Wildmtn, I *hate* doctors like the one that suggested you are causing your own pain - seriously, victim-blaming is just wrong! (I'm sure I told this story before, but I once saw a horrible doctor who walked into the room without so much as saying hello, he immediately started by saying, "You have IBS. And you look depressed. Would you like some Zoloft?" Uh, I "look" depressed?? Do they teach that in med school - if a sick patient comes in looking sick and isn't smiling, just throw some antidepressants at them without even asking them one single question first? Ugh!)
I'm glad you get to see a Dr. House type of doctor! I hope he's good, although of course I am familiar with the show so I know that the Dr. House character doesn't exactly have the best bedside manner.
So I hope your new doc is more empathetic and kind than Dr. House! Keep us posted on how it goes.
Kelleh, you're getting worse?
Are the steroid supps making things worse, or the lactulose? I bet the supps aren't fun to insert with as much pain and inflammation as you've described, but once they're in they should hopefully help. I hope things turn around soon! If not, give that doctor a call ASAP.
Izzie, it's totally okay to be scared - it's scary to be sick and not know what's going on or if you'll ever feel better. On my bad days I have similar thoughts. I'll be like, "I'm sick and I'm always going to be sick, this is just going to keep happening forever, this is all my life will ever be and it's never going to be better, it will only get worse". I know that thoughts like that are destructive so I try not to think like that, but on bad days it seems to be inevitable. That's not really helpful to you as I don't have answers for you, but you're not alone.
And, for what it's worth, you CAN feel better. I spent 2 wonderful years in remission and I'm working my way back (or maybe I'm back in remission but it's just a bit different this time? My GI thinks I'm in remission but I'm just not sure). Those 2 years that I was in remission, I felt not 100% better but definitely a solid 95% better much of the time (I still had to watch out for trigger foods, keep my stress levels in check, etc). It was a "new normal" but it was reasonably close to my old normal. I could exercise, travel, just generally live my life and feel quite well and happy. Yes, I still had bad days but they were not as bad as they could be and they were fewer and further between. My gut monster had a nice long nap and I basically just loved every second of it. So, I know that remission is possible - I lived it and I can get there again, even if it's a huge struggle. It's worth fighting for and it CAN get better. Yes, I know that I'll be sick forever, because the monster can't go away, it can only go to sleep. But life with a dormant gut monster is still good. So, long story short, it's okay to be scared and angry and sad and whatever else you're feeling - but you also need to keep pushing forward and fighting.
Update on me: The constipation is completely gone, that was fast.
Right back to my usual 2-3 times per day diarrhea. (I usually go once first thing in the morning and 1-2 times at night just before bed - first thing in the morning and last thing at night is when my guts are the most grumbly.)