In pain again and becoming depressed

[Crohnaroideramasis]

:depressed::depressed::depressed::depressed:

Here I go again. Back on the couch, laying here in pain, throwing up, weak as a kitten, lots of blood in my stool. I'm really scared this will never get any better. I'm no fun to be around cause I'm such a grump from not feeling well. My husband has very little understanding of what I'm going through and thinks that I just need to go to the gym and get exercise! I could barely drive my little girl to school this morning and I have to teach today:-( I'm scared! I also have rheumatoid arthritis which only adds to the pain of crohn's. I wish I could just down an opiate and sleep all day. At least I'd be out of pain. I take all my meds, I've been on an extremely limited diet since May and nothing helps. Down in the dumps is an understatement:-(

 

[Crohn's 35]

Hey you I have been there this past week. Are you on any meds?

 

[chrisnsteph1022]

:hug:
I'm having a rough day, too, so I know where you're coming from. Luckily, I can take a pain pill and use a heating pad at work. I'm having a sad day from the pain, though. I'm just so tired of it. Maybe tomorrow will be better for you. Hang in there!

 

[Grant]

:hang: Crohnaroideramasis & chrisnsteph1022. I remember times where I was so tired & in so much pain that I could hardly put one leg in ft of another. No help to you both but things will improve somehow someway.
Crohnaroideramasis, I think your really going to have to explain in all detail what your going through to your husband, dont hold back. Going to the gym in your condition could do some damage to your diseased insides.
Really hope you both get better soon
Best Wishes
Grant

 

[suschex]

Hang in there...like Grant said, it will get better somehow, someway! I know that what changed my husbands take on my Crohn's was seeing the colonoscopy pics and then going to the GI with me and hearing him explain to my husband everything that I was goinng through. It is hard when you have an invisible illness like Crohn's...I mean if I was bleeding from my eyeballs no one would question my pain or need for help!

Sendinng hugs your way!!!!!

 

[JenniferH]

Crohnaroideramasis - You poor thing. You need a hug and some sympathy.
I know exactly what you are going through. I truly believe that the symptoms of Crohns not only effect us physically but also mentally. When I'm well, I'm really well and can tackle the world. When I don't feel great, am in pain or am seriously tired, I just want to crawl into a hole. Because no one can SEE Crohn's and most people haven't even HEARD of it, people just think we should 'pull ourselves together and get on with it'.
Give yourself a break. If you need to lie down, lie down. If you need to cry and feel sorry for yourself for a bit, do it. You deserve it. And you WILL feel better again.

PS my husband was similar in thinking that I didn't have anything REALLY serious and if I just exercised more and 'kept myself more busy' I'd practically cure myself. But then I showed him this forum and let him read what some of us go through and he sure changed his tune!! Now when I'm feeling low he's there with a cup of tea and keeping the kids busy so I can have a rest!

 

[Staceyscarlete]

You need a hug and sympathy and someone who understands all the horrible things that come with this disease. It's not as easy as going to the gym. Maybe you should ask your husband to research it online so he can understand better how bad this disease gets. My husband wasn't sympathetic when I was strong and played it down. It wasn't until I was in a major flare and lost 15lbs and wasn't eating and crying that he started to step up his game. Men love attention. But sometimes it's necessary for them to be worried so freak him out a little no harm in that. Show him pictures explain a colostomy. Maybe that will wake him up. Doing this is tough and doing it with kids sometimes feels impossible. Take time off work I you can. Resting is a vital part of getting better. Your body and mind will thank you.