Plans or where would you

[Ozboz]

Hey guys was just sitting here thinking of all the plans I made where Id be at this stage of my life.

At 30 i wanted to be a home owner a father and husband also I'm a qualified vehicle mechanic i started at 17 was qualified by 23 and wanted my own shop. Well isn't life a journey coming down with severe crohns and ankylosing spondilitis now ill be happy to just get enough energy or no pain for a few hours work or just do something normal like go fishing. How bout you what were your plans/ goalls for this stage of your life

 

[SarahBear]

Hmm. I expected I'd be further along in school than I am. I've had to take a year off and done poorly because of my bad heath. It's slow going.

 

[Ozboz]

Yeah I sometimes feel like I'm falling behind in life most of my family and friends that are around my age and are working buying homes with they're partners or having kids sometimes I just feel I got the bad end of the stick.

I sometimes wonder why me I never did anthing really bad I know people that have done much woese and are healthy happy and are getting on with life

 

[SarahBear]

I agree. It's just not fair. But I try to focus on how this experience has made me stronger and more compassionate person, instead of thinking about what it has taken away from me. There are some positives in there!

 

[Amberly]

I had planned to be at a University, but I took a year off also.
I wanted to have my license and have a job and possibly my own place, too.

However, I attend a smaller college now, still have not find time to learn how to drive, and don't feel well enough to work.

But on the brightside, I have saved so much money by going to a smaller college and not having to pay for car insurance!

 

[SarahBear]

Saving money is great! It's great that you don't have to work. Definitely don't push yourself into it if you're feeling unwell!

 

[Amberly]

Definitely! I would not mind working, but its hard to find a job that has really flexible hours.

 

[madferrit]

Hey guys was just sitting here thinking of all the plans I made where Id be at this stage of my life.

At 30 i wanted to be a home owner a father and husband also I'm a qualified vehicle mechanic i started at 17 was qualified by 23 and wanted my own shop. Well isn't life a journey coming down with severe crohns and ankylosing spondilitis now ill be happy to just get enough energy or no pain for a few hours work or just do something normal like go fishing. How bout you what were your plans/ goalls for this stage of your life

I had my kids when i was young-er lol. I had 2 boys & got married by the time i was 21.
Im very glad i did as ive been told i probably wont be able to get pregnant now or carry full term if i did.
I too wanted to own my own home and be a qualified counsellor but i just havent been able to work full time or study for a degree.
But i think you change your priorities when your health suffers. Im very grateful for my family i just wish i could be healthier to do more with them.

Dont give up hope reaching your goals. I wish you better health and happiness oh and good fishing weather! ;-)

 

[Leaky_Gut]

If I could muster the energy and get past the pain, I would probably get up off the couch.................

 

[Cross-stitch gal]

I've been wanting to try doing something different in my store. But, have wanted to be feeling better before doing that. Right now I work at the apparel checkstand and for the most part act as a Head Cashier since majority of the time the real Head Cashier doesn't fulfil her job even though she gets 40 hours a week and I don't. Been working as a cashier at this store since 2001.

 

[Irene3]

Hi Ozboy....omg I agree with both your posts so much. I thought I'd be married, and living a normal life. Never thought I'd be at a point where started working twice since diagnosed, both times in hospital, then uni twice (with the bright idea that maybe if I have a sit down job, it will be easier with crohns lo g term) both times had to defere after going to hospital. Single mum, at home, somedays, sorry for tmi, afraid to go shopping when severely bloated, incease I fart and it turned into more then just a fart :/ I still want to do uni, still think its best if I strive towards a sit down occupation, so if in 10-20 years, I need surgeries, have bad flares, then at least I have a decent income, and job, which will be easy to take time off if need be. Deff never thought I'd be counting cents to get milk etc or borrowing 50 of mum weekly that's for sure. Even 4 years ago , when symptoms were horrid, I always tried to at least have part time work. Ahh well hey. :/

 

[Hobbes650]

I was diagnosed just before graduation from high school. Wasn't well that fall so took the year off from school. The next year too as I had my first two operations. Ultimately back in the hospital on multiple times over the next few years to fix problems. Finally graduated college when I was 27, even though I only spent 4 years in school. I stopped thinking about where I'd be at this stage a long time ago. This is one of those areas God controls, but it doesn't mean I'm disappointed by any means. You do the best you can and roll with the punches. Time doesn't really matter.

 

[tots]

I am not sure where I would be but, it wasnt here!

To be honest- I have had alot of tramatic events in my life and I guess I am thankful I can get through them before my body betrays me.

On the other hand 2 1/2 years ago our friends were over hanging out. She talked me into applying for a sales potions at a new clothing in our outlet mall. I never thought I
would last 2 weeks! 2 1/2 yrs later I was just promoted to Asst store mgr! I love my job
and I love my customers!!

So along with the bad is the good- I just thought maybe I would be happier and just suprised by the bad stuff!!

ALot of people say- all that is what made them who they are today. I might have liked who I would have been without all the bad stuff!!:hippy:

Lauren

 

[Ihurt]

If someone told me 11 years ago that I would be as sick as I am today, I would never have believed it! I had so much planned for my life that it gets very depressing when I even think about it. I have had to go on disability due some of my health issues and that has hurt the most. Before getting sick, I was an energetic go-get-em- type of person. Now I barely make it through each day. I think what hurts most is that I am unable to be a productive member of society due to chronic illness. It seems so unfair.... I know a lot of you can relate

 

[AlliRuns]

Crohn's is still pretty new for me, even though my doctors have suspected it for awhile, I have just been diagnosed. My life was where I wanted it to be and now I feel like my life has just been tossed upside down. I'm calling it a strategic pause because I have no idea what's going to happen, it could take 2 years for the medical system to decide to release me from the military so I can't even start looking for a new job at this point.