Rest in Peace, My Beautiful Mum

[Astra]

Dear friends

I've been away for a while, my Mum died peacefully this morning after a courageous 15 year battle with Alzheimers disease. I feel so sad, but also quite relieved too, if that makes sense. Alzheimers truly is the most horrific of all diseases, and we have spent a week watching her slowly die without food or water because she had lost the ability to swallow. And I had made the decision not to resuscitate her with IV meds, we wanted her to go with some dignity, not in hospital. So she was put on Pathway where all meds and intervention is ceased.
It angers me that people have to die like this, without legal intervention, I honestly wouldn't put a dog through that, I hope when my time comes, there is some sort of End of Life Policy from this Government that doctors can intervene when the time is right, with a legal overdose of diamorpheine.
My Beautiful Mum is at peace now with my Dad.

 

[Cackman888]

very sorry for your loss joan, may your mummy rest in peace x

 

[BLM]

Rip

Im sorry for your loss, there are no words of comfort when you lose a parent, especially your mom. I lost my mom 7 years ago, after a long battle with cancer. I brought her home and took care of her the last month of her life here on earth. It was by far the hardest thing Ive ever done, but given the chance, I would do it all over again. I pray for you and your family during these difficult times~

 

[CDDad]

I'm sorry for your loss. Everything you said makes alot of sense.

 

[Crohn's 35]

So sorry sweetie, I know you have been going through so much. I am so glad your sisters where there with you and supporting one another. Losing a family member in such a way your mum did , is physcially and mentally is very hard on the living too. Your mom is happy now, no pain and no agony, and I am sure your mum and dad are dancing in the clouds. Wonderful memories is what keeps us going. Hugs! xxx

 

[dreamintwilight]

Sorry to heat that Joan, but glad she doesn't have to suffer anymore and neither do you! Hugs to you!

 

[MapleLeafGirl]

My thoughts and prayers are with you Joan.

 

[uab grad student]

Joan, you are in my thoughts and prayers right now. Alzheimers is a very devastating disease and you are right, she is in a better place.

 

[Cookie]

Joan, I am so so sorry for your loss and the difficult time you had to go through. My grandfather, the person I admired more than anyone in this world, had Alzheimers, and seeing him go through that was so very tough. You have my deepest sympathy.

I also agree with everything you said about an End of Life Policy. It's one of the few issues in life that I simply can't see the opposing side's argument. In my mind, it's completely inhumane to force a person to suffer without hope or dignity. At least your mother is in a better place now. May she rest in Peace. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

 

[Guest]

aw Joan honey i am so sorry to hear of the loss of your mum. i know what it's like to lose a parent.

i also completely agree with your opinion on legalising euthanasia - it's something i feel very strongly about and hope it becomes easier in our lifetime.

my thoughts are with you at this sad time, Joan, and i wish you strength to get through these days, and send you hugs and condolences.

 

[GoJohnnyGo]

So sorry about your loss.

 

[Jerman]

Aww, Joanie I am so sorry dear. My gram had that godawful disease and it broke my heart to see such a proud vital woman reduced to a shell of her beautiful self.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, along with a big hug for ya. Take good care my friend, god bless you and your mum.

 

[Jennjenn]

I feel so bad about your loss of your Mum. I hope you and your family are ok and all of you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[ChefShazzy]

My condolences, Joan; so sorry you are having to deal with this. All the best to you and your family.

 

[Nyx]

I'm sorry for your loss Joan. Alzheimers is a terrible disease, my grandfather passed away from it a year ago. I can understand how hard it is to watch a loved one continually deteriorate before your eyes. My thoughts are with you and your family in this time of sorrow. Take care of yourself!

 

[bethyd78]

Joan
I am sorry to hear of your loss. My Mom is 93 and has Alzheimers and or some kind of dementia. She is getting real hard to handle. She is becoming so frail I am not expecting her to live too much longer. I am sorry b/c no matter how sick they are it is still you Mom that you lose. It may not be the Mom you remember but it is Mom. Thoughts and prayers to you.
Bethy

 

[Regular Joe]

Joan,

I'm so sorry for you, baby. That is probably the roughest disease to go through, and also to watch the person you probably were closest to go through, your mum. I'm so sorry.

