Hey, ive read your story and really recognize alot of the things you've said from my own disease. I've had crohns for some years now, and I've never been in remission, always had the pain. Nothing really works for me, tried all the meds(currently on remicade). But ive been lucky with good doctors at least, who have helped me out alot. Ive had pretty much side-effects of all
the meds, same way it sounds like you have.
I wanted to share a few things that have helped me out a bit, with pain and side-effects etc. So it can hopefully help you and others feel a lil better, even if it's not much.
Like one thing i read that you've been on is iron pills, you really should NOT be taking those, they are really bad for someone who has stomach problems, and really blocks up your bowels. Try talking to your doctor about getting iron intravenous instead. I always had low iron, cause of bleeding, but now i get iron maybe a couple times a year, and it really helps on energy.
Also i read you have problems with your skin, rashes etc. Because of remicade, that im taking for crohns, ive developed alot of skin issues, i get rashes everywhere and developed a skin disorder called psoriasis. I've been at a dermatologist for this. And he prescribed a cream for it, it helps with ANYTHING. It's really amazing, called Betnovat Chinoform cream. You combine it with a normal cold creme, and it really works wonders. Like one rash i had on my cheek, that had been there for weeks, disappeared after 2 days using it.
And there's a thing you could try, for back problems. Really easy thing to do. You can use a blanket, or a tennis ball for this. If you use a ball, cut the ball in two, and while sitting or laying down, have each ball facing with the point toward your back on each side of your spine. You can also use a blanket or whatever to get the same effect. Cheap and easy way to get rid of some of the pain.
I dont remember what types of things you said you tried for constipation, but if you havnt tried Laxoberal, you really should. Never had any problems with it. And you can use it to maintain your constipation. If you dont take alot, and not that often, it only makes things softer, instead of diarhea.
Sorry for the wall of text. I just wanted to help, cause it sounds like you have so much going on that isnt good, so maybe a few things can help improve how you feel.
I really hope they figure out exactly what is wrong with you, the stress of not knowing is the worst, and only makes you feel worse.
(And sorry if my English isnt 100%, im from europe.)