Would you consider this a lie?

[MissBG]

Ok, hubby and I had already decided that we didn't want any more kids and since being diagnosed with CD I have decided to get a tubal (that is if my liver has recovered from the Aza).

Anyway here is the issue, I have used all of my leave up at work and now am on intermitent FMLA. My dr has advised us that if we hadn't already planned to have more children it would be best not to. So would you consider it a lie to tell work that I am having a medically neccissary procedure?

I kinda feel like I am being dishonest here but at the same time with the state my disease is in now it could be high risk for me to get pregnant.

 

[Rebecca85]

Just a quick thought- Does it have to be you that undergoes the procedure? Can't hubby have his tubes tied? I'm sure it's a quicker and easier op for men than women, plus there is less risk of the op making you flare, or complications like adhesions occurring.

 

[MissBG]

That was our original plan but he has used all his leave to take care of me and wouldn't be able to have the procedure till next year. I earn alot more leave than he does and my job is much more forgiving when I have to take leave with out pay.

 

[Rebecca85]

To be honest, I wouldn't be comfortable lying to work- I am 'too honest' and struggle to tell even small lies. I would be too scared that either this is the time they ask for documentation, or I would suffer complications as a result of the procedure and get 'found out' that way.

I personally would be looking into long term contraceptive measures until such time that one of us could have the op. Or coming clean with work, telling them the doctor has 'strongly advised' you to have the procedure due to the risk to your health if you were to become pregnant.

 

[Ckt]

This is a fairly old thread but medical issues are coverEd under the privacy act. It is between you and your health care providers. Honestly?i don't feel it is a lie to tell your employer that you have to have a medically advised procedure. They do not need to know what the procedure is.and if you haven't had it done yet and experience health problems post op,any surgical procedure you may have could cause a flare. I believe in honesty too but I have learned that tmi does no one any good.
I wonder what you decided to do if you did go ahead?

 

[MissBG]

This is a fairly old thread but medical issues are coverEd under the privacy act. It is between you and your health care providers. Honestly?i don't feel it is a lie to tell your employer that you have to have a medically advised procedure. They do not need to know what the procedure is.and if you haven't had it done yet and experience health problems post op,any surgical procedure you may have could cause a flare. I believe in honesty too but I have learned that tmi does no one any good.
I wonder what you decided to do if you did go ahead?

Thanks for the comment! We did originally decide to go through with it but after we saw what the insurance company was going to cover and what we would have to pay we had to postpone it. With all the other dr bills and everything we have going on right now we just couldn't afford it.

I do agree though, tmi really makes everyone uncomfortable. My bosses son however has UC and had a coloectomy and Jpouch several years ago so she understands mostly how this goes... she just likes to talk about it to much. lol

 

[Ckt]

I'm really sorry you had to postpone things due to cost. Are you in the states?i am and really,it's the biggest thing I detest about our health care..folks having to wait for an 'elective' surgery due to the exhorbitant costs. I am very lucky to have the best health insurance going. I chose it because of this and the fact that they cover most popular alternative therapies like chiropractors,acupuncture,and massage.
It's great that your boss can really understand your illness due to experience with a family member..great for you anyway! so she wl likely be incredibly supportive having seen firsthand how this disease affects someone!

 

[MissBG]

I'm really sorry you had to postpone things due to cost. Are you in the states?i am and really,it's the biggest thing I detest about our health care..folks having to wait for an 'elective' surgery due to the exhorbitant costs. I am very lucky to have the best health insurance going. I chose it because of this and the fact that they cover most popular alternative therapies like chiropractors,acupuncture,and massage.
It's great that your boss can really understand your illness due to experience with a family member..great for you anyway! so she wl likely be incredibly supportive having seen firsthand how this disease affects someone!

Yes I am in the states, Oklahoma actually, it was very frustrating. We do have very good insurance but since it is an elective thing as you said its still pretty expensive. I am now taking a pill... which with all the other pills I take isn't that big of a deal.

She has been wonderful. Extremely understanding and very helpful.

 

[chrisnsteph1022]

It shouldn't be considered elective. Your doctor needs to submit a pre-auth to the insurance with it being medically necessary due to your health. They should cover it. Docs know how to code things the right way and it's not fraud-it really is for a medical reason!

 

[MissBG]

I agree! But they were saying I would be responsible for 15% (sounds small I know) but it still would have put me out over a thousand dollars and they wanted $400 up front before they would do the procedure.