I feel old!

[teeny5]

Ok, so I know I am not that old. I just turned 31 and I think I am having a mid-mid-life crisis. I feel totally old and childless. Some of you may know that I have been trying to get pregnant for about a year now. I have had no luck. I thought this last few weeks I was pregnant for sure. Had nausea and just felt off for days. NOPE...got my period today...14 days early no less. Yay! (emphasize the sarcasm) My husband wants to have kids, but is in no hurry. I feel like my clock is ticking and I don't want to be retiring when our kids go to college. I am so jealous of others who are getting pregnant. I can't help it.

Why am I not getting pregnant? I talked to my OBGYN and she said that I am perfectly healthy and should get pregnant without medical intervention. I really don't have the money to spend for IVF and I am sure my husband is not that desperate to go that far.

Anyway, just having a really bad "woe is me" day. Just need a little encouragement. I really want to be a mother...before I turn 40 would be nice.

 

[izzi'smom]

I'm so sorry...it must be an awful feeling. Trying to get pregnant is such an emotional rollercoaster- the fact that your husband isn't in a hurry must make it tough! Sending fertile thoughts your way

 

[kossy]

I'm 32 and I have days when I feel like I am 80 years. It comes with the truff of this disease.
I can not totally relate as a woman's feelings about being childless but I can as a man and as a husband. My wife and I have been trying for about 4 years now. My little swimmers are in tip top shape. Sadly it's my wifes medical issue. I feel completely helpless in the matter. We've gone through many rounds or injectable drug treatments and IUI's. All of it was out of pocket cost and it is very pricey.
I understand how you must feel when people say stupid things like "oh it will happen" and other VERY rude things. I can take it but it hurts me soo much knowing it effects my wife.
In the positively it's good to know since your doc says your health and I am assuming you don't have anything like PCOS. Have you ever got an ulter sound to see if your ovarian follicles are growing to the correct size? Or your progesterone levels check during ovulation?
I understand if you feel weird about talking about this to a guy and if you don't want to talk about it.
However, I wish you the best and just like izzi's mom I am sending you fertility thoughts your way.

 

[Catherina]

I can not offer any advice, just feel sorry for you. Hope that it happens next month. I was in the same position with when I was 30 years old (after two miscarriages at a very early stage). Maybe it's just crap but my doctors said it had to do with getting pregnant with boys. They said that it is more difficult for people with a auto-immune or overactive immune system (without being ill) to give birth to boys because the boys are more vulnerable than girls. I just emotionally let go, relaxed about the issue and said to myself that if it is to happen it will. Tried to look at the positive side of not having children. As soon as I came to terms with myself I got pregnant and gave birth to a healthy daughter! I don't know if I gave birth because it was a girl (and the doctors where right with their theory) or because I was more relaxed about it. Don't give up hope, work on it intensely(lol) but don't stress.

 

[archie]

Hi Teeny 5, please try not to stress your age is on your side 31 is still young and your doc has said your healthy, I don't know the exact statistics but only trying for 1 year isn't long they do say that it can easily take years to get pregnant naturally without any underlying cause. I know you have prob heard this a million times but once you stop 'trying' and not stressing about it it will happen. RU on any medication that might be affecting things? if so ask your doc to review things.

 

[Joleen23]

Im sorry i don't know much about getting pregnant. I am 27 (nearly 28) and i want a family soon. Were getting married in 2 month. Then were hoping to buy a house. So kids will come after that hopefully. I constantly worry that it won't happen for me.
27yrs ain't old and neither is 31. My mum had her first child when she was 30 and her last when she was 45 (not planned) she has had 5 kids in total. Im now 27yrs old and my mum is 60 and she is my best friend (sometimes feels like she's the one in her 20's lol) So i really don't believe 31 is old. I also know a girl who i work with. She tried for 2 years to get pregnant. She said she was kinda giving up hope and didn't feel like it was going to happen , then she all of a sudden got pregnant (she now has 2 little boys) She said she was quite sure it was the stressing about not getting pregnant that made it take so long.
Just try stay positive and keep trying, i really hope it happend for you soon - And keep us posted

 

[teeny5]

Thank you everyone. I think what I need to do is to stop "trying" to get pregnant. I think I am just spinning myself into a little stress ball which I imagine is not conducive to getting pregnant. I think my biggest hurdle is just going back to the thought that it just won't ever happen.