotionally invested myself into "muddin'")
 
I need to go out now, but I will be online later and will answer any questions that remain outstanding then.
 
Wow. I can't believe I cried over Lynn2 and MG. I'm sorry for what you and your family, Peaches/Shantel, went through.

Thanks, Mike and everyone for getting to the bottom of this.
 
Wow. This whole thing is so strange. I am still pretty new to the site, but I came on right about the time that Lynn2 "died". I didn't know her, so I have to say, it mostly made me feel worried about ME (not to sound selfish). I just couldn't believe someone with this disease actually died. I told my whole family.

MG was even worse for me because I read so many of her storys. She seemed so inspiring. I have been so worried about her, just like the rest of you.

This is the first forum I have ever been on and the first time that I have really had a place to talk about my symptoms. I was really getting closer and closer to opening up and then this happened. I was even thinking about putting a picture up. Sorry if this sounds silly, but this disease is often really embarrassing for me and hard to talk about honestly. I really want to have a place where I can be honest about all of the stuff that I might be embarrassed about with people who get it. I just feel so violated.

Peaches, everything that you have written on this forum has been so compassionate and helpful to me. I am glad that you are real and still witting.

I don't know how to feel right now. I guess I am mostly just glad that no one on here is dying.

Since I am new, I would be happy to confirm who I am if that is possible. I would hate to think that anyone thought that I was a fake.

This whole thing is just icky.
 
Thank you Fen and Jer's Girl.

Guys - I just really don't know what to say about all this. Again, I feel horrible that I got sooo taken for a ride and had you guys in the backseat for it. I am *really* sorry. As I put in one of the update posts before for MG - you will never find me in that position again.

As most of you know that have interacted with me - I'm a pretty passionate person - and I haven't really held back here. This is my first support forum also JG - and now I realize *I* need to change - to step back some more. I hope that I am still able to be supportive of everyone, but I really hope I can do it from a more centered perspective. It's hard when you have a wake up call to your wake up call! Crazy.....I'll probably be pretty skittish for a long, long time. But - you guys will help get me through - with a smile - because that is what this place does. It makes the horrible not seem so bad and can just lift your spirits, even on the darkest of days. I thank you guys for that.
 
Hi Shantel,
So very glad to have you back. It was heartbreaking to even for a moment think you were not real!
I hope you don't let this situation damage you too much as far as being caring for others as that would be a real shame :( However, it may do no harm to step back a little and start caring for YOU as I imagine you are one of those who spends far too much energy on others and not yourself!
You are not at fault here in any way, just the victim of some sick person who took advantage of your kindness.
Let's hope things start to settle down here soon so we can all go back to normal - whatever that is!

((((((HUGS))))))
 
Peaches, you were just doing what any compassionate, caring, and normal person would do. I really have no feelings either way about this person and their hoax.....It's just a sad situation all around.
 
Shantel

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Thank you Fen and Jer's Girl.

Hello Shantel,
Really glad to see you back, have felt so anxious for you.It is such a shock to the system to be so betrayed as this.
It is quite incredible what people can get up to and this has to be the
the worst and the sickest yet.Perhaps the perpetrator is on mind blowing drugs-who knows.
I do hope it will not deter you from being your kind and helpful self.
You are so generous with your time and your comments are so helpful and constructive as well as sympathetic.
I was so grateful for your immediate help when I was stunned out of my mind with the diagnosis I received and the enormous support from the forum helped bring me down to earth and also made me realise how much sicker than I many people were.
Please be there for us when we need you and more people like you.
I would be happy to share my identity with you or the forum but prefer not to publish onsite.
There are plenty of people who might recognise me and then I would not be comfortable sharing my symptoms for all to see.
Kind thoughts and lots of hugs.
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No one responding to the fake situation did anything to be ashamed of.

A compassionate person should not be jaded because there are con artists and others that get some kind of sick pleasure in making up some tear jerking fantasy.

I do not know the full story here, and it does not even matter that much since no one was defrauded other than emotionally.

The responses to the proposed situation were compassionate and empathetic to another human being who was thought to be in trouble. Nothing wrong with that.

The plea for money never came up that normally gives it away. At that point everyone should really reassess the situation.