 

[InkyStinky]

sending some (((((hugs))))) for you, Joan

 

[DustyKat]

Oh Joan what a sad time for you. I understand your thoughts and feelings on end of life policy. Although I have not suffered your loss on a personal basis, my line of work is dementia and palliative care. Dementia is such a distressing disease not only for the sufferers but also their loved ones. My thoughts are with you.

 

[crohnicaly stinky]

Joan, I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[can1991]

Thinking of you Joan at this difficult time! Hugs!

 

[karim]

I cannot imagine the pain you must be feeling but know you are in my thoughts and prayers...

Kari

 

[PeninsulaLil]

My sincerest condolences on the loss of your mother. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Lilly

 

[Mountaingem]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace and comfort in your memories of her.

 

[A1Aussie]

Sorry for your loss , Im dreading the day i loose one of my parents. I agree with all your comments on the end of life policy and hope the goverment in Australia come up with a policy that gives you a choice before you get beyond knowing who you are . OXO

 

[David in Seattle]

It angers me that people have to die like this, without legal intervention, I honestly wouldn't put a dog through that, I hope when my time comes, there is some sort of End of Life Policy from this Government that doctors can intervene when the time is right, with a legal overdose of diamorpheine.
My Beautiful Mum is at peace now with my Dad.

So sorry Joan, and I completely agree about the need for a humane euthanasia option in such cases. At least your mother will suffer no more.

 

[Astra]

Thank you so much my dear friends
I am so touched by your compassion and I've been crying reading the messages.
I am truly grateful
Mums funeral is next Tuesday and we'll send her off in style, just like how she lived before this awful disease, glamourous, stylish, classy and beautiful.
I have a lovely story to share with you about Mum
She was born in Liverpool and lived next door to a boy called John, she courted John for many years til she dumped him for my Dad!
Mum worked as a sewing machinist from the age of 16 and this John went on to become famous, he was John McNally from the band The Searchers!
John penned his most famous song 'Needles and Pins' about my Mum!
That's our claim to fame!
xxxx

 

[Dexky]

Sorry for you Joan. God bless.

 

[merrywidow]

hugs


i am with you on euthanasia.

when my husband was dying, he was ust a "cabbage" and if i had a animal in the state i wouldve been prosucuted for causing suffering. but it was "ok" to keep him alive. crazy bloody crazy.
like you, it was a relive when they died as they werent suffering anymore.
he stated that if he got ill he didnt want resusitation,but to force the drs to stop feeding him via his PEG tube, i woudlve had to go to court.
i sat by his bedside wishing he would die, that may sound awful, but unless you have been there you wont understand that feeling.
the law in this country is so wrong and needs changing.

 

[David in Seattle]

Joan - Sent you a PM

 

[violetcreams]

Lots of love Joan. I lost my Mum 15 months ago after a long battle with cancer. I too was relieved, as well as very sad when she went. Lots of love to you. xxxxxxxx

 

[Mayflower537]

Sending love and prayers your way, Joan. So sorry to hear about your loss.

 

[Christy]

((((Joan)))) My prayers for you and all your family; I know loss is never easy, no matter how expected.

 

[Hedgehog]

Oh Joan, I'm so sorry for your loss. My Gran had Alzeimers and it's a terrible disease. Even though your heart must be breaking, it must be a relief to know she's at peace now.
Lots of love,
Gail
x

 

[ataloss]

What a great story about your mom and her inspiring a famous song!!! Very cool

 

[merrywidow]

Anyone who has a serious situation of this type may want to follow Derek Humphry's web site. Humphry (a Brit, BTW ) now lives in Oregon, which in the late 90's passed a "Death with Dignity" act, which is supposed to make it legal for the terminally ill to end their lives with medication. Easier said than done, but Humphry also has information on a surprisingly straightforward method of accomplishing a peaceful release for yourself or a loved one should the time come using readily available helium. If someone is in this situation, simply knowing they have the means at hand to end their suffering if it becomes unbearable often allows them to go on longer with better peace of mind than might otherwise be possible.

euthanisa is illegal here in the uk, people are in prison because they helped their loved ones die.

 

[Claire617]

It's always the nicest people that are put through very tough hardships Sorry about your loss, I can't imagine it, you are a very strong woman

 

[Entchen]

Dear Joan, I am so sorry for your loss. Take good care. *Hugs* to you.

 

[belle1999]

Joan, I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[D Bergy]

It is hard losing a parent, and especially with a slow and tortuous demise that Alzheimer's can bring.

Her battle is over, and I hope you have very good memories of her when she was well.

Dan