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So I bought some pads for bad tummy day days cause I get bad urgency and stuff so I got them just in case and my mu found them and im humiliated.
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I'm sorry Strawberrymilkflump. It'll be ok. :hug: In a way it's good for your parent/guardian to know because then they have a better idea of how bad your symptoms really are and then they can also become a better advocate for you when you see the doctor.
When I was in high school I had to stay home sometimes because of urgency and I remember the first time I had to tell my mom exactly why I couldn't go to school. I had an accident early in the morning while getting ready and since that was the first time it ever happened there was no way I was going to chance that happening at school. My mom was very understanding but it was humiliating to talk about it at the time. Luckily we don't have to worry about that here. :shifty-t:
When I was in high school I had to stay home sometimes because of urgency and I remember the first time I had to tell my mom exactly why I couldn't go to school. I had an accident early in the morning while getting ready and since that was the first time it ever happened there was no way I was going to chance that happening at school. My mom was very understanding but it was humiliating to talk about it at the time. Luckily we don't have to worry about that here. :shifty-t:
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Aw Strawberry, try not to be embarrassed sweetie.You have done a senseable thing,to provide you with a bit peace of mind . Your mom will surely understand that and maybe realise just how badly this is affecting you. This is not a nice disease,but we have to be open about it to get the help and support we need hun .. love n hugs 
This is not a nice disease. love n hugs
Wow Mandy!
That is the first time I ever heard anyone say anything like that!
Seems to me that most folks do not know it.
Well said!
Sorry Strawberry for your challenges.
We all have them.
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sometimes the best I can do, is...
brave face and quietly wait for a better day to come my way!
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Actually, I'm not sure that we don't say it deliberately, I just think we forget.
I've been diagnosed for 30 years and recently watched a vlog on youtube by a young dudette with Crohns who was saying that everyone understands what it is like to have diarrhea but how many people understand what it is like to have diarrhea constantly, numberous times a day for 3 months.
I found that shocking because it had never really occurred to me in a long time (and that someone less than half my age was twice as eloquent on the issue :frown: )
Anyway Strawberry, it's a tough thing to get used to and you may well find that given time, your urgency takes on a pattern and becomes predictable so that you can plan around it. There's really no need to be embarrassed, it's not your fault and you have to do what you have to do ; whatever gets you through the day. :cool2:
Hope stuff gets better soon .
Actually, I'm not sure that we don't say it deliberately, I just think we forget.
I've been diagnosed for 30 years and recently watched a vlog on youtube by a young dudette with Crohns who was saying that everyone understands what it is like to have diarrhea but how many people understand what it is like to have diarrhea constantly, numberous times a day for 3 months.
I found that shocking because it had never really occurred to me in a long time (and that someone less than half my age was twice as eloquent on the issue :frown: )
Anyway Strawberry, it's a tough thing to get used to and you may well find that given time, your urgency takes on a pattern and becomes predictable so that you can plan around it. There's really no need to be embarrassed, it's not your fault and you have to do what you have to do ; whatever gets you through the day. :cool2:
Hope stuff gets better soon .
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I agree with all of the above posts.I would also have been embarrassed if I had been dx'd at a young age.Even though I was over 50,it was all new to me,as it is to you,and I found it difficult to talk to anyone,family.friends,medical staff etc,about it.But it has to be done and it gets easier to cope.Now,even if George Clooney or The Queen asked,I would tell them all about it.It's good you took the initiative to buy "emergency" pants.Once you get used to wearing them you'll feel so much more relaxed.Can I suggest you also pack a few things and put them in the bottom of your bag ? Wet wipes and spare pants,a bag for used stuff etc.just in case you need to change.Hopefully you'll never need them,but you'll feel better knowing you've got it covered.Chin up sweetheart.You're doing OK.
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Walt .. not a nice disease is putting it politely eh !! Most folk doctors included have no idea what this crohns is like to live with. Course you see because we can look pretty good,we are apparently 'good'to those who are blind to the inner workings of this devil we carry every day.
. Its a devil i will not let take my soul tho. So im still smiling .
Lets all beat this devil, by not giving up on trying to be as well as we can. Standing our ground on getting the help we need and making our lives the best we can. This forum helps so many to achive those above mentioned things, for which i am truely grateful
Amen,im off my soapbox now
. Its a devil i will not let take my soul tho. So im still smiling .Lets all beat this devil, by not giving up on trying to be as well as we can. Standing our ground on getting the help we need and making our lives the best we can. This forum helps so many to achive those above mentioned things, for which i am truely grateful
Amen,im off my soapbox now
Also agree with the above posts! It's nothing to be embarrassed about, even though it's hard not to be.
It's hard to talk about these private things, but over the years I've learned to do so to the people closest around me. Until recently I had to use panty liners every minute of every day for the drainage of my fistula, and when I was wearing light clothes in the summer, I was really afraid I'd have stains on the back of my pants. But besides that, just the idea of having to wear pads or panty liners all the time (not too good for your lady parts, I might add) was something that made me very self-aware. Still does, every now and then. So when the doctor asked: "what do you really want to achieve concerning your health?" I answered: not having to wear panty liners all the time. And he answered "than that is what we're gonna work towards".
Hope you will feel comfortable enough to talk to your ma about this stuff, or at least not to feel emberrased towards them. It helps só much to have people close to you who you can just tell anything, even the 'embarrasing stuff'.
It's hard to talk about these private things, but over the years I've learned to do so to the people closest around me. Until recently I had to use panty liners every minute of every day for the drainage of my fistula, and when I was wearing light clothes in the summer, I was really afraid I'd have stains on the back of my pants. But besides that, just the idea of having to wear pads or panty liners all the time (not too good for your lady parts, I might add) was something that made me very self-aware. Still does, every now and then. So when the doctor asked: "what do you really want to achieve concerning your health?" I answered: not having to wear panty liners all the time. And he answered "than that is what we're gonna work towards".
Hope you will feel comfortable enough to talk to your ma about this stuff, or at least not to feel emberrased towards them. It helps só much to have people close to you who you can just tell anything, even the 'embarrasing stuff'.