It actually is a good reminder not to put personal information on the internet for everyone to see. It is mostly younger people that I see doing this, as they have not seen all the scams that have come and gone over the years. I guess older people also may not be aware of what a data miner can do with what seems to be innocent information.

I had my identity stolen without the internet. It has to be far easier now.

No need to feel bad about being a decent human being. on the contrary, you should be proud you had compassion for someone you felt was less fortunate than yourself.

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Wow, I leave for one day..... Ok, so we all got sucked in, poor Shantel got the brunt of it and relayed all this to us because we were compassionate people. I am so happy this all got resolved and fast! Kudos for all of you guys to get it cleaned up. Sadly there is someone out there that needs help even tho they are not ill, like us.

Yes, I was shocked....but it will only make this forum more aware that there are people out there who have no conscience. We may have lost some of our dignity but at least this was a learning experience for all of us, you cant distrust everyone but just be cautious. Experienced Crohnies know the symptoms and pain, if you think someone is not real, best thing to do is tell Mike or one of the mods.

Hats off to Mike and the Staff! :)
 
I'm thinking the person may still actually have Crohns as what would ahve lead them specifically to this site in the first place?
I dunno, maybe they got the disease, liked the attention it gave them and it grew from there!?
I'm still on the fence about being angry at them and feeling sorry for them if they need to tell lies on the intrenet to get attention to feel good about themselves.
I know we probably need to just let it rest but I still feel like I'd like more info on the whole thing if it is possible.
I find it makes me feel a bit nervous about trusting anyone on here and I don;t like feeling that way. How do we ever really recover from this?
 
After much discussion with my wife, I have a change of heart. I am no longer angry at this person. I realize that some people can be so lonely that they want to fit in and in trying so hard the stories get larger and larger. I do know that CD can also make some people crave the attention that they get from being ill and will play it up.
I'm just glad that Mike and staff was able to catch this and report it to us and that Peaches will still be one of my new found friends. There's really no way that you can have CD and not have true feelings for others that have it or say they have it. A truely caring person cannot help but get caught up in it.
I would rather be a caring person and be wrong than an uncaring person and be cold.
This is who I am. A 51 yr old biker who has been known to cry at the saddest things. I take pride in our military men and women and will shed many tears for them. I am a true blue person to all my friends. I love to sit and listen to the elderly because they have so much to teach and have seen so much. I love to poke fun at my friends and have them poke back. I love life and want to live it on my terms.
I don't ask for sympathy, just understanding.
So now I will move on from this subject and enjoy the company of my new friends and fellow Crohnies. There are more real people on this forum than there are fakes. The real ones will always be there and the fakes will fall to the side over time.
 
I'm under the assumption that this person did this maliciously. With some research one would find (prior to deletion) that both accounts were signed up at nearly the same time and she posted on her own first death thread. I don't feel sorry for this person and I'm pretty sure they should have to assume the responsibility for their actions. There is right and there is wrong. This was wrong and I have no forgiveness.... this wasn't a mistake... it was intentional.
 
Hi everyone. I wanted to say I appreciate everyone's positive response - it is so helpful at this not so great moment. Pirate - this statement really rang true for me

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This pretty much sums up my reaction to MG - even when I had several "you gotta be kidding me" moments. The reality is that this person is a real person, who to me is in obvious need of some help from someone who understands what is going on with her. It has to be an illness, I can't believe an unill person would spend literally months at this point involving themselves in such an elaborate scheme seeing all the trauma it has caused and just keep on doing it. She does not have Crohn's, she is not physically ill whatsoever to my knowledge. Yes, I have been angry, yes I have felt violated even - believe me. But for me, the knowledge that someone did this who has an illness really only makes me sad in the end. Sad for all of us who were involved, and sad that this person had the compulsion to do it. They have an illness - just like we do - it just manifests itself much more differently than ours.
 
It doesn't really matter, however, if this person posted by any other user name I feel we need to know.
We don't need to know a real name or any info like that, but if they did post under another name other than Lynn2 and MG, we need to know.
 
I am very confused here, although I did read the entire MG thread, some part of me wanted to distance myself from it. Like others have said now I know why.

