No support from mom

[happypanda]

I was diagnosed in2009 and I have been in a state of flare up since august 2010 and have finally decided to go through with a colectomy.
I am a huge supporter and actual student of alternative medicine (I am 4 months away from finishing schooling in acupuncture), so this hasn't been an easy choice for me. Granted, it's generally not an easy choice for anyone. I have tried everything from diet to homeopathy and so much more and i feel like I just can't fight it anymore so I've asked for the surgery. My mom doesn't support this choice.
I still live at home, but my mom won't allow me to try to talk with her about surgery. It's tough when your primary care taker thinks that you are making the correct choice and that you should keep on fighting. I can't.
I am so thankful that everyone else seems to be on board with surgery, but I really wish that my mom would be too.

 

[Susan2]

Happy Panda, I struggled with alternative medicine (naturopothy, acupuncture, chiropractic, etc.) for years but my Crohns just got progressively worse. My naturopath eventually said that he couldn't do anything more for me and shortly afterwards the crunch came when I developed a massive abscess (a fistula from my rectum) on my inside buttock. I had it surgically drained and went on to Prednisolone.

 

[tiloah]

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. I'm assuming your mother doesn't have Crohn's and therefore has no idea what you have been living with. I hope your surgery goes amazingly well and has you feeling better for a long time. It's not your mother's choice. I hope that at least once it's over with she will be kinder. You have my full support to do what you think is best for your body. Good luck. *big hugs*

 

[ekay03]

Hello Happypanda, maybe you should have your mom take a look at the forum, she could then get an idea of how much suffering goes on. Nobody wants to have surgery and I'm sure you've thought about this long and hard. Maybe your mom just needs a little time to get used to the idea.

 

[Angrybird]

Hi, one way to perhaps look at this is your mum could be very frightened. You are her child and no matter how old you are you are still her baby and this could be her way of dealing with this. Now obviously this is not helping you much but as you have said, you have tried alternative treatments and surgery would not even have been offered to you unless it was considered the only option to get you sorted. I hope things go well and let us know how you get on :hug: