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Old friend saying horrible things
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Oh my goodness.. I am so shocked by what he has said. That is awful!!
I really wouldnt know what to suggest..
Do you have any friends who are standing by you? And for those who are having a go at you... do they know what your "friend" said to you?
I am sending you big hugs :hug: and I hope you and your friends can resolve this.. but sometimes in life friendships breakdown because primarily.. you need to think about yourself right now, especially when you are ill. In saying that.. cutting people off or standing your ground may make you feel worse in the long run if you do lose friends
I think a cool off period would be good.. and maybe that period will point out to you how you want to deal with this situation. Dont make a reactive decision that you may regret xx
I really wouldnt know what to suggest..
Do you have any friends who are standing by you? And for those who are having a go at you... do they know what your "friend" said to you?
I am sending you big hugs :hug: and I hope you and your friends can resolve this.. but sometimes in life friendships breakdown because primarily.. you need to think about yourself right now, especially when you are ill. In saying that.. cutting people off or standing your ground may make you feel worse in the long run if you do lose friends
I think a cool off period would be good.. and maybe that period will point out to you how you want to deal with this situation. Dont make a reactive decision that you may regret xx
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I have found that so many of the people who I used to enjoy spending time with are just plain "rude".
It is hard for a Normal person to relate to Crohn's/Ulcerated Colitis unless they have a family that have experienced it.
It would be a great paper, or essay if you want to explain your issue.
I would start off with, "I am a normal person, who eats, sleeps, plays and enjoys life just like others my age. I just have one disadvantage that most people do not have to deal with, I have a disease that there is no cure for"
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I think that educating other individuals is the best way to handle your particular situation. That person just did not understand, but do not let others tell you who you are remember this:
I only have one life, I only get one chance, I will be my best
How you feel about me does not matter
I am the only person who is allowed to control my idea of self worth
I am neither a lesser being nor am I a greater being
I am just a human being
I can only be who I was created to be
I have found that so many of the people who I used to enjoy spending time with are just plain "rude".
It is hard for a Normal person to relate to Crohn's/Ulcerated Colitis unless they have a family that have experienced it.
It would be a great paper, or essay if you want to explain your issue. I would start off with, "I am a normal person, who eats, sleeps, plays and enjoys life just like others my age. I just have one disadvantage that most people do not have to deal with, I have a disease that there is no cure for"
:ghug:
I think that educating other individuals is the best way to handle your particular situation. That person just did not understand, but do not let others tell you who you are remember this:
I only have one life, I only get one chance, I will be my best
How you feel about me does not matter
I am the only person who is allowed to control my idea of self worth
I am neither a lesser being nor am I a greater being
I am just a human being
I can only be who I was created to be
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That is utterly disgusting. I've had Crohn's since I was 9 and I've never experienced quite THAT level of animosity! IMO, (although this may sound harsh) you should cut him off, at least for a little while. Yes, he may be an old friend, and it might hurt, but he needs to understand how he's hurt you. You need be selfish right now and think of yourself Is there anyone else you have as a friend who understands? Can they back you up somehow?
It sounds a bit unfair, yeah, but I had a friend who turned toxic in a different way. Eventually, I came to realize that I just couldn't care about her as much if I was to keep myself stress-free (and therefore, healthier!) as well. You are who you are - and don't let anyone try to change that or make you feel bad for it!
Sorry I rambled a little bit there. Hope you figure things out soon and everything calms down.
Is there anyone else you have as a friend who understands? Can they back you up somehow? It sounds a bit unfair, yeah, but I had a friend who turned toxic in a different way. Eventually, I came to realize that I just couldn't care about her as much if I was to keep myself stress-free (and therefore, healthier!) as well. You are who you are - and don't let anyone try to change that or make you feel bad for it!
Sorry I rambled a little bit there. Hope you figure things out soon and everything calms down.
Bengals, sorry you are having to deal with this "friend" being so very insensitive. My guess is he doesn't understand at all what you are really going through. You are probably wise and compassionate beyond your years because of what you have had to deal with at a young age.
Don't be afraid to distance yourself from him if you feel it is in your best interest.
Don't be afraid to distance yourself from him if you feel it is in your best interest.
Thanks guys