I absolutely love the internet, I enjoy 'socialising' online if we can call it that purely because my everyday life can be very lonely. I have few friends who are really around, those who I see the most are actually people I've met online - a couple in particular I can't imagine being without now. But it's times like these I realise how vicious the internet can be and who you often never really know who you are talking to. I just can't get my head around or fathom out why anyone would take the time to conduct such a complex story here though. Although I can totally relate to Shantel's sentiment that whoever did this must be really hurting too, all I can say is I hope they get the help they so seemingly, desperately need.
 
There were several accounts used registered by the person who posted with lynn2/mud gal. Most had no posts or very few (like 2). I think we at least banned (if not deleted) all of them.
 
I know emotions are still running very high over this subject and for good reason. Many people got emotionally involved in a big way. People have asked how we will recover as a group. I am certain we that we will, if we can all face this disease and all that comes with it, we can overcome this too. As I mentioned last night while this was all very fluid and going on, I think and really hope that this brings us closer together as a group. You guys and gals are part of my family, I talk about some of you as if you lived down the street to my family. I think this whole situation has opened our eyes, I again hope (lots of hope and think in this post, sorry) - that we watch out for one another and communicate more openly about things that we are concerned about like what happened here but I also hope that we don't apply a damning eye to every new member with a hard situation and story, not everyone is such a bad apple.
 
Yes I agree, I think it will just take some time. However, I am going to have to work out a way to not automatically feel suspicious if I see a new member joining, who was diagnosed young and is really sick with loads of complications. I know it isn't right, but it is just going to send up a red flag right away.
 
To me, feeling bad for this person was like that story where the mother ate the infants brain and cut up it's limbs a while back. It divided us a bit, some said they felt bad and that lady needed help, others (like me) said she was twisted and beyond evil, and that we need to draw a line. Do we start putting pity at the plate of a serial killer, a serial rapist who indulges in brutal fantasies? There has to be a line, and every one of us draws it differently. That is why there is the plea for insanity (at least in the US), that you don't know what you're doing is "wrong" you just did it without any moral perspective because you have none....That is a very real issue in society, and it is very real right now.

I'm with Katie and some others on this, but respect those who have sympathy for this person. I feel sickened that someone would do this, and perpetrate it over months and months, and then confess to it, that doesn't sound like an insanity plea, it sounds like cognizant guilt to me. Feeling pity for them only gives them what they tried to con out of me in the first place all along. They can have no more of that, "disease" or not, they forced me to dwell on my own mortality and my own end with this disease in life. I'm too sickened.
 
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Yes I agree, I think it will just take some time. However, I am going to have to work out a way to not automatically feel suspicious if I see a new member joining, who was diagnosed young and is really sick with loads of complications. I know it isn't right, but it is just going to send up a red flag right away.
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I hear you, I have found myself being totally suspicious today with new member stories and I don't like it. It's not who I am as a rule and I feel very uncomfortable about it. Makes it hard to want to post any supportive comments but then there is the guilt of some genuine person not getting the support they need and that we all got when we joined!

Urgh!
 
We want to be caring people but we have to balance that with an eye towards being suspicious. Nobody wants to be seen as cold and uncaring but at the same time, I doubt anyone involved in the MG thread or in general wants to be taken for a fool again, the emotional capital as I wrote before, was huge and losing that to someone who felt the need for whatever reason to perpetrate this falsity to us .. it sucks for everyone who was legitimately concerned.

It really is up to the moderator team but perhaps some controls need to be put in place to screen members in some fashion without denying folks legitimate support that they need and deserve.
 
thanks so much mike and ding and the whole staff. i appreciate the fact that you involved the false posters family. though theyll never know how much their kin hurt us, but we can only hope that they can empathize better than the poster themself.

im still stricken down with worry and fear too. its awful, just cause the two death cases have been announced as fake doesnt just abolish my fears. even thought its what started them. i NEVER even thought crohns was a killer. i never thought of dying. i never thought of losing any of you until that one day and from then on it was all i could think of. and now i cant stop thinking that its still possible for us to drop one by one.
i like how you said it katie, that you werent emotionally involved. i realized i wasnt emotionally involved in the specific person death but the impact of each one on us as a whole. each death meant and increase in the percent chance that someone here would die in the next month. it freaked me out. i was emotional about the death, not about the person who died. adn wondering how many complications i was away from being next.

