Welcome Balgeary

[Balgeary]

Hello all, I'm here not as a Crohn's sufferer but rather as someone that wishes to learn what he can in hopes of helping a loved one to ease her burden of Crohn's. I am on a quest for knowledge, advice and experience. I am not so foolish as to expect to find answers, more looking for hints and insight. Anything that may lead me to a better understanding and a way to formulate a plan of support.

I admire all involved that tell their story to both help others and themselves, and I admire all that can carry on with a semblance of normalcy while suffering what I understand to be a rather discomfiting and , at the VERY least, inconvenient disease. You're all heroes in my eyes.

Thanks for your time,

Balgeary

 

[Astra]

Hi Balgeary
and welcome

Yes we have knowledge, experience and advice! That much is true!
But this disease is so diverse and MASSIVE!!! So it all depends on what you need to know? meds? diet? have a read through the sections on here.
we have a lot of carers of loved ones with CD on here, so any questions, fire away, lots of friends and support here for you!
lotsa luv
Joan xxx

 

[Balgeary]

I'm just now looking through some of the threads and forums. There seems to be quite a bit here to help! As soon as I get a better feel for what has been asked and what has been answered, I'll surely throw my two cents in.

Thank you for the welcome Astra, I'm sure I'll be trying to cover everything from medications to dietary advice to what can I do to just comfort when all else fails. And rest assured, I will have many questions!

 

[DustyKat]

Hi Balgeary and :welcome:

Good to see you here. I don't have Crohns, my daughter does. This is a safe and friendly place to find information, support, friendship and a laugh. As Joan has said, browse through the forums and feel free to post any you may have. There is a wealth of information and experience here and three months later I am still ploughing my way through it! Also the search option is a valuable tool.

Welcome aboard!

Take care,
Dusty

 

[Balgeary]

Thanks for the help Dusty! I look forward to connecting with others that have a loved one they 'support' and I hope to glean a bit of their knowledge.

 

[Entchen]

Hi, and welcome to the forum! We're glad to have you here.

 

[Crohn's 35]

Hi Balgeary,:bigwave: glad you are here and you must be a great support for caring enough to be here for someone else. Support and unconditional love is so important to a Crohnie. I have a wonderful husband who is there for me at every turn. It is hard enough for me to deal with having it that I forget how scary it can be for him too. Seeing someone you love or care for in great pain and also embarrassed, is really hard too.

Kudo's for you being here. We maybe heros to you but heros help us too!

 

[Balgeary]

Thanks Jett. From my side, one of the biggest obstacles to overcome is the whole "I love you, and Crohn's doesn't change that." I swear my heart cries a little each time I hear my wife say "I'm sorry" when she flares up. Almost as if she's to blame for having this disease. I routinely explain to her that it's like apologizing for being tall or dark haired or left handed. And also that I'm fairly certain she didn't make a conscious decision to have a debilitating illness. I tell her that can't be so because the fact she is with me shows she makes far better decisions than that. Keeping humor involved often tends to help ease her embarrassment, when all the while she never needs to be embarrassed. I only wish there were some way to help out that was more productive.

Thanks again all, it's nice to find somewhere to talk with others that have been there and don't try and candy coat the realities of this sort of relationship. My grandma always told me the most intensely powerful disease is, after all, love.

 

[Crohn's 35]

Your Grandmother is wise, take her advice! I was reading and I too apologize! I don't know why, maybe because I feel like I am holding him back for a better life, but he gets upset when I think like that. He would walk on water for me. I can't ask for more than that.

:hang:

 

[duck68]

Welcome to the forum...I hope that you are able to find some answers to help your wife. I have great support from my husband too - he tries to understand and he is very sympathetic to what I go through. We are so lucky to have supportive husbands/partners/parents to help us get through the bad days.

 

[Dexky]

Hi Balgeary, welcome!! I'm another supporter. My son has crohn's. Maybe your wife could join us as well!! This site has been a godsend to me. The friends I've made here are as real as any in my life. Sometimes I come here to not think about EJ's disease!! Good luck and stick around!!

 

[reidyjo81]

Hey, just wanted to say welcome and your wife is very lucky to have you
jo x