My fiance recently got another job after not working since early Jan. this year. He was forced to quit his previous job because customers over the phone would make fun of his stutter and would yell at him on a daily basis for it and his supervisor didn't do anything about it because they said it wouldn't be fair to the other employees (he could have answered all questions through live chat instead of the phone). So one day after being tormented he started vomiting from all the stress at work and passed out in front of the toilet injuring his shoulder as he fell. A doctor wrote him out of work for a while until the doc figured he just wanted pain meds and decided to write him back to work. So he quit.
Since then he's discovered that he has a bulging disk from when we moved back here almost a year ago (his back went out during the move) but the doctor says that he doesn't need surgery (different doc) but that it will take a long time to heal. He's been using his savings to pay for rent, bills and food etc. but that's run out and he's been applying for jobs for 2 months now (no jobs that have to do with answering phone calls because of before) and finally got a job but its a stocking job. He has to lift boxes and bend and lift for hours on end. Yesterday he came home vomiting from the pain and didn't move the rest of the day. Today he hasn't moved but no vomiting yet he only worked a half day today.
He said that he wants to go to the ER. Again. We were just there a few days ago for his dizzy spells and anxiety. He wants to get pain pills cause his back hurts a lot. I told him that that's fine but I want him to quit his new job (he's only worked for 2 days). He said he wont quit because he doesn't want to become homeless. So I said, "so its better to get injured and collapse at work and not be able to work anymore and become homeless?" He isn't physically capable to handle this job and its only going to get worse. How do I convince him to quit?
He's already applied for SSD (pending), SSI (pending), unemployment (denied, appeal pending) and food stamps (approved). There's a way to get financial assistance for rent but you have to basically have almost no money and you can only do it for one month so we're safe for another month at least but no one is hiring. I've applied for government housing but that's a long waiting list (up to a year or more) and I haven't even gotten an approval letter yet cause he wasn't working at the time we applied. I don't know what to do.
His family thinks he's always overreacting. Apparently they think coming home and vomiting for a while and not being able to move for the rest of the day is normal. I understand the whole "there's always something wrong with you" business cause I deal with that too but its putting a strain on me because I can't help him, I don't even know how to help myself. I feel like I'm starting to say insensitive things to him because I'm just getting frustrated. The only income I get is the SSI but I could lose that at any time. He needs some sort of income but this job isn't going to work. How do I convince him to quit and that its not worth it? Am I wrong some how? He's decided not to go to the ER btw. He probably thinks that I think he just wants pain pills, which I do because that's all they can do in this case and write him out of work for a few days but that's not going to solve the problem. He should still quit and go ahead and get the pain pills cause they aren't the issue here.
Since then he's discovered that he has a bulging disk from when we moved back here almost a year ago (his back went out during the move) but the doctor says that he doesn't need surgery (different doc) but that it will take a long time to heal. He's been using his savings to pay for rent, bills and food etc. but that's run out and he's been applying for jobs for 2 months now (no jobs that have to do with answering phone calls because of before) and finally got a job but its a stocking job. He has to lift boxes and bend and lift for hours on end. Yesterday he came home vomiting from the pain and didn't move the rest of the day. Today he hasn't moved but no vomiting yet he only worked a half day today.
He said that he wants to go to the ER. Again. We were just there a few days ago for his dizzy spells and anxiety. He wants to get pain pills cause his back hurts a lot. I told him that that's fine but I want him to quit his new job (he's only worked for 2 days). He said he wont quit because he doesn't want to become homeless. So I said, "so its better to get injured and collapse at work and not be able to work anymore and become homeless?" He isn't physically capable to handle this job and its only going to get worse. How do I convince him to quit?
He's already applied for SSD (pending), SSI (pending), unemployment (denied, appeal pending) and food stamps (approved). There's a way to get financial assistance for rent but you have to basically have almost no money and you can only do it for one month so we're safe for another month at least but no one is hiring. I've applied for government housing but that's a long waiting list (up to a year or more) and I haven't even gotten an approval letter yet cause he wasn't working at the time we applied. I don't know what to do.
His family thinks he's always overreacting. Apparently they think coming home and vomiting for a while and not being able to move for the rest of the day is normal. I understand the whole "there's always something wrong with you" business cause I deal with that too but its putting a strain on me because I can't help him, I don't even know how to help myself. I feel like I'm starting to say insensitive things to him because I'm just getting frustrated. The only income I get is the SSI but I could lose that at any time. He needs some sort of income but this job isn't going to work. How do I convince him to quit and that its not worth it? Am I wrong some how? He's decided not to go to the ER btw. He probably thinks that I think he just wants pain pills, which I do because that's all they can do in this case and write him out of work for a few days but that's not going to solve the problem. He should still quit and go ahead and get the pain pills cause they aren't the issue here.