dont get me wrong, i hate who did this. as if we all didnt need something else to stress over, feel pain for, and have to discuss in therapy. but i guess i feel levels of hate? a person who hits a pedestrian cause they have a seizure behind the wheel is different that somone who wants them dead for personal satisfaction.
if this liar could not help their actions any more than we can help ourselves not crap our pants, then it is a different hate i feel. i do not know which hate to feel.
either way they are completely responsible for every ounce of emotional distress and wasted time on these fake lives.

ill take this as enough closure for now.
but it will take much longer and a lot of work to get the effects of this to leave me for good.
 
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((((((HUGS))))))) kello!

Sounds like this has hit you pretty darned hard! And can understand that with all you have been and are going through.

I still don't know how I feel either. Am I angry? Am I sad? Do I feel stupid? Do I feel ripped off? Di I hate this person or pity them? I guess it's a mixture. And I guess it will pass with time and all the genuinely lovely people on here who provide support and friendship to one another.

Lets all try to get over this as best as possible, though I for one will find it hard!
 
In an odd way, I think these events have already started to bring us closer as a group. We're talking and opening up about how this impacted us which is nice to see. Watching everyone rally to protect this sanctuary of a forum is really touching to me.
 
Personally, I don't this person who preyed on us is worth US being sick. Someone to do this type of nature, HAS to be mentally ill or so abused in the past. Not making excuses, we all just need to get past it, anger causes so much inside. Cant let this person think they are worth it, because they are not! What normal person could do such a thing?
 
How disgusting. Well, now I'm praying that all of our thoughts and prayers can be "transferred" to someone who is, in actuality, having a difficult time in the aftermath of neurosurgery. There are plenty of people out there who actually need our prayers...

And I agree with Fen. I love you all. :)
 
fenway1971 said:
In an odd way, I think these events have already started to bring us closer as a group. We're talking and opening up about how this impacted us which is nice to see. Watching everyone rally to protect this sanctuary of a forum is really touching to me.
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Holla :ycool:
 
Just a note here...
The person who did this really does have a mental problem...

Those who care to read online-

Munchausen by Internet

http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/article/munchausen-by

And there are other sites where you can read about this illness.

I am so sorry everyone of us including the staff were duped.
Believe me...we are all kicking ourselves for not seeing the signs.
 
Nancy Lee said:
Just a note here...
The person who did this really does have a mental problem...

Those who care to read online-

Munchausen by Internet

http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/article/munchausen-by

And there are other sites where you can read about this illness.

I am so sorry everyone of us including the staff were duped.
Believe me...we are all kicking ourselves for not seeing the signs.
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I like this bit
When Munchausen by Internet seems likely, it is best to have a small number of established members gently, empathetically, and privately question the author of the dubious posts. Even though the typical response is vehement denial regardless of the strength of the evidence, the author typically will eventually disappear from the group.
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We need a witch-hunting task-force picked from the old guard. ;)
 
IDK who to trust anymore. I'm hesitant to welcome new members or try to give/accept advice. I don't know who's real and who's another "Lynn2/Muddin Gal" waiting to happen.

I can't feel bad for the person who did this to us. Is she sick? Yeah - in a twisted way. She knew every step of the way what she was doing. She had weeks to stop her disgusting game, but she CHOSE to keep it going. That's what free will is for. It was her choice to screw with our emotions.

And, as said before, karma's a bitch.
 
Wow, I haven't been around for awhile and come back to this. Unfortunately some people thrive on this stuff and they will continue doing it somewhere else. I feel sorry for everyone who had to deal with this but I am so glad that I missed it.
 
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IDK who to trust anymore. I'm hesitant to welcome new members or try to give/accept advice.
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i say trust everyone:D

i think this kind of thing is such a rarity, and i'd rather try help new people (and old alike), than have this site turn into a closed off community. everyone here does so much good for others, i'd hate to see that lost.
 
I will make a point of assuming that every new poster is 100% genuine... unless it's an obvious spammer. If I get it wrong then I'll just have to take the hit!
The new posters to this forum are often confused and frightened and unsure of their future. If we scare them off by being suspicious and unwelcoming... then we might as well all give up now!
 
I cant beleieve any of this. I read through this whole post last night, and I just feel sad. Luckily I didnt read MG's story but I was so upset about lynn and I still thought about her often. This brave young girl who had been through so much. And it was all a lie. I feel so angry and sad. I just dont know what to think :(
 
WOW!!! My husband just said "thank God none of you sent and money!" An "almost" perfect scam. Sick "f$%k! Get a life!
 
Man i missed all of this but i have to say this did worry me alot because of the fact about hearing someone die really made me worry, When i was first diagnosed and put in the hospital it was for a torn sphynter(sp?) muscle and thats what i went into surgery for, When they opened me up they saw the infection and ulcers and told my parents if i had come in a few days later the infection could have killed me. The only reason i know this is my brother over heard the doctor telling my partens this. I didn't get this information untill my brother let it slip months later, When i asked my parents they confirmed it. But it was so bothersome because i never ran a feaver and only had the pain and bleeding. So its surprising that it is possible and that it can happen I think that is what bothers me the most. That someone can portray this and get us so involved and worried about someone. really angers me and makes me wonder about some people.
 
Huh I just spent a few hours reading this whole thread. I logged in last night looking for MG's thread to see if she was doing better and when I could not find it I sent Peaches a message asking her what happened and fearing the worst.
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I'm with Katie and some others on this, but respect those who have sympathy for this person. I feel sickened that someone would do this, and perpetrate it over months and months, and then confess to it, that doesn't sound like an insanity plea, it sounds like cognizant guilt to me. Feeling pity for them only gives them what they tried to con out of me in the first place all along. They can have no more of that, "disease" or not, they forced me to dwell on my own mortality and my own end with this disease in life. I'm too sickened.
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I'm with you on this. I was devastated when I first found out that my husband had to have this surgery. Up until then I always thought we'd be able to control "the *******" (yeah that's my name for it) with pills, so hearing about surgery felt like it was the beginning of an end. Especially because a friend of mine knows someone with Crohn's who had to have 7 surgeries already, and is basically left with nothing and bed bound. This friend also told me that all surgeries happened within a span of a few years so I was really fearing that I could lose my husband to this disease. Yes, I know..he's not that great of a friend because I swear I was walking like a zombie for a few days there and I would never tell someone such things if I knew what they were going through. Hearing more horror stories just doesn't help anyone.
Then a co-worker told me about this girl that went to high school with his wife who died from Crohn's as a teenager. Then I hear about someone else on this forum dying...and then MG. I'm sorry but even one person dying is one too many!!! So to have MG use this disease as a way to spice up her sorry life...SHAME ON HER!!!! We all have much to worry about as is and we don't need someone making our lives any harder.

I came to this forum searching for answers to many questions I had..I came to see if people really die of this disease. Reading all your stories...knowing that people are alive and have kids and grandkids gave me hope. I am glad I did because I met Peaches!!! What a wonderful person!!!

I can't even tell you how much it meant to me to exchange a few messages with her...how happy I was when I read that she had bowel resection 10 years ago and did not need another one yet. I was afraid that people might think that I have no business posting on this forum because I don't have Crohn's myself but she encouraged me and said that there are some other spouses that write. So to think that someone who doesn't have this disease would come out here and say they do and try to get people to feel sorry for them is just beyond me.

@All of you..try not to stress about this so much because I have seen how big of a role stress plays with this disease. I told her too but I know that it is much easier said than done. I think she is affected the most and I just hope she doesn't get sick over this.

Anyways, I guess I just wanted to throw in my 2 cents because I'm a new member too and I can definitely verify my identity if needed (to admins and through private messages) because otherwise that defeats the purpose of me using this nickname to protect our privacy.
 
I cant believe that this was all a hoax. I felt so sick to think that i had been taken in by the lies, and at one point i was actually sick on saturday when i read this thread.

I do understand that this person does have problems, and that they do need help, and i hope that they do get that help.
 
i was being kept up to date with mg "illness" but was floored when i found out it was a lie. lets hope this lady gets the help she desperatly needs so she doesnt hurt anyone else.
 
Hey Erazer,

Sometimes things/people arent everything that they seem on the net as we all know. This happened here and it upset many of the great and supportive community on here.

Probably best to let this lie - some peeps are still upset.
 
Hi everyone
I've read this thread with interest and intrigue but have no desire to know wots it all about, think I get the giss.
but its gonna be hard now for you guys who have spent a long time setting up this wonderful forum to gain that trust back, and that's the internet for you, it's not vetted and can get scary sometimes, I know cos I've tried internet dating, and believe you me, that's sooooo scary! I could write a book about all my conquests! It's gonna be called 'How to be a succesful Cyber Whore' lol

But seriously, quite a lot of you have mentioned trust and how to spot new posters and please
Dont tar us all with the same brush!
Lotsa luv xx
 
Joan despite what happened every single one of us is happy to see a new arrival at the door.

Some may just be a little more careful in getting too close initially - doesnt mean they arent pleased or happy or overjoyed you have found us!

This thread - even though I didnt take part in it at the time, just read the comments - was provided so it was in the "general domain" and nothing was hidden and so enabled all involved to air their thoughts at the time.

Nothing else...

And as many here agree it is better left alone now, we learn, we progress, we move on.

Good to see you here, looking forward to chatting more as time goes on!

((hugs))

p.s just edited my spelling - realised how tired I was earlier having just read that! LOL
 
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Ohhh Astra - I'm so sorry you've had to read that from us!!! I think some of us that have been around for a while forget what gets read - we are all just sitting around the living room chatting you know? We are comfy with each other. I truly hope that you have felt welcomed here though. Our main problem at this point is the intermittent spammer (which we HATE) or people coming in trying to sell a "cure" - we super hate them and have to control ourselves. That may be what you have picked up on? Either way - we love new people coming on needing help - it is really what we are here for! XX

Yes - Jan makes a good point - if you are referring specifically to this thread - it was created in pretty much a very stressful time and everyone needed to vent. I wouldn't read anymore into it than that. I'm hoping the actions of that one person hasn't caused anyone to be super suspicious of anyone new coming in. I know I practice more restraint when "getting close" to anyone new here - but that is probably a good thing :O) I wore my heart on my sleeve before - which is nuts on a forum!!!
 
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I third it?

It was very stressful and painful for us. We cared deeply about "her." In the end, it was all a lie, and trust became a big issue around here.

For a while, I didn't welcome newcomers because I thought they were all going to be like that person (or worse, that person coming back under other names!).

However, I'm thinking (hoping?) we've all gotten past that.

We welcome all new members here. We've gotten back to being a community of friends again and we love having you here.
 
Hi Everyone!
I have absolutely no thoughts about what happened, not to dwell on the past now, it's sooooooo over!
I have to say tho, that joining this forum has been the best thing I have eva done, I talk about it all the time, I think about you all the time! When I get up, I log on straight away and while away all day reading, it's been a life saver for me, cos I was going stir crazy watching Loose bloody Women, cash in the attic, Jeremy Kyle show (sorry US buddies, just some crap UK TV)
You have made me so welcome, so full of inspiration and its so admirable, cos I take on board wot you say and focus on the positive every day
I had become so despondent, so low about this Crohns and now....
I greet it with open arms and it's part of who I am and it's never gonna go away, so I've stopped fighting it!
And that's all down to you all!
Lotsa luv
Joan xx
 
:) glad to see everyone seems to have got over this unfortunate incident on our forum. i just wanted to add that it's a credit to all the members who were around at the time, that they've found a way to file this away and retain their enjoyment, and loyalty, of this place.

we all learned a few important lessons.. and staff here are more watchful now, but that doesn't mean we're suspicious of new members. not at all - we love new people joining us. personally i just wish i had time to welcome each and every one, but i don't at the moment, so if i missed anyone joining - here's a universal welcome to you all! :)
 
I was hurt and very defensive for a while, but as you can tell I've welcomed newbies and many of them have made their way into our "clique".
We refuse to let one bad apple spoil the entire bunch.
 
Don't be a bad apple LOL

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